Question for parents, parents to be, and parent want to be's.....

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by Scandia

I agree with KSigKid and Christiangirl. I do not agree with every value the Republican Party espouses. But I agree with more Republican ones than Democratic ones. Hence I'm a proud elephant.

hijack

Okay, I'm completely off topic, but this reminds me of a quote I saw on an acquaintance's facebook:

"Democrats clearly have more fun. I mean, who's ever heard of a good piece of elephant?"

/end hijack

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by kstar

See above. "I have casual acquaintances, like school/work friends, that don't agree with me, but no, I don't really want to have close friends that don't share my values. Is that really that hard to understand?"

I'm late getting back to the party, but yeah, I find that pretty hard to understand. And pretty close-minded.

And grief counseling can do a world of good, but this is something that I don't think I could get over and respect them as a person again.

In my opinion, the parent who cannot respect his or her child when the child does something like a 180 on the parent's political beliefs probably doesn't deserve the child's respect.

Just an FYI -- I've known too many parents who have lost a child, and to a person, they've said it's something you never get it over. Ever. You get grief counseling, you do support groups, you learn to cope, but you never get over it. You miss that child every day for the rest of your own life. And you regret that you let stupid things that seemed so important at the time get in the way of your relationship with your child. Having children of my own, I don't doubt for a second that they're telling it like it is.

Any good parent knows early on that the kids will make choices that mom and dad don't agree with. Some of them will be minor choices (that awful haircut), some will be big. Maybe REALLY BIG. And good parents constantly tell their children, through word and deed, "there is nothing you can ever do that will make me stop loving you." They mean it and they do their best, however hard that might be, to live it.

[gee_ess]

I think the most interesting thing about this thread is that most people feel that the worst thing to happen would be a child who is injured, dying, suffering, etc. This, imo, is the sign of a true parent - that you are worried most about your child's wellbeing rather than your own welfare.

Putting a child's needs first is an indicator of a true parent. The poster(s) whose answers reflected the predominant concern with the parent's wellbeing, i.e. being disappointed in a child because of a decision he made, - is an indicator that the poster is not really thinking about the child but about herself.

[nittanyalum]

I'll wager every penny I have that the day kstar actually is a parent, she'll realize the stupefying silliness of her original post. If that's your greatest fear or the worst thing that ever happens to you, kstar, you are in for an easy go of things in life.