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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
sidenote: What's WITH all these girls getting upset over bridesmaids choices? (Sandy, excluding you -- you're clearly upset over the way the bride handled telling you, vs. her decision.) IT'S THE BRIDE AND GROOM'S WEDDING. Don't you think THEY would know better than anyone else who they're close to? And who knows what else is going into these decisions -- maybe the bride felt obligated b/c she'd been a bridesmaid to someone else. Maybe the bride felt like asking a specific bridesmaid would bring them closer. Maybe the bride couldn't choose between two women and knew one of them wouldn't make the issue into a federal case. WHO KNOWS? IT'S NOT YOUR WEDDING!
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On the sidenote: It's not just the bridal party - there are people who "expect" to be invited to the wedding, and then end up being truly upset when they're not. Unfortunately, there are those who think money is no object and that every person you've been friends with can be invited to the wedding; it's just not the case. Not everyone can be in the bridal party, and not everyone can be invited to the wedding. On one hand, it's nice that so many people care about the wedding; on the other, though, it causes conflict.
As for your situation Sandy - that just seems like an awful way of handling things on the bride's part. If she had no intention of having you as part of the bridal party, she should have relayed that to you when you were giving her all that help. Common sense should have told her that if someone is doing that much work, and they're not going to be a bridesmaid, she should have told that to you right away. Also, to have another bridesmaid deliver the message is weak, at best. You're upset and have a right to be upset.
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