How do you get romance back

[WCUgirl]

Originally posted by AlphaXiGirl
Just recently, my husband and I both read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

It's really good and was very informative for both of us.

I had never thought about the different ways that people "speak" love before this. It does explain why some girls just love a phone call, flowers or a card and others would prefer a back rub, doing the laundry, or a nice Sunday drive up the parkway. And it applies to men as well.

In addition, it addresses the "in love" vs. "love" thing.

I'd recommend it to anyone asking.

haha, I was going to bring up this book, but thought it would be too "mushy" for James.

I was quite surprised...I read this book after a friend recommended it to me (well, okay, I haven't finished it yet...but I will eventually). But anyways, I was talking about it w/ another friend one night at dinner...and Mike (husband) was there w/ us. He said, "What is this you're talking about?" and I said, "Oh, nothing. Just this book that was recommended to me and I started reading it." He then proceeds to tell me that he knows exactly what I'm talking about b/c he saw it laying on our dresser and started reading it himself when he couldn't sleep one night! I was so shocked that he actually took the initiative to check this out for himself. Neither of us have finished reading it yet...but what I've read so far is pretty helpful, and I also would recommend it to anyone.

[AlphaXiGirl]

Great minds... and great sisters think alike.

You're right... much too mushy for James.

[Optimist Prime]

He's probably out of ideas. I can give him some, but if I tell you, it will be ruined.

[KellyB369]

Sorry if this is a bit of hijack but I heard this song last night and it made me think of this thread and your situations...women just need attention...duh

Shake the Sugar Tree - Pam Tillis (full lyrics)
Love, you're getting lazy
You're forgettin' to give me
Sweet sugar words that I wanna hear
You've been neglectin' me
You know jealously, it is a bitter as a green spring berry

And just like fruit from a fickle vine
You turn sweet in the nick of time
Love you only come alive when you're losin' me
And it's a childish game
I've got to shake you up just to wake you up
To make you love me

I'll shake the sugar tree
Til I feel your love fallin' all around me
You've got to tend to what you planted
And if you take my love for granted baby
I'll shake the sugar tree

[curiousgrl]

This is way late and all...

But a wise ATO once told me

"Be the change you want to see"

Try it, you'll be surprised at how many times it works.

[Allie]

So true...

I just passed the same words along to a friend earlier this week!

[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Originally posted by AOIIsilver
In his flashes of brilliance, he is a rare find indeed. For example, last year on my birthday, I went to AOII IHQ to give a tour to a friend. When I walked in the door, everyone there knew it was my birthday. I was presented with a rose-wrapped box containing a jeweled 1945 AOII badge from my chapter!

I have to say I'm really impressed.

[LightBulb]

Originally posted by curiousgrl
But a wise ATO once told me

"Be the change you want to see"

Great advice, and he was quoting Ghandi.