Interracial relationships, the acid test of racism?

[AKA_Monet]

So, I use to live in San Diego, California... Folks called it "white boy heaven" because all the girls were blonde haired and blue eyed... And the black men chased after the same women and got them...

So I don't even have to see "Something New..." because I probably actually lived it.

My girlfriends and I would call it "crossing the street"... On the lines of "sometimes you've gotta cross the street..." Black men failed to speak to us. We, the powerhouse sistahs would have Master's, Doctorate and professional degrees in topics that would blow the minds of most of our contemporaries. Some of us were corporate executives and partners in law firms. Some us were doing the million dollar deals on a daily basis. And we looked exceptionally good--like supermodel status. But if we needed a date, why take Bobo-the-clown-gangsta-rapper with the gold grillz who has a criminal record to a black tie event put on by the Mayor or Governor? And our folks are highly respected in the community, so what do we look like with Bobo?

Most of our elders, especially the women wondered what was wrong with us? Why couldn't we find a good man to marry? Then we could go down the list and say there are none available--unless we decided to "cross the street"...

Now, that was not the easiest thing to do in the world. I think it was fear in most guys eyes. Most men in general do NOT like the "hard sell" to the friends and family--especially if they don't come from a significant background. Many powerhouse sistahs are worked to get were they were from strong support from their families who had high expectations and probably treated them like princesses because they are successfull. Their families expect a "prince"... But as you know statistics, most Black men cannot compare for many reasons, some of it due to institutionalized racism--i.e. the fact a lot of them are caught up in the judicial system, etc, (i.e. Claude Allen)... But there's another part to it... I am unsure what it is now that I am married... Asked me a few years ago and I could tell you what I've endured...

An powerhouse sistah, which I think Sanaa Lathan's character played, is the one that men from other races are not suppose to touch--so goes the stereotype... When I was single, the minute man from another race came upto me or my friends at a bar or a club, all the Black men would bum-rush the guy, force them to leave making him very nervous. I remember dancing with a rather attractive guy who was caucasian and was going to talk to him after the song was done, but the Black men told him he cannot speak to me--I was off-limits... Meanwhile, they can talk to all the caucasian girls they want, leaving me and my girlfriends in the lurch... Talk about double standards...

So, do I think its racist for a caucasian guy to not want to try to date a woman outside of his ethnic purview? Well Cashmoney was blunt about it, he will only seriously date and marry blonde-haired, blue-eyed women because he wants his children to look like that... Would I call him a racist because of it? No. An idiot? Yes, but a racist--that's what he wants...

But you have to see it from the sistah's side, too... Some sistah's are fearful moreso...