Can Men and Women Be Truly Just Friends?

[SummerChild]

Perfect, don't sleep on women. Pretending to be friends is also one of the ways that many *women* try to get with your man - by pretending that she is trying to be his friend/associate, etc. Many times, she's basically just trying to get close to him so she can become a *apparent* confidante and when you two have an argument, then she seems like she's just a sincere friend when she's like "maybe you two aren't meant for each other." All the while, waiting for her chance.

I have had more than one woman call herself "befriending" my man only to later admit that she was trying to get with him. He now can see these woman more clearly. First, he was taking them at face value. The first one, I suspected right away when she came in town and wanted to meet *me*. Trying to size up what in her twisted mind was the competition. LOL

We just got rid of another one who finally just turned into an all out stalker when she revealed her interest and he let her know it wasn't happening. This stalker has called me at work on occasion, etc. Finally, a police report had to be filed. SMH

So don't sleep on the women.

SC

Originally posted by PerfectVerse06
No ma'am!!

I hate to say it, but I don't think men and women can just be friends.

A guy once told me that there is no such thing as male/female platonic relationships because the guy is just waiting for his chance to get some. Instead of taking the easy approach and just asking a woman out, he plays like he wants to just be pals and THEN, once a friendship is established, he will try make the relationship into something more.

I've experienced this far too many times to know this.

Oh wait, there is an istance where men and women can just be friends...it's when the man is gay!

[MsFoxyLoxy77]

there is a reason why most married couples say their significant other is their BEST FRIEND. Either (a) they started off as friends or (b) their relationship grew to more than just a romantic attraction and they connect on the basis of genuine friendship. I think men and women can be friends. However, I do not think that men and women can just be best friends or even close friends without emotions coming into play.

In fact, if my female friends knew I was writing this right now they would die from laughter. I have a great guy friend whom I confide in as much as a my best friend; in fact, he is my best guy friend. Everyone (and I do mean everyone) including my mother thinks we're secretly dating. It didn't matter how many dates I went on everyone told me we were putting up a front. I used to think everyone had lost they're minds...but a few months ago I realized that it's not everyone else whose crazy...that in between our almost daily conversations there's a lot we don't say to each other.

So...Yes, I think we're both attracted to certain aspects of each other. No, I still have no intention of pursuing a relationship with him...after all he's still one of my best friends and I wouldn't have it any other way. However, if my significant other had a friendship like mine and I didn't think he or the friend could keep the friendship platonic she or he would have to go...that's just how I feel.

[crimsondanger10]

I have two guy friends, one of whom I call my best friend. Both are married with children. Both wives know me, and I have also formed friendships with the wives. We have been friends since high school and I think he (best friend) knows everything about me. I don't THINK either of us have ever thought about "getting with" the other. I have never had problems with any other females, who they formed romantic relationships with, thinking that we would ever "go there."
Of course we get the occasional comments about our friendship, but we both understand "us" and I truly don't think we will ever be anything other than friends.

[squirrely girl]

i'd have to go with a no on this concept - if only from personal experience guy friends (who aren't gay) generally turn into one of the two people wanting some.

and if you started as a fling and the sex was good - you're screwed out of having a true friendship afterwards because at least one of those people is going to want some more.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by squirrely girl

i'd have to go with a no on this concept - if only from personal experience guy friends (who aren't gay) generally turn into one of the two people wanting some.

and if you started as a fling and the sex was good - you're screwed out of having a true friendship afterwards because at least one of those people is going to want some more.

I can't agree with you more . I think it also causes problems in relationships. Like if I was with a girl who had several male friends or if I had several female friends, while involved in a serious relationship. That to me just causes so many problems.