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01-12-2008, 05:20 PM
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I think nittanyalum has a great idea! It's amazing how people take news if it's presented as a positive rather than a negative. Being engaged does seem to take the (gasp) scandal out of being pregnant and unmarried. This, at least, will give you time to decide whether or not being active after getting married and having your child is of any importance to you.
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01-12-2008, 12:15 AM
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Also, don't worry about getting your letters pulled, that's silly. Early alum status though, probably a good idea simply because you won't have time to be active. Like I said, celebrate your motherhood and include your sisters in your happiness
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01-12-2008, 12:18 AM
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Im going to PM you ... while I dont have direct experience with this I do know some things that can help you out.
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01-12-2008, 03:30 AM
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ZTABerry28- I hope you don't mind but I PMmed you.
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01-13-2008, 12:59 AM
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There are a lot of people who find the time it takes to be in a sorority to be difficult while just being a student.
If it was me, I would let your sisters know and maybe plan on going early alum. If you go early alum, you will still be able to help your house without having it high on your time-worry list. I cannot tell you how much we love having alums around to help and participate with us.
That is gonna be one very Greek baby! And I wish you all the love, sisterhood, and energy I can muster! (you will need it with the baby)
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01-13-2008, 01:10 AM
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Congratulations to you and your fiance. When I was active with my college chapter, one of our new members became pregnant before Initiation. She dropped out, but we were more than happy whenever she stopped by at "tables" to say hello.
I think your sisters will be very supportive during this time. Best of luck to you!
PS - I think a candlelight is a great idea. I always wanted to have one...
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01-13-2008, 01:12 AM
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After thinking about it since my fiance is going alum when he graduates early alum status is probably best for me and our baby. Im staying in school to finish my degree with the help of my family and since he will be graduate he'll be working and honestly I wont have much time for socials and recruitment, but i want to stay involved in the sisterhood.
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01-13-2008, 12:46 PM
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Sounds like a good plan. And remember, when the baby is a little older, you've graduated and have a little more free time - Zeta will still be there. Alumna involvement, while different, brings its own rewards!
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01-13-2008, 03:49 PM
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After thinking about it since my fiance is going alum when he graduates early alum status is probably best for me and our baby. Im staying in school to finish my degree with the help of my family and since he will be graduate he'll be working and honestly I wont have much time for socials and recruitment, but i want to stay involved in the sisterhood.
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Sounds like a good plan! And have that candlelight! I think that would be awesome for your baby's Baby Book!
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01-13-2008, 04:03 PM
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i think having a candlelight to announce your engagement would be lovely and you should do it. ZTA candlelights are for lavaliering, pinning, engagements and sometimes when a orphaned sister is adopted by another ZTA family.
before you plan a candlelight to announce your pregnancy, please check to see if it would be okay with your chapters ec, the advisors or the province president.
while it is sweet that some of you are encouraging ztaberry to have a candlelight to announce her pregnancy, it is really a decision that ztaberry and her chapter, advisors and/or province president need to decide.
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01-13-2008, 04:06 PM
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OOPS! Sorry if I've misstepped!
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01-13-2008, 04:10 PM
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no need to apologize. as similar as all our orgs. are, we do do some things differently  .
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01-13-2008, 05:55 PM
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I think Ill probably wait until late february to announce my engagement, I just told my big sister at lunch today and her and I are gonna really think about how to best break the news to my chapter, if we should do the candleight, but she is very happy for me, but understands that the whole chapter might not be so supportive. Our biggest concern besides the baby is the reputation of our chapter, we are in very high standings at our school and i would hate to jeopardize that, especially before spring rush. Im sure most of you guys understand how competitive it can get.
I absolutely love zeta and I really hate the thought of dropping, I wish there was some way to have the best of both worlds but my priorities are changing so much! On the brightside if its a girl it would be a legacy and if its a boy it would be a triple legacy for pi kappa phi, so itll be very greek... If only i could name it themis... haha
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01-13-2008, 06:00 PM
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Our biggest concern besides the baby is the reputation of our chapter, we are in very high standings at our school and i would hate to jeopardize that, especially before spring rush.
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Something to think about, just because you tell your chapter, does not mean the whole entire Greek community needs to know you're pregnant. Your sisters should respect you enough not to tell anyone outside of Zeta, because it is of no concern to anyone else at your school except those you tell.
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01-13-2008, 10:13 PM
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I absolutely love zeta and I really hate the thought of dropping, I wish there was some way to have the best of both worlds but my priorities are changing so much! On the brightside if its a girl it would be a legacy and if its a boy it would be a triple legacy for pi kappa phi, so itll be very greek... If only i could name it themis... haha
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Remember, you aren't dropping ZTA. You are taking early alumna status. Two very different things.
Good luck with everything. As for names for a girl, you do have some founders you could name the baby after!
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