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Originally posted by cashmoney
How would I take it if some of my friends suggested I go to therapy if I was just a little whacked out because of whats been happening at the moment? I'd be pissed that my friends are basically telling me I'm pyscho instead of being a real friend and trying to help me themselves.
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At the moment? Her mom died last year and you still are finding reasons to be concerned, that should say something.
***speaking very gently***
Yeah, you could be a friend and have her talk to you....then what? If she's got some majorly deep stuff going on (like, say an impending coke addiction and a traumatic death) what are you going to do with the info? She's a little more relieved having talked about it, but you can't do anything about it. Therapy is where you go talk to someone. Period. They don't lock you away or shove meds down your throat, you just talk. The only difference between her talking to you or a therapist is that if there's something really wrong, a therapist can help fix it. S/he can teach her how to cope safely, how to gain more control over her life. It may include medication, but unless she's got a mental disorder (which bereavement is not), it probably won't. You can listen to her, but you can't give her the means to do any of that. So what would a real friend do...what's best for her or what's convenient for you both? Don't judge her condition by how she's feeling now that she's back in control, think about what you saw when she wasn't. Because, from what you described, she
will feel that way again, more strongly and more frequently. Are you willing to risk that? It's obvious how much you care about her and want her to be alright. This alone shows that you already are a good friend.
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