Are you close to your Big/Lil?

[lucgreek]

My big and I are pretty decent friends. We talk from time to time.

I had a good relationship with my first little until he started becoming unreliable and stopped attending events. I invited him to a lot of places and tried to get him involved more, but this didn't really work. He only became good friends with a couple people in the chapter. These 'good friends' ended up causing trouble with the rest of the chapter and left on their own. My little told me at the end of his freshman year he was going inactive to focus on school work, since he had a rough first year. I tried to help him with study habits but those didn't work, he kept putting things off last minute and pulling multiple all-nighters. He tells me during rush week he needs to leave because people he liked left and he needed to focus on schoolwork. Later I find out he joined a club sport team that travels frequently, so eh. He also lost one of my lettered hoodies.

My second little and I got along well and I helped him a lot with the pledge process and tried to be a mentor. Later I find out he actually didn't think too highly of me (after asking him about it I never did get an actual reason). We grew apart and rarely spoke to each other (Though he stayed active).

I was asked to take up a little again and I declined, considering my track record.

[perfectinpurple]

My big and I are not close at all. Neither are my little and I ,but I'm hoping to change that this year, as both me and my little will be living in and our rooms are right next to each other!

I also have a "pledge son" (my best guy friend's little bro) who I get along great with!

[steelerbear]

My big and I were never all that close, sadly. Our bigs and littles were worked out to be mutual matches, which I always appreciated. But honestly, my #1 choice for a big got a little who relinquished her membership within a few months... and since my big and I weren't really close to each other, I've always had that slight chip on my shoulder. My twin, who was initiated two years after I was, was already best friends with my big, so what little relationship I had with my big dwindled even more. That was painful.

My first little is completely awesome, but she and I never really clicked as much as I'd hoped. But because of the sense of almost abandonment I got when my big took another little, I talked to my little before taking a second one. I told her who I was hoping to take (and I'd made it clear I only wanted a specific girl, not anybody else in her class), she said go for it, and I did. My first little and I are similar to my big and me--we're family, but we don't really talk. In fact, my first little moved about 45 minutes away from me about a year ago and didn't even tell me--you can imagine how upset about that I still am.

My second little, though, she and I might still live 500 miles apart, but I'd say we're still extremely close--even though she relinquished her membership. Mine is pretty far from the ideal sorority family, but they're all still my sisters, and I still love them all.