a situation...greek brothers only

[mccoyred]

Apology accepted

Originally posted by DoggyStyle82:
McCoyRED: please accept my apologies on the terminology "belonging" (it was usedpositively). A less possessive phrase should be substituted such as "being loved by a Que", "being adored by a Que", .

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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

[ManndingoNUPE]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Rain Man:

MandingoNupe: In response to your post on you not letting your girl wear your letters for two reasons:

1. WHO CARES?
2. (OTOH) I feel ya on that one. But that's why you ask her to come over to you with you wearin' your robe and you wrap her up in it--so that both of you are "wearin'" the same robe. WHOO! I'm gettin' flashbacks up in heah! Don't make me get back to my old self. Ima havta call up one of my old girlfriends and hook up, for "old times" sake

RainMan

1) I care. Does that answer your question!
2) No, she can wear my other robe, the one that doesn't have my letters on it. You can call it symbol worship whatever, but those are more than just letters to me. They represent something. So we can agree to disagree.

Peace and Luv

MN

"It's not the fraternity that makes the man great, rather the caliber of man that makes the fraternity great!"

[PositivelyAKA]

IMHO you must do what is right before God first and then not violate your own self in the process whenever possible. i have had folks ask to use an umbrella and thank goodness i always have a spare, but if i didn't i would just be real and say hey i don't have one that "you" can use, sorry, that's the truth, same with a pen, etc. i just say no, becuase in my opinion that AKA pen is only a pen when a soror is using it

now if its raining of course anyone can walk under my AKA umbrella "with" me, my boyfriend holds it for me sometimes because he's a gentleman and that thing is heavy. and if he were greek i wouldn't wear his letters out in public unless he was with me and i was cold and didn't have my jacket or something, because folks would know that he is the "Alpha" wishful thinking, lol and not me. i would not want a boyfriend/husband who got an attitude with me for wearing a piece of fabric with letters on it, since we are one in flesh we wouldn't trip on that, life is too short. in his heart, God needs to be first, then me, then his family then his frat, cottom products better be at the bottom of the list or he can get to steppin.

[Rain Man]

Originally posted by ManndingoNUPE:

1) I care. Does that answer your question!
2) No, she can wear my other robe, the one that doesn't have my letters on it. You can call it symbol worship whatever, but those are more than just letters to me. They represent something. So we can agree to disagree.

Peace and Luv

MN

"It's not the fraternity that makes the man great, rather the caliber of man that makes the fraternity great!"
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MN, just remember this:

One:
Life is MUCH too short to get caught up in worrying about whether someone is wearing your letters. We waste too much time "policing" our letters and too little time using them to help our communities.

Two:
Upon our demise, when we meet our Lord and Savior, He will not ask us if we protected our Greek letters, but will ask us if we protected and followed His Word TO THE LETTER.

I say this to all of Greekdom:

Part of our problem is that out priorities are way out of order, focusing on the trivial instead of the substancial.

RM

[bigBERG]

Just gonna chime in. Long before I crossed I had some greek friends give me some science about greekdom. My friend who is a member Sigma became irate when his roommate put something on his letters, his response...Do you know what I went through to get these letters, Do you know what they mean to me? Second. Another friend who is a Que showed me that letters are not at the cost of being gentlemanly...we were walking with some young ladies, the young lady he was with became chilly and he took letter shirt off, turned it inside out and draped it over her to protect her from the elements. Finally for me my girlfriend is greek and I would never wear her letters and she would never wear mine. But situations dictate actions not vice versa. And when this world cannot hold me any longer I will go and meet my maker, and be judged by the merits of my work on this earth, great and small; good and bad.

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Many are called, many are chosen, but only a few are PHROZEN!

[Kimmie1913]

I always find it interesting the way people respond to this topic. To my eyes, there is an inherent contradiction in that, if your letters are so revered, why would you put them on certain items? I personally find it inappropriate to put Delta's symbols on any and everything because I feel it diminishes thir importance. To me they do not belong on socks or underwear, on every household item imaginable. And I feel if you are going to put them everywhere, eentually some one outside of the org is going to have a reason to touch something with them on it. I know my keys get handled by other people, my boyfriend, my best friend ( who is not a Soro) my mom... and if I am going to freak to have them hold a keychain with Delta onit, then I should not have a key chain with Delta on it. No point in freaking out at them when I put the symbols in the line of possession in the first place or to expect everyone is charged with ahving the same sentiments about them that I have. Why should I expect a non-greek to feel the same way about my symbols as I do? That is silly to me. Same goes for things like cups, I don;t keep them in the cabinent with other cups, all my Delta cups are decorative and on shelves etc. so there is no chance of someone drinking out of them.

Bottom line- do't start nne, won't be none- I f you do not create such opportunity then problems will not arise. But freaking out to me is not the answer. At least calmly try to convey to the other person how you feel and why so in the future they will not do the same out of respect, and do not assume the motive is always disrespect either. Someimes, t is simply misunderstanding the situation.
Sorry so long. Just mt $19.13 worth.