FOR GREEKS - Biggest Mistake?

[rho4life]

My biggest mistake was not spending enough time working on one of my projects while I was going through my process. Well, I learned quickly that the "shortcuts" weren't worth it b/c the next week I had a new project, AND I had to re-do the old one. I actually have both of the times somewhere in my home where I can see them regularly. It keeps me humble and reminds me that the short way isn't always the best way.

[Educatingblue]

Originally Posted by rho4life

My biggest mistake was not spending enough time working on one of my projects while I was going through my process. Well, I learned quickly that the "shortcuts" weren't worth it b/c the next week I had a new project, AND I had to re-do the old one. I actually have both of the times somewhere in my home where I can see them regularly. It keeps me humble and reminds me that the short way isn't always the best way.

Ditto!

[IncontRHOllable]

Hmmm, I can think of at least two things that were done by potentials that really made me and other sorors

While going through her process, one potential tried to elicit donations from her classmates and even went so far as to ask her professor for money to pay her dues. A D9 sister from another sorority was pissed when she witnessed this and immediately informed the chapter which reacted like and Thank goodness that potential is NOT a soror.

On another occasion, some potentials showed up to a sorority event wearing that rhoyal blue and gold. I cannot stand this. If anything, I was scared to touch those colors until I became an actual member of SGRHO.

[proud2bSigma]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

Hmmm, I can think of at least two things that were done by potentials that really made me and other sorors

While going through her process, one potential tried to elicit donations from her classmates and even went so far as to ask her professor for money to pay her dues. A D9 sister from another sorority was pissed when she witnessed this and immediately informed the chapter which reacted like and Thank goodness that potential is NOT a soror.

On another occasion, some potentials showed up to a sorority event wearing that rhoyal blue and gold. I cannot stand this. If anything, I was scared to touch those colors until I became an actual member of SGRHO.

Me too I didnt even were my rhoyal blue undies (haha) its true though

[SeriousSigma22]

This is an interesting thread and I wonder when potentials, interest, or whatever we are calling them these days take a clue, use common sense, wise up and do their homework (research).
I haven't come across any potentials that are struggling to understand the full meaning of Greekdom but you folks have some stories that could help a potential avoid the drama.

Serioussigma22

[Educatingblue]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

On another occasion, some potentials showed up to a sorority event wearing that rhoyal blue and gold. I cannot stand this. If anything, I was scared to touch those colors until I became an actual member of SGRHO.

Who are you telling!!!! I remember right after our induction, they told us to go 'head and do the call. All three of us stood there like deer in headlights!

[RitaMae1908]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

While going through her process, one potential tried to elicit donations from her classmates and even went so far as to ask her professor for money to pay her dues. A D9 sister from another sorority was pissed when she witnessed this and immediately informed the chapter which reacted like and Thank goodness that potential is NOT a soror.

Had she even been considered for membership yet? (i.e. gone to an informational/rush and been notified that she was being offered membership into the organization???)

When will prospects learn that D9 members communicate with each other?!

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by RitaMae1908

When will prospects learn that D9 members communicate with each other?!

Exactly, I mean I think that prospects believe that we are in like this great competition with each other and don't look out for each other when that is far from the truth.

[BlueReign]

Got a quick break here so I'll tell you all who have been anxiously awaiting

MY RESPONSE:

What do you mean that you don't want to do any of that "stuff" they do. You just want your letters?! In the future be very, very cautious who you talk to and what you say. DON'T YOU EVER TELL A DUES PAYING ACTIVE MEMBER OF ANY GREEK LETTER ORGANIZATION THAT FOOLISHNESS! Don't you know that if I didn't like you that I could black ball you?

"Well how could you do that. You're a Sigma Gamma Rho."

And you are right about that. You don't think that we talk to each other? At any given community service event almost all of the D9 show up. We network. We have the NPHC. WE TALK!! I know members of ABC in different chapters in the area that are directly involved in membership for their respective chapters. All it takes is one phone call. The world is too small for what you said to me. And why not try to establish a positive line of communication with the members you work with first. What if you showed up at one of their chapter's events. You think they would have anything favorable to say about you concerning your interest in membership?

And further more if you are dating a man who was a member of any fraternity and you let that crap come out of your mouth it may make the difference as to whether he will take you seriously because he knows that you will never fully understand the depth of his commitment and time obligations to his fraternity.

"Well I thank you for telling me that but I don't have to pledge here in this area. It is my goal for '05. And I will make it in by '05. I'm just that determined. Even if I have to go to Texas."

And Sorors and friends who are reading this, I had nothing to say after that. The old term "6 degrees" doesn't even apply in the greek world. It's more like 2 degrees. Even in Texas. In the words of Fred Sanford -- I had to keep this to myself --- YOU BIG DUMMY!!

[Ivy2Love]

I really want to believe this is a sick joke, because no one could be this stupid. At least I thought they could not be.

You are right. The D9 world is very small, and we do talk to each other. I think non-members get caught up on the perceived rivalries. Hmph. Many of us belong to the same churches and other civic/social organizations.

I hope this young lady heeds your words. You were very nice with her, more than she deserved. Otherwise, she is in for a very rude awakening no matter where she goes. I just hope she doesn't come to Florida. None of our organizations need dead weight.

[TRSimon]

That's all I have to say about that. You really helped her out by telling her that. I hope she heeded your advice instead of shooting her mouth off (like she did when you first told her - a classic dumb move, if you ask me. Don't nobody care if she go to Texas, like ain't no sorors who know people in her org over there) You know the three ways of communication: telephone, telegraph and tell a black woman . And I truly think our two degrees are more like one and a half sometimes

You handled that with class and she acted like a big dummy. I hope she handles her other personal matters with a bit more finesse.

[1_zetaemerald]

Sistergreek BlueReign, I hope you keep us updated on this story! That is very interesting!! Something to think about...

Wouldn't you agree?

[SeriousSigma22]

Sorhor Bluereign,

This woman really needs to get a clue. I really think that she doesn't believe that we all communicate and she's gonna end up remaining an independent. Please keep us updated about this very colourful person.


Serioussigma22

[BirthaBlue4]

One things I almost didn't do was to actuually make contact. I didn't know how to go about it. Luckily, one soror who was in grad chapter at the time, was so nice and helpful and pointed me in the right direction. Without that I would have been too scared. The whole process of declaring interest seemed so sensitive; one wrong move and you could be done before you even began lol. The only person I was close to that was greek at the time was a part of a reactivation line, so she didn't have to go through the "normal" procedures.


I think that sometimes we become almost too untouchable. I've seen and heard of people looking down on anyone that asks them questions or declares interest. I think a lot of people just don't know the right way to go, and being just an inch more helpful would make all the difference in the world. I know that that soror that helped me really drove home the fact that this organization was where I needed to be.

[TRSimon]

Originally posted by BirthaBlue4
I think that sometimes we become almost too untouchable. I've seen and heard of people looking down on anyone that asks them questions or declares interest. I think a lot of people just don't know the right way to go, and being just an inch more helpful would make all the difference in the world. I know that that soror that helped me really drove home the fact that this organization was where I needed to be.

I understand that sometimes people just want to know how to become a part of an organization, but sometimes people who are interested in a Greek organization need to employ Tact and common sense in their conversation with members.

Most sorors I know have no problem with a person asking how one becomes a Sigma Gamma Rho, but we do have a problem with a person who will show up asking when the next line is when she has no community service and no record of genuine interest in our org. Even then, most of us would politely tell the person how she can learn more about what we do.

You will always have members of orgs who feel the need to make gladiators out of aspirants, but sometimes aspirants need to meet the rest of us half way. That doesn't mean kissing butt. It just means approaching members about the sorority with seriousness and respect. "When's the next line?" is not seriousness and respect.