We must remember that ILoveMyMan may not be familiar with the protocol of certain Greek organizations.
Some relationships survive a pledging experience, some don't. It all depends on the maturity level of both partners, the independent as well as the potential new member. It's not "high-maintenance tendencies" or "self-esteem". A lot of people are immature and can't handle their significant other going through a process that requires secrecy (especially if there is normally a lot of open communication in the relationship) and often results in increased attention from the opposite sex.
So, ILoveMyMan, the best of luck. It may be hard, but if you two are meant to be, it will work out for the best. I'd say the best thing to do is to be there for him, and the rewards will be well worth the sacrifices.
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