RedefinedDiva, God's Ivy, and SKEEphistAKAte: you have all made very valid points! I'd quote you each specifically, but my post would be waaaaaay too long LOL!!
I agree with you, RedefinedDiva, when you mentioned that there is a posibility that Mr. Perfect may try to control other aspects of my life. It's a scary thought, but it's definitely possible.
Gods Ivy, you are right. A compromise should be discussed and ultimatums shouldn't be thrown around. I just wish that if he truly had an issue about the possibility of me joining a sorority, he could've easily talked to me about how he felt instead of saying "My way or the highway". I don't know what has gotten into him.
And the fact that he isn't my husband is one of the reasons I told him that the sorority would have more appeal in my eyes. I let him know that we don't have that sort of commitment with each other, the type of life long commitment that being a member of a sorority gives its members.
I will quote this question from RefinedDiva, though:
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what would you have done had your man suggested that you forgo ever becoming a member of this sisterhood for him? Could you have done that?
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I'd have to say that, although I love and care about Mr. Perfect, I couldn't forgo trying to become a member of XYZ sorority for him. We've been together for a little over a year now, but my love and pursuit of the organization far surpasses that time frame. Until I knew for sure that there was NO WAY possible for me to become a member at ANY TIME in my life (whether I'm 20 or 60 if I'm extended an invitation), I don't plan on giving up. And if he couldn't understand how important that is to me, then it's apparent that he doesn't know PerfectVerse at all after over a year of knowing one another. I'd hate to lose him, but if he isn't confident in the fact that the love for the sorority wouldn't overshadow my love for him, then it's just not meant to be.
Obviously there are TONS of people who are members of GLOs who have been able to have meaningful relationships and continue to be active members in their respective organizations, so I don't know why Mr. Perfect believes that the only way we both can be happy is if he exits stage left IF I'm even extended an invitiation to join. I'm sure there would be someone out there for me and would be more than willing to accept every aspect of me and my life if Mr. Perfect feels incapable of doing so.
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