Staying Over at my Boyfriend's Fraternity House

[mu_agd]

Originally posted by sugar and spice
I would just be spooning.

that's what i was thinking as well...

[mu_agd]

Originally posted by damasa
Now play nice kiddos, don't make me own you.

will you own me??

[breathesgelatin]

Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
Good thing that according to certain people, I'm not in a "good" southern sorority.

Wait... But I am! And I agre with you!!!

[Txsurfinwaves]

Originally posted by breathesgelatin
Wait... But I am! And I agre with you!!!

Always know, GeekyPenguin, that the Southern Pi Phis have your back.

[breathesgelatin]

Originally posted by Txsurfinwaves
Always know, GeekyPenguin, that the Southern Pi Phis have your back.

We roxor!! I heart you Txsurfinwaves!

[AllisonDG]

Originally posted by amazinglagirl
I am SO surprised at this thread...that there are basically like two people who have said anything remotely close to telling this girl NOT to do it...and that's IT?!?!?

She has dated this guy for six WEEKS, people!! Not six months...not six years!! This is not a relationship!!...I've had "accquaintences" I've known MUCH longer!

And what happened to moral decency? I mean, there are tons of people posting "oh, well if it's a random 'hookup' then people will talk, but this is 2003..." screw that!!! Why is it NOT okay if it's a random hookup but it IS if you've gone out with the guy more than twice?!? This is SO messed up!

Plus, this girl is a FRESHMAN!! HELLO????? I can't really be the only girl out there who believes that you should at least try to preserve some shred of decency about your sexual behavior. It is PRIVATE and everyone on here is like oh, it's no big deal...and it may be...but if that attitude persists, then random hookups will soon be no big deal either....and NONE of this is private if it takes place in a frat house.

So, while we're all voting,....I vote NO!...(and for the record, I vote no in this situation even if he lived alone...) but maybe that is just because I am living in the "dream world" of thinking that sex should be something that you and your partner in marriage share together.

By the way, if you are not yet in a sorority, and you plan to rush in the south, do not even THINK about doing this...you will be doomed to be dropped from all the good ones who still regard appropriate social ettiquette and good reputation as one of the cornerstones of membership in good standing.

Well...i guess i have no decency because i sleep over my boyfriend's practically every night. We started doing that after about a month. Do whatever you want Catie... I honestly do not think that sororities will think you have "no moral decency" and on top of that you could probably meet some cool girls...i am good friends with a couple of the other girlfriends who are always at the house.
This makes me really glad that I went to school in the north where I can live like it is 2003.

[texas*princess]

Originally posted by Txsurfinwaves
Always know, GeekyPenguin, that the Southern Pi Phis have your back.

And this ADPi

Txsurfinwaves, you're right.. this thread got so crazy in just a short amount of time!

[ZTAngel]

Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
Good thing that according to certain people, I'm not in a "good" southern sorority.

Count me in!

I'm in a good southern sorority and I agree with you!

[AXORissa]

Originally posted by AllisonDG
Well...i guess i have no decency because i sleep over my boyfriend's practically every night. We started doing that after about a month. Do whatever you want Catie... I honestly do not think that sororities will think you have "no moral decency" and on top of that you could probably meet some cool girls...i am good friends with a couple of the other girlfriends who are always at the house.
This makes me really glad that I went to school in the north where I can live like it is 2003.

I'll agree with you here!! yay North.


My view? ITS NO ONE'S BUSINESS. Do what you feel is right. At my school, no one cared who stayed over, and we even had guys stay over at OUR house (although, yes, it was against our house rules but our house mom turned a blind eye)... no one felt embarassed because its our own personal business.

I cant believe sororities would actually drop you because you slept over at your boyfriends house... that would never happen here. Like some of the guys said, it would actually help you to get to know the brothers-- some of our best sisters were recommended to us by their fraternity boyfriends and their brothers.

[Moxie]

THIS southern sorority girl is a GREAT fan of shacking! i mean, how else am i going to stay warm on those chilly january nights if i don't have my baby to cuddle with ? i'm not really a fan of fraternity boys , and my current bf isn't greek, so i don't shack at a fraternity house.

however, i know that at lsu all of the sororities have rules that the girls can't go upstairs in the guys' house and vice versa. i know, though, that when it comes to the girls at the guys' place - it happens.

[BrownEyedGirl]

Originally posted by amazinglagirl

By the way, if you are not yet in a sorority, and you plan to rush in the south, do not even THINK about doing this...you will be doomed to be dropped from all the good ones who still regard appropriate social ettiquette and good reputation as one of the cornerstones of membership in good standing.

AmazingLAGirl, I am sure that KD at LSU is an outstanding, conservative, well-mannered southern chapter of an outstanding sorority. I, however, am an alumna of an equally outstanding southern sorority from a very conservative "Bible Belt" school, and I have to say I think you are approaching this issue the wrong way altogether. Issues like this, especially in the South, are issues to be dealt with privately, among sisters. The reason I haven't posted my opinion is because I think some decisions should remain personal. If one of my sisters, or friends who could potentially become sisters, were behaving in a way that I felt was inappropriate or represented our GLO badly, I would speak to her individually. Having an all-caps, multi-post, all-or-nothing GC brawl is not the way to represent yourself as a well-mannered, southern sorority woman. I think being judgemental is as crass as "whoring yourself out" (not saying I agree with your definition of that), and just as public an offense. I suggest you reexamine your motives here, and leave the outspoken advice/diatribes to people you know in your own life and sorority. Threatening someone or implying that their efforts to join a GLO if they don't change their "immoral" ways certainly does not reflect well on you. I am sure you are a well-meaning, thoughtful person who is hoping to spare Catie some pain and embarassment, but your means of expressing that is contradictory, to say the least. So, from one southern sorority girl to another, I'd say the best way to handle this situation is to tone down your vehemence, deal with it personally, or (better yet), bow out gracefully without offending any more moderators or older GC'ers than you already have.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by breathesgelatin
We roxor!! I heart you Txsurfinwaves!

I heart both of you! I'll have to tell my Pi Phi friend that I "met" some cool sisters of hers!

[EGDeepher]

Long live the NORTH!

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by EGDeepher
Long live the NORTH!

I don't even think it's a north/south issue - I think it's a class issue.

[DGqueen17]

Sorry to jump in so late

I think it's perfectly fine to sleep at a frat house if that's where your boyfriend lives. My experience has been that if you're exclusive with that guy his brothers will notice and respect you. Now if it's a random hook up or you're a regular booty call then they'll probably not be as resepctful.

Just this WV DG's opinion