I_Love_Penguins' Rush Experience

[xoheatherxo]

sorry to hear what happened, but as others have said, everything happens for a reason. take this semester to concentrate on your schoolwork and raise your gpa. even if you dont want to rush in the fall, getting your gpa up even higher than it is is always a good thing! and you never know--you might end up wanting to rerush in the fall and may fall in love with a different house! or you may rerush and decide that greek life isnt for you. or you may just decide that you dont want to rush again. i know its going to be hard to hang out with the girls that got bids to the sorority that you wanted to be in, but try to maintain the friendships. i transferred in a spring semester and rushed the following fall, so i had already made a bunch of friends before i rushed. after i rushed the girls that didnt rush or didnt get a bid were distant and it was hard. just trying to let you know that its just as awkward to them as it is for you. but definetely be supportive of their situations as im sure theyll try to be supportive of yours. good luck with everything and keep us updated if you decide to rush again in the fall!

[I_Love_Penguins]

Bumping this back up with an update...

I was looking back on my thread and it was actually amazing to relive rush from the spring semester! I know that sounds strange because I didn't have a happy ending, but it was still an experience I'm glad I had. Still can't believe that almost seven months has gone by since I went through everything. And I was even looking back at my postings of sadness going "Wow I can't believe I wrote all this!"

My grades did improve last semester. Not drastically but if memory serves me correctly, I think my GPA was around a 3.1 or a 3.2.

Over the summer, an incoming freshman messaged me on Myspace figuring she could look to me for help getting to know the campus and getting adjusted. So I've been helping her with some of the activities that are out there, and even though I'm a GDI, I told her about my rush experience and what our Greek system is like. I'm not sure if she's going to rush next semester (at our school first semester freshmen can't rush), but it was nice to be able to educate people about what it's like.

Here on campus, all the sororities are starting to put up their rush banners again. It brings back a feeling of excitement for me.

I'm a junior now and I've decided that this semester I'm not going to go through formal rush. I am pretty busy with a 17 credit courseload, a 3-4 day per week part time job, and an assistant editor/staff writer position with the school paper. However...

I will go through COB if I can find out the dates. I just keep checking back with the websites for Greek Life and the school news/events page because that's where dates are posted. Rush starts next week(?) I think. I just don't have time to call off from work and drop my responsibilities to go through all the nights of rush. But I will do COBs for some sororities if possible. If I COB and don't get a bid, then I will just move forward with my life.

If I can't COB, that is OK too. I've had enough time to get over the upset of not being bid. I've realized being in a sorority is a great thing to do, but not the be all/end all of college and there are plenty of other things to do. I might take up dance ensemble this year...I went to their recital in April and now that is something I'm interested in.

Well I don't know who will read this but I figured since it's that time of year, I'd bump this up and give anyone who's interested an update. And I'll certainly let everyone know if I go through COB.

[gphiangel624]

That's awesome news. I think you have a GREAT attitude and hope it works out for you this year.

Good luck!

[honeychile]

I_Love_Penguins, you're already a Recruitment Success! If you COB a house you love, I surely hope that you get a bid. Your attitude is to be envied!

[AlexMack]

I went through informal, fell in love with one house and never got asked back for pref. I wrote off the other sorority I went to because I didn't feel a connection initially.
Later on, I emailed their recruitment chair, asked about COB and they took me out for coffee and then I found they'd signed a bid for me before they picked me up.
COB is a wonderful, informal setting. I definitely think you should try for COB, and if not, it sounds like you've already carved a niche for yourself on campus. You really do have the greatest attitude and any sorority would be lucky to have you

[AChiOhSnap]

Oh good! Please keep me posted, I so enjoyed hearing your story. Best of luck to you!

[BadSquirrelBeta]

Good luck in whatever you choose. Great effort with your academics!! Keep us informed !!