UGA Recruitment Winds Down - Page 7

SWTXBelle · #1 08-18-2008, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by GreekAlphaSoup

Well, I'll weigh in on this one....I agree that there should be a better way (but understand that due to numbers there may not be.) It seems to me as if relying on computers to work the numbers allows positively awesome girls to fall through the cracks. Situation I learned this week: a top girl in our community was a legacy to her mom's sorority and her sister's....two top sororities on campus, she naturally put them in her top two spots. When cut from those two legacy chapters, she got six parties from the next six spots on her list (I believe). Now....if after 3rd round, she is cut and left with only, say, 1 pref, she now has no chance to re-think or re-visit sororities 9-17? Because she "cut them"? I don't get it? Or, worse still, if she receives no bid, she cannot be "snapped" because she cut a group???? I'm so confused!

"Back in the day", didn't we get our invite list and then narrow that list down based on the number of openings? For example, if we were invited 12 places, but could pick 8, we chose our top 8. Next day, perhaps we were only invited to 6 but could choose 6, we'd take them all, right?

Is my memory fuzzy? It just feels backwards from what I can recall (granted that was many moons and margaritas ago).

Depends on the school's system. Some schools allow you to "regret with interest" - so say you have 8 invites, but can only accept 6. RWI allows you to list the other 2, and they have the option of extending you another invite in the next roung - so say the next round you can accept 4, but only have 3. You have the option of accepting an invitation to the chapters who you RWI if they wish to extend an invite to you.

ellebud · #2 08-18-2008, 05:54 PM

Dear Greek Stress:

As a mom I know the hours of stress and what ifs. As I said in my thread about my rush in the early 70's I went into a house where the girl and I had no interest in each other. Not her fault or mine...it happens. And yes, by day 3 or 4 everyone is exhausted and can say/do things that would not be to their advantage...but everyone is under the same stressful conditions.

And lest you think that I don't know...as a mother....how awful rush can be: The night before Pref my daughter (who just graduated from college and is just fine) was dropped from the house that she wanted to pledge because her Active accidently came out to her. (Told my daughter that she is a lesbian). Since she had been rushed "hard" as they put it in my day (the President/Rush Chairman/best girls and her best friend) were always coming over to say hi...I can't imagine what was said in the meeting by the Active. But it was over. And she moved on. I never said a word about what if to her...just I am so sorry. (And trust me I wanted to say more.

) And girls at this age can be brainless/rude....

Bamamom13 · #3 08-18-2008, 05:55 PM

Greek Stress, I understand you are unhappy because your daughter did not get her first choice. As a mom, we hurt when our children hurt. But this year my daughter was on the other side for the first time and I can assure you, she is not 'wicked'. Your daughter probably got more sleep as a PNM than my daughter did as an active. I am sure she spent many hours fighting for the girls she really wanted to be new members as did all of her sisters. They are trying to do their best, and help make the best decisions for their chapters. They know how your daughter felt. They have been PNMs. They are dealing with as much stress as the PNMs. Read what GeorgiaDad said. He put it perfectly.

Greek Stress · #4 08-18-2008, 05:55 PM

Thanks for your constructive and kind words MerryGPhiB

MerryGPhiB · #5 08-18-2008, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Greek Stress

Thanks for your constructive and kind words MerryGPhiB

You are most welcome- please know we are all here to help even if sometimes we don't read it that way. It is tough on both sides, I still volunteer for Gamma Phi Beta in recruitment and know that being greek is WONDERFUL and it's not perfect. It is what we make out of it.

Great joys to you and your daughter!

axoalum · #6 08-18-2008, 06:16 PM

Soup, you are not fuzzy. I actually kept my print out cards from rush (seriously!) and looked at them today after we talked. It looks like we got the list of who asked us back before we made our selections. I am not 100% sure though because all I have are the computer cards for each round not my list as well.
I know ruch sucks in so many ways but I'm not sure how to make it any better. It is just a necessary evil (for both sides) in order to continue our great greek system that we all love.

axoalum · #7 08-18-2008, 06:17 PM

So... where is UGAMomof4? And Greek Stress, would you tell us where your daughter went? We want to be excited for her! Really!

GreekAlphaSoup · #8 08-18-2008, 06:18 PM

But since this is a thread on winding down (hey, who started this - oh, yeah....me!) , and since, right this minute, we, moms and alums who either have daughters at rush or who worked at rush, are the ones winding down (face it - our girls are either getting a bid, missed a bid, are anxiously waiting to see who shows up to accept the bid, etc.), it is a suitable place to vent ALL!

Greek Stress - you have excellent opinions (and probably are expressing thoughts openly, and honestly, without pre-screening every letter you type, like some of us). Last year, we had UGADad's thread to vent - did anyone else notice how depressingly and astoundingly quiet it was regarding one of the largest recruitment processes in the entire collegiate world? Maybe if we let everyone let it out (like UGADad began for us last year), we'll feel better and not vent to the kids?

Just a thought....an opinion really....maybe just a whisper of an idea..seriously...so sorry....hmmmmmm......

MerryGPhiB · #9 08-18-2008, 06:23 PM

Hey UGAMomof4

Any news yet???????????

estherjb · #10 08-18-2008, 06:27 PM

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I actually kept my print out cards from rush (seriously!)

I heart you for that!!! I have mine too. Punch cards.

I'm waiting to hear about my neighbor and I'm dying. I don't want to call her or her mom but I'm about to pop.