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Originally posted by Buttonz
 So not the type of wedding I woud want to be at....
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Then you probably wouldn't want to go to this type of wedding either.
Dear Prudie,
Please help settle a debate I am having with my boyfriend. Friends of ours are getting married at a small wedding in their backyard, with immediate family only. After the ceremony, they are inviting friends over for a big informal BBQ to celebrate. They sent out an invitation that stated gifts were not expected, but listed their registries for those who were interested. The invitation also stated that they would have a tip jar out to raise money for a down payment on a house. I think a tip jar at a wedding is tacky. My boyfriend thinks it's no different than the Polish bridal dance (a tradition where guests make a donation to dance a final dance with the bride). Prudie, please help me to explain the difference.
—Critical of the Tip Jar
Dear Crit,
A tip jar? At a wedding? One wonders what service they will be performing for which they expect tips. "Tacky" doesn't say it, honey. At least this Polish bridal dance you speak of has a tradition tied to it, though Prudie has never heard of it. So tell your boyfriend that the difference between his example and a "tip jar" is that, at least at the Polish wedding, one pays to dance with the bride by custom. You might also point out that it would have to be some big jar, with a lot of wealthy (and willing) guests, to make the down payment on a house. And there's a list of registries, yet. Prudie is appalled.
—Prudie, dazedly
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