"Marriage is for White People" (Today on Michael Baisden)

[AKA_Monet]

Originally posted by tld221
EVERY black marriage i've known in life has ended in divorce:

long story short, i dont know... but i, too, am of the persuasion of no marriage (if you couldnt tell).

I am with others. My parents will be 43 years tomorrow. And my dad--well let's just say my being in his life was payback for all the little crippa-crap he use to do to women back in the day when he was young... You know--when the little boys tell you some bullisht, when I was a teenager, he'd tell me all the stuff that was said and I didn't believe him, till I found out he did it, too when he was young... Then he'd get pissed off with ME when I fell for the gank move by some fool because he saw it from a mile away... He still has a few issues with my husband... But he knows that my husband is a goof-ball nerd that's really smart, who he might see as sneaky...

Whether our marriage will last, I hope so. I know I didn't walk into it with the thought of failure. I walked into it that I would do everything and anything that it would take for it to succeed... I know I can only be responsible for myself and my actions, I cannot control him or his actions, but I do have that expectation. Besides, I hoped that I married someone with 1 personality and high "moral" character--so if something were to happen out of nowhere that he did, because I know I'm not trying to do anything--I have constant past reminders--then, it would be that he has a serious clinical mental illness that requires professional help...

Also, I think that most folks come with these preconceived notions of marriage--I know I did--that just have to either pan out in the marriage or have a real introspective look into oneself about the reasons for those kinds of expectations... Meaning, should the wife work after the baby or should you have children at all, etc...

You have got to know who YOU are before you marry and hopefully before you have kids.

Somehow on a whole, our young people are skipping steps or missing the big picture and that instant gratification thing...