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Originally posted by crzychx
I believe the whole point of the bridesmaids dressing alike is so that they do not detract attention from the bride. But its silly to ask several women of different body types & styles to wear the same thing considering it could attract all sorts of bad attention to the women who don't wear it well.
My sister picked colors & a designer & then allowed us all to pick our own so that we matched but weren't dressed exactly alike. Its the best way to go.
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That's definitely part of it - if you have one girl in a long pink dress and another in a short peach dress it will be distracting. I remember reading an etiquette book saying that the reason the bride picked out bridesmaids' dresses is because if she waited for over 3 women to agree on all the details of their appearance she would never get married. Obviously she must have been to a rush party or two as well.
When I was little, I used to see bridesmaids wearing different colors of the same dress, but that seems to have gone by the wayside. The same fabric thing is a good idea, but not everyone has access to that and it's also more expensive.
I think most women will try to be considerate and choose simple things for their maids to wear that flatter everyone to a point, but there are "bridezillas" out there that have given everyone a bad name and who do deliberately pick crappy dresses. I was at a wedding of someone who normally has exquisite taste and the bridesmaid dresses were the most hideous, cheap looking, ugly colored (they were a really muddy midnight blue) things I have ever seen.
If you want to have friends after the wedding, don't screw them before.
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