Men and unplanned pregnancies

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I kind of see both sides of the arguement.

Obviously if you're going to have sex BOTH parties need to be RESPONSIBLE and take the necessary precautions if they don't want to get pregnant.

That being said, we are in an age where the pendulum has swung more in favor of the women. Which is a good thing and a bad thing. It is definately good because women have been fighting for equal rights (and are still fighting to this day) on reproductive control of their bodies.

Now, I'm very pro-choice, but abortion isn't for everyone. Adoption isn't even for everyone. For some women their only choice is to have the child.

The bad is that we have been given quite a bit of power. I don't feel it is fair to "force" anyone to do anything they don't want to do. If the man is willing to sign away his rights to the child, he shouldn't be forced to pay child support. Enough said. Now, if he is actually actively involved in the upbringing of the child, yeah he should pay child support.

I've never had an unplanned pregnancy, so I can't imagine what women who do are thinking or feeling, but I can say that if I did get pregnant and the guy wanted nothing to do with his child, I can't say I'd want his money. Yeah, money puts food on the table and a roof over the head but money doesn't buy love. Plus, if I were to get pregnant, my family would give my child so much love he/she wouldn't need to worry or want. I'd rather not have anything to do with the man if he wants nothing to do with his child and that includes monitarily.

Now, I'm probably in a total minority with my latter thats and that's fine. There are going to be women who just want the money and don't even care that he is never there, I can't change that.

I just feel men should be given more options it shouldn't just be the cut and dry "you're going to pay child support, whether you see the child or not". It should be "you pay child support, you get to see your child" or "you sign away your rights to the child and you don't pay a cent".

Those are just my thoughts.

Agree with me, disagree with me, just respect my opinion.