jungle fever

[bellydancer]

Hello,
I am not a greek and I have a question for all the sistas. I have always dated within and outside my own race. I am a black woman. I have just been feeling lately like black men are neglecting black women. I am not saying they should stick to their own kind because what is good for the goose is good for the gander. It just seems to me that a lot of black men won't deal with a sister now adays. What is wrong with them? Maybe I am the one that is tripping, but these are my men and I feel like they are beginning to hate black women by their actions toward black women. One brother even told me that he don't wanna bother with black women because we talk too much sh!t. Why? Somebody tell me why?

[thatgirl]

Black men are good men, period. They have choices just like I do. I know I get on my OWN nerves sometimes, so I can understand a man not wanting to be bothered. I say to each his own. And anyway, half of the men that I see with *other* women are not those that I would be interested in for myself.

[dyhardque]

Well said "that girl"

[carebear]

Well personally it is irritating when I see a blk man w/ a white woman or any other race for that matter but I then realize if the tables were turned I would date out of my race as well. That is personal choice and I'm sure this cliche' has been put out there before, that love has no color.

[Professor]

If we could only have a three way call right now.

I become pissed when I see brothers, even more so if it is a frat brother, with a white woman that is dumb as H_ L L and looks like Sh_T! If I choose to date a white woman, which is highly unlikely, she would have movie star looks and a mega brain!!! There are sisters, AKAs, DSTs, etc., that are brilliant, beautiful, and supportive black women and THAT'S WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR!!!

"00000000666666"

[This message has been edited by Professor (edited July 21, 2000).]

[Spotlight4Delta]

I really don't care. If people want to date outside of their race, that's fine with me. I just have a problem when poeple date people of other races b/c of negative reasons, such as all black women have attitudes and all white women are easy.

[Spotlight4Delta]

I really don't care. If people want to date outside of their race, that's fine with me. I just have a problem when poeple date people of other races b/c of negative reasons, such as all black women have attitudes and all white women are easy.

[DELTABRAT]

Hello Sorors,SFsand Brothahs:

I do have a problem with dating outside of your race. I particularly have a problem with men who EXCLUSIVELY date outside of the race. I'll be teed off if a brothah walked past me (without acknowledging me in the slightest) to get to Sally on the other side of the room. I agree with the statement about people who date outside because of negative feelings about people in your own race. I find it HIGHLY hypocritical. "I would never date Black women because they are too loud, too fat, etc." I've heard this and I immediately think "What does your loud, fat, Black mama think about this?"

I'm done now because I could go on for DAYS...literally.

PEACE ALL

[dyhardque]

To each his own, but for me and my house, it could only be a sistah. A soul sistah. There is nothing more beautiful than a black woman; nothing stronger than a black man. Nothing better than a black family. Growing up in a black family is a unique experience. Although I do not pass judgements when I see a mixed couple, I do notice. I find myself thinking, there's one less black family, and that does bother me. I think that black families are special and there is so much a we can accomplish when we work together. Anyway, to each his own but my heart will go to a soul sistah

And I'm gone
roof

[kingtut]

i am going to try to approach this topic as nicely as possible. Professor i got mad luv for you bruh but i disagree with you and dyhardque. i may be called stupid or a sale-out fot this,but i think seeing a family together(black and black or white and black)is a beautiful thing considering how many of us grew up in single family homes.I am not a shame to say that girlfriend of the past 3 years is white and a member of Delta sigma theta the only white member of her chapter and we have a lot in common. don't get me wrong i love all my black women especially those AKA's and those DST's because i was raised by a black woman but i shouldn't be hated because my girl is white.

One Love,
"000000000000006"

[Sexy Mocha]

Originally posted by DELTABRAT:
Hello Sorors,SFsand Brothahs:

I do have a problem with dating outside of your race. I particularly have a problem with men who EXCLUSIVELY date outside of the race. I'll be teed off if a brothah walked past me (without acknowledging me in the slightest) to get to Sally on the other side of the room. I agree with the statement about people who date outside because of negative feelings about people in your own race. I find it HIGHLY hypocritical. "I would never date Black women because they are too loud, too fat, etc." I've heard this and I immediately think "What does your loud, fat, Black mama think about this?"

I'm done now because I could go on for DAYS...literally.

PEACE ALL

Girl! You extracted the thoughts right out of my head....the words right out of my mouth....You have NEVER lied!!
I was hesitant about responding to this (which is VERY rare for me!)...because, like you, I can literally go on forever about this topic. Just as I couldn't stay silent any longer and decided to reply...I read your post and was like "Nuff said"

[MIDWESTDIVA]

I have mixed feelings on this issue. On one hand I'm all for finding a soulmate. If you find someone that makes you happy, respects you, etc. that is wonderful. If you just happen to fall in love with someone outside of your race, that is fine. However, I have a SERIOUS problem with Black men that refuse to date Black women. I especially have a problem with these multi-million dollar athletes that think once they reach a certain income bracket, the Right woman is a White woman.

Let me add, I have nothing against white women at all. I can see why they would find Black men attractive. I certainly do. But why would a Black man not find any of us equally attractive?

[Resplendent_Maria]

I don't agree with someone dating another race exclusively just because of silly reasons. But if a person finds love in someone, no matter what race he or she might be, they should have the right to persue that relationship without being shunned by others.

[HopefulProspective]

You hit the nail right on the head. I live in a community where there are many mixed relationships. Most of them happen to be black men with white women. But 75% of those men, I wouldn't be interested in anyway. I have heard black men say that black women are just too much to handle !! Well, I believe that If I am too much to handle, I DON'T NEED A SLOW BROTHER!!!

I can care less about a black man dating a white woman (and vice versa), as long as it is a preference and not a prejudice. The bottom line is that everyone has their preferences. The brothas that I get pissed with are the ones that choose not to date black women because they feel we are too agressive, loud, ignorant, or whatever other stereotypes they give us.

Do we get mad at brothas who PREFER to only date light-skinned women? Do we get mad at sistahs who PREFER to date dark-skinned men? The answer is probably yes and no. If we get mad at blacks who have a preference to date whites, we should also get mad at blacks who choose to date blacks of a certain shade (same thing).

Personally, I have never and will never date a white man. That's not because I am prejudice against them...that's what I PREFER.