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Old 05-07-2005, 06:06 PM
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I agree with the other Kappa Sigs and say its a cop out. A convenient line.

Although there may be a different root cause than a simple "Someone doesn't like someone enough."

My read on most of the situations I have seen is that its a matter of safety. Risk aversion. FEAR.

If you know they will sever the friendship if you don't date them, you might date them because you fear the pain of losing them.

If you can continue the relationship, you might not date them because you are afraid it might not work. The "half of loaf being better than none" theory which is another form of fear.

If someone is that kind of person, I am not sure how strong they are internally. Its a way of approaching life by minimizing the perception of risk.

Its like trying to become friends with people you are attracted to first and then hope it develops into more.

ITs playing it safe.

Because ultimately, no matter how well you know the other person, you don't know what a relationship will be like between you.
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