My Fall Recruitment Thread

[Ggirl617]

Hey guys. I just signed my pref card, and wow what a rush this whole experience has been (pun partly intended). I can't wait to tell you guys my whole story. There are a lot of ups and downs and changing of opinions, but I'll be honest, there were times when I was happy, sad, excited, disappointed, catty, regretful, SHALLOW, and then true to myself. I have to run right now, but I'll update and tell how it all goes. Bid day is tomorrow, and of course I'll include that after. Cya!

[Ggirl617]

andddd I just wrote the entire first day and it got erased

[Ggirl617]

Ok, so here goes. I am going to be completely honest, so if you don't like it, too bad!

I'm a junior transfer and there are 4 NPC sororities. Going into rush, I had a preference towards two of them (Mascara and Lipgloss). They were the more desirable sororities. I am very attractive so I thought I belonged to these. The other two were Blush and Eyeliner. I met my rho gammas (I had 2) and I fell in LOVE with them. I really liked my rho gamma group as well. On day 1, you visit all 4. On day two you visit all 4 again, then vote for your top 3. On day 3, you can attend a max of 3, and then on preference you can attend a max of 2. Then bid day is tomorrow! Here is my day 1:

Blush-I really liked this group! They were easy to talk to.

Lipgloss-This was my favorite going in, based on some girls I had met before recruitment. The first girl I talked to I didn't immediately click with, but the second was great! This was definitely my top choice so far.

Eyeliner-I was apprehensive about going to this group. My roommate had rushed freshman year, only attended Eyeliner's pref, but did not sign a bid card. She rushed the next year and was released from recruitment all together. Anyway, I felt so so about this group. They were my least favorite. I genuinely didn't really click with the girls.

Mascara-I was excited to go to mascara. I had fun talking to these girls and really like them. I want to go back here definitely!

After night 1, my personal rankings were (we didn't vote until after night 2)

Lipgloss
Blush
Mascara
Eyeliner

[Ggirl617]

Night 2:

Mascara-I loved mascara tonight. I probably had the best conversation in all of rush with a mascara girl tonight. Mascara jumped to the top of my list.

Eyeliner-Eyeliner was better tonight. It was always very easy to talk to them. I felt like I didn't have to pretend at all.

Lipgloss-I didn't adore lipgloss as much tonight as I had before, but I was still very interested in them. The conversations tonight just hadn't been amazing.

Blush-Blush tonight was not great. After they sang the opening song, and came to pick people up, my friend and I had nobody and were standing around waiting. Finally a girl picked us up. Then when everyone went to get a seat, there weren't any for us. The sorority girl with us had to go ask her sister to stand so we could sit when we were blatantly standing right near her! The conversations continued to be good with this group though. I was annoyed about the night's occurrences in blush though.

We voted for three tonight. I chose Mascara, Lip Gloss, and Blush. Stay tuned!

[LucyKKG]

Good luck!

[Ggirl617]

Day 3:

Our first set of invites! I was pretty nervous. Here was my schedule!

Eyeliner
Mascara
Blush

I was really, REALLY disappointed about lipgloss, but figured since I still had mascara, everything was all good.

Eyeliner-At this party, there was one girl, with 5 pnm's, and she just talked at us the entire time. ??? I don't think I was asked one question.

Mascara-Didn't go great today. The active seemed only interested in talking to the other pnm with us. When another girl came around it was someone I had already met before, so again she focused on the other girl. When I looked around, some people were having one on one conversations so I was a bit sad. I don't think I will get invited back here, and I'm really sad because of how great yesterday was.

Blush-Since it was philanthropy day, most of the sororities had a little craft and then we just went back to mingling and socializing. At Blush, the entire day was about the philanthropy. That was nice, but I didn't feel as if I got to know the Blush girls as well.

When I voted that night, I voted for Blush and Mascara. I hoped hoped HOPED I got Mascara, but wasn't feeling great about it. More later!

[jennyj87]

Originally Posted by Ggirl617

Day 3:

Our first set of invites! I was pretty nervous. Here was my schedule!

Eyeliner
Mascara
Blush

I was really, REALLY disappointed about lipgloss, but figured since I still had mascara, everything was all good.

Eyeliner-At this party, there was one girl, with 5 pnm's, and she just talked at us the entire time. ??? I don't think I was asked one question.

Mascara-Didn't go great today. The active seemed only interested in talking to the other pnm with us. When another girl came around it was someone I had already met before, so again she focused on the other girl. When I looked around, some people were having one on one conversations so I was a bit sad. I don't think I will get invited back here, and I'm really sad because of how great yesterday was.

Blush-Since it was philanthropy day, most of the sororities had a little craft and then we just went back to mingling and socializing. At Blush, the entire day was about the philanthropy. That was nice, but I didn't feel as if I got to know the Blush girls as well.

When I voted that night, I voted for Blush and Mascara. I hoped hoped HOPED I got Mascara, but wasn't feeling great about it. More later!

Holy moly! Either that chapter is very very small, or there are a LOT of pnms at you're school. Which is it?

[Ggirl617]

Lol! It was just how it worked out. Many of the girls during this party were one on one. It wasn't the fault of either the chapter or the school. Besides, wait to see how the rest of the story turns out!

[Ggirl617]

Edit: I believe that chapter has around 60 girls, and there were 250 going through recruitment. The largest chapter on this campus is 90 I believe.

[FSUZeta]

aye yie yie! please continue.

[lyrelyre]

Originally Posted by Ggirl617

I think being disappointed by being cut by your favorites is completely normal and should not elicit rude responses (which I have sometimes seen on GC). If a girl decides not to pursue Greek Life rather than her second choice, and you wish to condemn her, don't. She is missing out already.

To be fair, I don't think many on GC are rude initially. Once we've attempted to answer questions to the best of our ability and the OP has an attitude problem or won't listen to reason the snarkiness can come out. However, I do believe it's typical to be sad and even wistful about the chapters that release you that you liked.

I do hope you’re very happy at eyeliner and, whether you decide it’s for you or not, that you have/make friends on campus and become involved in some other way.

[lovespink88]

Originally Posted by lyrelyre

To be fair, I don't think many on GC are rude initially. Once we've attempted to answer questions to the best of our ability and the OP has an attitude problem or won't listen to reason the snarkiness can come out. However, I do believe it's typical to be sad and even wistful about the chapters that release you that you liked.

Agreed. Another reason, especially lately, that I think that GCers have been "rude" to PNMs is because they've kind of made it clear (whether they flat out said it, or not) that they think they're better than the group that offer them a bid.

[Ggirl617]

Hey guys I'm really glad I got some responses about that because that is sort of where my story is going. For all main purposes, the story is over. I will start pledging eyeliner tomorrow. However, the emotions and feelings concerning recruitment, pledging, and eyeliner and blush in general, are definitely not gone, and I would like to work through it (hopefully with your help) so I can make the most out of my experience as an eyeliner.

I think I should have put blush first. It doesn't really matter now and who knows if it would have made a difference.

And I want to comment on something one of you said. Do I think I'm better than the girls? No. I think they are extremely nice and very accepting and that's why I put them as number one. Maybe deep down I feel that I am simply better looking. Should I apologize for feeling that way? Yeah, probably, and I am sorry for sounding like a snob. These emotions are all very recent and I don't think I can get past being catty without expressing what everyone else won't say. If you want to condemn me and say I don't deserve eyeliner, fine. I love the girls as people, and I WANT to stop thinking about everything else. Maybe for some of you it's easy and you can just erase those nagging thoughts, but I'm not as strong.

What other people think does matter to me. Maybe this will just take time. The more I grow to love eyeliner, the more everything else will fade away. I don't know. I do love greek life already, and I knew no matter which sorority I ended up in, I promised myself I would give pledging a chance and initiate if I wanted.

Another thought. (And yes this is all jumbled order, but I just want to get everything out). We had a great pledge class, but I know many will drop simply because eyeliner was their last choice. It really upset me to be at the bid day dinner, excited, but most people were pretty solemn. I know some bid day parties, people probably were crying they were so happy. It almost made me feel not even good enough.

I don't know really what I'm asking, because probably all the good advice you guys will give me, is the logical and rational explanations that I can already come up with myself. I think the emotions just need to subside and then it will be easier. Thanks for listening to my story, and please leave any comments, positive or constructive. I look forward to being the best eyeliner I can be

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Ggirl617

Hey guys I'm really glad I got some responses about that because that is sort of where my story is going. For all main purposes, the story is over. I will start pledging eyeliner tomorrow. However, the emotions and feelings concerning recruitment, pledging, and eyeliner and blush in general, are definitely not gone, and I would like to work through it (hopefully with your help) so I can make the most out of my experience as an eyeliner.

I think I should have put blush first. It doesn't really matter now and who knows if it would have made a difference.

And I want to comment on something one of you said. Do I think I'm better than the girls? No. I think they are extremely nice and very accepting and that's why I put them as number one. Maybe deep down I feel that I am simply better looking. Should I apologize for feeling that way? Yeah, probably, and I am sorry for sounding like a snob. These emotions are all very recent and I don't think I can get past being catty without expressing what everyone else won't say. If you want to condemn me and say I don't deserve eyeliner, fine. I love the girls as people, and I WANT to stop thinking about everything else. Maybe for some of you it's easy and you can just erase those nagging thoughts, but I'm not as strong.

What other people think does matter to me. Maybe this will just take time. The more I grow to love eyeliner, the more everything else will fade away. I don't know. I do love greek life already, and I knew no matter which sorority I ended up in, I promised myself I would give pledging a chance and initiate if I wanted.

Another thought. (And yes this is all jumbled order, but I just want to get everything out). We had a great pledge class, but I know many will drop simply because eyeliner was their last choice. It really upset me to be at the bid day dinner, excited, but most people were pretty solemn. I know some bid day parties, people probably were crying they were so happy. It almost made me feel not even good enough.

I don't know really what I'm asking, because probably all the good advice you guys will give me, is the logical and rational explanations that I can already come up with myself. I think the emotions just need to subside and then it will be easier. Thanks for listening to my story, and please leave any comments, positive or constructive. I look forward to being the best eyeliner I can be

I'm going to be a nice person and not touch your other comments, but I highly suggest reading this thread:

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ghlight=choice

You're entitled to your feelings (everything is still very new) but at some point, you really do have to get over it and realize that you have 3 choices:

*Drop out of eyeliner.

*Stay in Eyeliner and be pissed everyday about it.

*Stay in Eyeliner and make the VERY best of it.

At the end of the day, you will only get as much out of your Eyeliner experience as you allow yourself to get out of it. Obviously, being mopy about being an Eyeliner isn't going to help.

As much as you may want to be a Mascara, Blush, whatever, the fact of the matter is-- you aren't one. It's up to you to decide how you want your experience to be from here.

Good luck.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Ggirl617

What other people think does matter to me. Maybe this will just take time. The more I grow to love eyeliner, the more everything else will fade away. I don't know. I do love greek life already, and I knew no matter which sorority I ended up in, I promised myself I would give pledging a chance and initiate if I wanted.

I suspect this will happen.

About halfway through pledging, you will hear from some of your friends, or through the grapevine, who are pledging mascara or lipgloss about how pressured they feel to maintain their looks and image at all times and how it isn't all it's cracked up to be. You will be able to go to the eyeliner house, put your feet up on the sofa and not give a crap that your nail polish is chipped or your hair is frizzy. And you will say AAAAHHHHHHHH.

I think that you do have a good attitude under it all, and as time goes on you will wonder why you thought those other sororities were better than yours.

There was something in you that made you put eyeliner down above blush. No you will never know, unless you run into a blabby blush and she tells you, but there is a reason you chose as you chose. Don't drive yourself nuts second guessing. Like FSUZeta said, it's just a little bit of buyers remorse. Any big purchase invites similar feelings even if you're super jazzed about it.

Also, and I'm truly not trying to be snarky or bitchy, there is the possibility you're not as good looking as you thought you were. Things get turned upside down a lot when you go from HS to college.

Good luck.