Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

I afraid that I have not so great news this morning.

Cassie was cut by all of her top 7 choices.

She has 3 invites for skit day.

(1)Strawberry--Which she likes the girls, but has heard that they are a party group, and that worries her.

(2)Chunky Monkey--Which is actually supposedly one of the better groups, but she has not felt at home there all week.

(3) Cookie Dough--Which she says she will definitely not pledge.

She was obviously upset this morning, and feels like everyone else will have a full schedule, which I tried to assure her was not true.

I tried to urge her to go through the day with a positive attitude and try to see how she might fit in with either of the first two groups. I think we are both worried that she might not get any invites for the preference round, but i guess we will worry about that tomorrow.

AUMom, My niece went through recruitment 6 years ago at a competitive PAC 10 school. She had the perfect recruitment up until Pref where she was dropped from every group she LOVED and left with 2 groups that she thought were just ok. I got a phone call in tears over what she should do, what happened ect. I told her she had 2 options. She sticks it out and attends the 2 preference parties and makes a decision then OR she could drop out and forget about being Greek and move on. She chose option number 1. She pledged this group and the weird thing is it was a perfect fit for her. She didn't realize it at the time. She still is wistful for one group on campus (which cracks me up), but she has now graduated. She had a wonderful sorority experience and made life long friends in the process. BTW, she is as crazy about recruitment as I am

I feel for your daughter. It is so hard when your kids have disappointments in life. I always want to take away all the hurt. I think your daughter has a good chance of moving forward and I hope she gets to know her remaining groups better. Hang in there!

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

I afraid that I have not so great news this morning.

Cassie was cut by all of her top 7 choices.

She has 3 invites for skit day.

(1)Strawberry--Which she likes the girls, but has heard that they are a party group, and that worries her.

(2)Chunky Monkey--Which is actually supposedly one of the better groups, but she has not felt at home there all week.

(3) Cookie Dough--Which she says she will definitely not pledge.

She was obviously upset this morning, and feels like everyone else will have a full schedule, which I tried to assure her was not true.

I tried to urge her to go through the day with a positive attitude and try to see how she might fit in with either of the first two groups. I think we are both worried that she might not get any invites for the preference round, but i guess we will worry about that tomorrow.

I think she should "worry" - that's not the right word - think about it - today. Try to look at it this way - she can concentrate on the groups that at first, she probably didn't pay too much attention to. If she has specific reasons why she doesn't like them, perhaps she can try to tactfully find out if they are just assumptions, or if they truly are "not for her". If she wants to be Greek, she needs to be open to the choices in front of her.

I understand her disappointment, but some girls might have none. It takes ONE. If she's enthusiastic about learning more about theses three groups, she might open her heart to a group of girls she otherwise would have dismissed.

Her perception of "party group" is based on...what? Tent talk? I guarantee in that in the "party sorority" of 150-200 members, maybe 10-15% are hard-core partiers (and I'm guessing on the high side). What about the other 85-90%? Find connections in the girls who aren't majoring in "party".

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I think she should "worry" - that's not the right word - think about it - today. Try to look at it this way - she can concentrate on the groups that at first, she probably didn't pay too much attention to. If she has specific reasons why she doesn't like them, perhaps she can try to tactfully find out if they are just assumptions, or if they truly are "not for her". If she wants to be Greek, she needs to be open to the choices in front of her.

I understand her disappointment, but some girls might have none. It takes ONE. If she's enthusiastic about learning more about theses three groups, she might open her heart to a group of girls she otherwise would have dismissed.

Her perception of "party group" is based on...what? Tent talk? I guarantee in that in the "party sorority" of 150-200 members, maybe 10-15% are hard-core partiers (and I'm guessing on the high side). What about the other 85-90%? Find connections in the girls who aren't majoring in "party".

Cosign. She's a lot luckier than some other girls. She needs to get rid of ALL her preconceptions and pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

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(3) Cookie Dough--Which she says she will definitely not pledge.

I am sorry she is disappointed, it's a tough week for sure. It is FAR too early in the game for her to say she will definitely NOT pledge a certain group. With 200+ members, there is something for everyone in each of these chapters. Encourage her to see that her opinions can change, sometimes drastically with each round, and Cookie Dough might actually turn out to be a great fit for her. Good luck to all of them.

[AuburnDad]

Emma texted. There is good news and bad news.

The good news is that she has a full slate of 7 for Skit Day!

The bad news is that she was cut by two of her favorities, the Diamondbacks and the Blue Jays. She was particularly surprised by the Blue Jays because so many of them came up to her to talk to her during her last visit.

Today she will visit the following, again in no particular order:

Angels
Dodgers
Rays
Reds
Cardinals
Cubs
Angels
Pirates

She still has two of her favorites left, and does like something about each of the remaining groups she has left.

I hope to update again to tonight.

[TexasSK]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

moms and dads-suggest that your daughters drink hot tea with lemon or lime and honey after the parties. it will do them good.

I will pray for world peace, food, shelter and clean water for everyone in the world, relief for all who are suffering in any way, for good luck for the auburn pnms and all the other pnms at other schools AND for regina.george to just go away.

Well said! Cassie, Emma & Suzie will be in my prayers!

aumom, I'm sorry that Cassie's feeling down about her invites. When I rushed and was cut from my top choice, I was given the words, "go where you're wanted, why would you want someone who doesn't want you?" and that really made all the difference in the world. I knew that the girls who would become my sisters had invited me because they wanted me to be there. It was a warm fuzzy for me during a tough emotional time.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AuburnDad

Emma texted. There is good news and bad news.

The good news is that she has a full slate of 7 for Skit Day!

The bad news is that she was cut by two of her favorities, the Diamondbacks and the Blue Jays. She was particularly surprised by the Blue Jays because so many of them came up to her to talk to her during her last visit.

Today she will visit the following, again in no particular order:

Angels
Dodgers
Rays
Reds
Cardinals
Cubs
Angels
Pirates

She still has two of her favorites left, and does like something about each of the remaining groups she has left.

I hope to update again to tonight.

Yay! Someplace where the Pirates are still in the running in mid-August! Bada bing, bada boom. (It's easier if you laugh at yourself before someone else does it.)

Originally Posted by volalum

from this point on- GPA and resume doesnt really matter that much- looking for personality and if rushee fits in with the group!

This thread is for Auburn rush, not Tennessee. Please don't make assertions that may not be true outside your own campus experience.

[AZTheta]

At 17 (or 18 or 19), life's disappointments are incredibly painful because we don't yet have the experience or resilience built up to understand that everything happens for a purpose, which may or may not be easily discerned. There are so many "firsts" to go through which shape and form us into the people we are to become.

And as parents we want to protect and shield our children; it is also difficult to trust the process. We do not want our children to hurt, although we know that life does hold bumps and bruises as well as elation and joy. How many times did I have to hear "life is lived forwards, understood backwards" before I truly understood and accepted what that meant? When you're in the moment, it's not easy to apply that. Believe me, I know.

My heartfelt belief is that "our" Greek Chat Auburn parents and daughters will find the strength to follow the paths they've set out upon, because I've been touched by the stories they've shared thus far. I am sending you all strength, confidence, and best intentions for outcomes (that may surprise you - how many times have we read about surprises? lots!). Please know that I am thinking of you all (as well as all the other young women and parents who may be reading this while going through recruitment), and I've been privileged to share your stories.

Deep peace to everyone.

[perfectinpurple]

While it may be a little disappointing, I'm sure all the chapters she'll visit today are still wonderful chapters to belong to. Good luck to her, and I hope she finds her home at the end of the week!

[AUMOMMY]

It is so hard for the girls on either side of the process to get a true picture of what the other is like in such a short timeframe.

[BSCAXOalum]

What a great point someone said about "why would you want to be in a group that doesn't want you?" I will pass this along to my Bama PNM that is having a tough rush. My AU PNM cousin has 7 to go to. She was cut by her legacy house but we saw it coming. She has her favorite in the mix, another one she really likes, another middle ground option and a few she doesn't feel she would pledge. Hugs to all of those who are stressing for their favorite PNM. What a nerve wracking week!

[MerryGPhiB]

HI all-

I just got a text from Suzie, she said it was a bit hectic. She did receive a full 7 for today but was released from two she really liked.

I suggested that she go through today with " fresh new glasses" and look beyond the fluff and look for , sisterhood, how she could become involved.

Her houses today are
49ers
Saints
Panthers
Bears
Broncos
Raiders
Rams

As many of us on GC know, taking a second look is a good thing. Best wishes to all today.

[ellebud]

RE: the "party house". A friend of my daughter, not at her school, went through recruitment in the midwest. She was told which were the "good houses, bad houses, and the slutty party houses."

So, she made a faux pas: After being released from her favorites she went to her rho chi, crying that she was only invited back to the party slutty houses. (This girl is very understated and only drank on Passover.) Her rho chi, a fabulous young woman from the Mom's description, told her quietly that the reps weren't necessarily correct. In fact, some things were just rumors started by vindictive girls.

Moving on....Friend stuck it out and pledged "just to see." Were there a few partyiers in the house? Yes. Most of the girls, including her rho chi, were very nice, fairly conservative girls. She fit right in to the conservative group. And she is happy.

[gardensyl]

For Cassie, Suzie and Emma, this is the part of recruitment that is so hard, when favorite houses let you go, or when you feel you have few choices. My daughter had a similar experience as freshman too, and as a parent, it's so difficult to see them upset. My advice is to encourage your girls to be as open minded as possible and remember that they've only met a handful of the girls in each house. Just take each day as it comes and try not to get too set on one particular house. All of the sororities at Auburn have good points, as well as bad, but you can find a niche of close friends in any of them if you're open to the experience.

[FSUZeta]

anxiously awaiting what cassie, emma and suzie thought about the day, and if they have any new favorites!