How Important Is Education In Love

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by KSigkid
Maybe not education, but intelligence is important. If you can't sit down and have a discussion with someone, it will be tough to be with them day after day. That's not saying that you have to have equal education levels, but intelligence levels should be similar.

Yes.

I have a number of close friends who never went to college (a few who dropped out of high school and ended up getting their GEDs later), and they are all highly intelligent -- moreso than some of my friends that are in college. At the end of the day, I can have a better, more interesting conversation with them than I can with some of the people I've known who are in college but are, honestly, pretty dull. I can't say that the same would necessarily apply in a romantic relationship, but I'm guessing it would.

You have to understand that just because someone is well-educated does not mean that they value education. In fact, sometimes it's just the opposite. In another year I'll have my college degree, and I may even go back to grad school, but I don't value education such as it's defined in the United States. I value learning and curiosity and the love of figuring out new things, but I don't particularly admire somebody who has the dedication to sleep through Astronomy 101 and cram just enough to pass the final, you know? Having a college education depends more on finances and the type of family you were raised with than it does on your intelligence.

To me, this just seems like kind of a "young" problem. Don't take that the wrong way, because I know many people in their early/mid-20s who are wondering about this question too. Once you get further removed from the college environment, this becomes less of a big deal -- as long as your priorities are similar in other aspects. (In other words, his job/attitude towards education may be a side effect of the issue and not the issue itself -- the real issue may be with how you deal with someone who is laid-back and "carefree" when you may not be that way yourself.)