SPRING RUSH AT ALABAMA??

[estherjb]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I would like us to be a lot kinder to new posters and not be so quick to second guess their motivation.

It seems like it is the same few who feel the need to crack the whip, although they crack it with vigor. Everybody was new once and if someone flamed you every time you did something "inappropriate" you might not be around now.

It takes more time and thought but you can make your point without making it at the expense of others, unless your point is to snap on someone; although I am either the pot or the kettle here because I have been guilty of the instant reply that was unnecessarily snide.

[magnoliacurious]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

You may have just been being playful, but the post you were responding to does make clear that it was mid-level numbers wise, which is a little different than just saying it's a mid-level group generally, IMO.

Besides that, if anyone doubts the chapter's overall outstanding quality, all they have to do is read the AOPiBamaMom thread and get set straight. Remember the one right after rush about how much her daughter loves the chapter?

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=89619

My humblest apologies to anyone who may have misunderstood my meaning!!!! I'm quite sure AOPi at Alabama has much to be proud of like a ton of Bama' sororities!!!! I was just trying to make the point that Alabama's Panhellenic system (and I reckon IFC system too, for that matter) is really great and growing all around unbelievably!! But yeah, I should have just said something like "Wow!! that's almost 40 members more than a year ago!!" Alpha Omicron Pi has much to be proud of!!!! I know of few things that look and smell as beautiful as a rose!!!!

[magnoliacurious]

Originally Posted by Angels&Arrows

Pi Phi has 144 Actives, 79 NM for a Chapter total of 223!

Really and truly, AWESOME!!!! Just think of how many sororities nationally would kill (so to speak!) for those numbers.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by estherjb

It seems like it is the same few who feel the need to crack the whip, although they crack it with vigor. Everybody was new once and if someone flamed you every time you did something "inappropriate" you might not be around now.

It takes more time and thought but you can make your point without making it at the expense of others, unless your point is to snap on someone; although I am either the pot or the kettle here because I have been guilty of the instant reply that was unnecessarily snide.

I got told my chapter dirty rushed me and violated NPC rules when I was a PNM. I got over it.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by magnoliacurious

My humblest apologies to anyone who may have misunderstood my meaning!!!! I'm quite sure AOPi at Alabama has much to be proud of like a ton of Bama' sororities!!!! I was just trying to make the point that Alabama's Panhellenic system (and I reckon IFC system too, for that matter) is really great and growing all around unbelievably!! But yeah, I should have just said something like "Wow!! that's almost 40 members more than a year ago!!" Alpha Omicron Pi has much to be proud of!!!! I know of few things that look and smell as beautiful as a rose!!!!

Your numbers are off. After formal recruitment last year, AOII had 202 members.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by estherjb

It seems like it is the same few who feel the need to crack the whip, although they crack it with vigor. Everybody was new once and if someone flamed you every time you did something "inappropriate" you might not be around now.

It takes more time and thought but you can make your point without making it at the expense of others, unless your point is to snap on someone; although I am either the pot or the kettle here because I have been guilty of the instant reply that was unnecessarily snide.

Yes, most people here DID get flamed for doing something inappropriate when they were new here. I still remember my first flame, and it did cause me to step back and consider what I post on GC.

I have tried to be patient and ignore the helimoms, but seriously, helimoming your daughter's FRIEND, asking for info that could easily be gained by your daughter?? Come on. Yes, the daughter is probably a new member, and it is probably intimidating...but it's a life-learning experience that I think today's youth are not getting. If mommy comes in and takes us out of every uncomfortable situation, we'll never learn how to deal with it.

I did ETA and apologize for the harsh words, but no matter how you say it, my opinion still stands.

[magnoliacurious]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

Your numbers are off. After formal recruitment last year, AOII had 202 members.

Sorry!! I was going by the greek life office website numbers. Still real impressive!!

[Helicopter1]

Everything I've heard about Bama's rush this year has been positive...that's why I ask you again, AOPMOM---what was your question? But if it's going to piss people off, don't do it.

[AOII BAMA MOM]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

NO. A sorority CANNOT offer bids after they've met quota and total.

Here's the thing....
I was OK with ignoring the Helicopter parents...I'm a parent myself, I can sympathize a little...but you're now helicoptering YOUR DAUGHTER'S FRIEND??? WHAT.THE.EFF.???

The questions you asked us should have been asked BY YOUR DAUGHTER to her sorority's MEMBERSHIP CHAIR...not by YOU on GREEKCHAT.

By the way... you WERE a Tri Delta??? Did you turn in your pin?

ETA: I realize I was harsh, and I'm sorry...but AOII BAMA MOM, have you not read ANYTHING else on here? The boards have not been favorable this year to moms who are spoon feeding their daughters and living vicariously.

WOW I had not checked this thread in a while and was stunned by the unkind comments directed to me. I was simply inquiring about a Spring Rush at UA. No, my daughter did not ask me to come onto this site and find out. She merely asked me if I had ever heard of there being one. So, just for fun I thought that I would come here and ask. I was stunned by your response. FYI my daughter is doing just fine at Bama. She understands that going to college is more than just getting a degree its about learning life lessons that will prepare you for the "Real World." (without mommy and daddy). With regard to your surly comment about turning in my Tri Delta pledge pin, I obviously used the wrong sentence structure. I AM a Tri Delta and I WAS at the University of Georgia. I know that you don't care about this but these first posts that I have made on this site will be my last. You have given me the impression that this is not a friendly site for information.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by AOII BAMA MOM

WOW I had not checked this thread in a while and was stunned by the unkind comments directed to me. I was simply inquiring about a Spring Rush at UA. No, my daughter did not ask me to come onto this site and find out. She merely asked me if I had ever heard of there being one. So, just for fun I thought that I would come here and ask. I was stunned by your response. FYI my daughter is doing just fine at Bama. She understands that going to college is more than just getting a degree its about learning life lessons that will prepare you for the "Real World." (without mommy and daddy). With regard to your surly comment about turning in my Tri Delta pledge pin, I obviously used the wrong sentence structure. I AM a Tri Delta and I WAS at the University of Georgia. I know that you don't care about this but these first posts that I have made on this site will be my last. You have given me the impression that this is not a friendly site for information.

If she's already at school there, she can call the Greek Life office (or whatever that school's equivilant of that is) or physically go there and find out herself.



Just sayin'.

[AOII BAMA MOM]

Originally Posted by AOII BAMA MOM

WOW I had not checked this thread in a while and was stunned by the unkind comments directed to me. I was simply inquiring about a Spring Rush at UA. No, my daughter did not ask me to come onto this site and find out. She merely asked me if I had ever heard of there being one. So, just for fun I thought that I would come here and ask. I was stunned by your response. FYI my daughter is doing just fine at Bama. She understands that going to college is more than just getting a degree its about learning life lessons that will prepare you for the "Real World." (without mommy and daddy). With regard to your surly comment about turning in my Tri Delta pledge pin, I obviously used the wrong sentence structure. I AM a Tri Delta and I WAS at the University of Georgia. I know that you don't care about this but these first posts that I have made on this site will be my last. You have given me the impression that this is not a friendly site for information.

Correction on my above mentioned reply, I meant to put Tri Delta Pin not Pledge Pin. I was initiated many years ago. I am sure that you would have picked up on that.

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by PenguinTrax

I think all houses are currently at or over total right now.

SDT isn't and I'm not sure if GPhiB, who had a good fall recruitment from what I heard, is at or over total or just below

[estherjb]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

NO. A sorority CANNOT offer bids after they've met quota and total.

Here's the thing....
I was OK with ignoring the Helicopter parents...I'm a parent myself, I can sympathize a little...but you're now helicoptering YOUR DAUGHTER'S FRIEND??? WHAT.THE.EFF.???

The questions you asked us should have been asked BY YOUR DAUGHTER to her sorority's MEMBERSHIP CHAIR...not by YOU on GREEKCHAT.

By the way... you WERE a Tri Delta??? Did you turn in your pin?

ETA: I realize I was harsh, and I'm sorry...but AOII BAMA MOM, have you not read ANYTHING else on here? The boards have not been favorable this year to moms who are spoon feeding their daughters and living vicariously.

Originally Posted by AOII BAMA MOM

WOW I had not checked this thread in a while and was stunned by the unkind comments directed to me. I was simply inquiring about a Spring Rush at UA. No, my daughter did not ask me to come onto this site and find out. She merely asked me if I had ever heard of there being one. So, just for fun I thought that I would come here and ask. I was stunned by your response. FYI my daughter is doing just fine at Bama. She understands that going to college is more than just getting a degree its about learning life lessons that will prepare you for the "Real World." (without mommy and daddy). With regard to your surly comment about turning in my Tri Delta pledge pin, I obviously used the wrong sentence structure. I AM a Tri Delta and I WAS at the University of Georgia. I know that you don't care about this but these first posts that I have made on this site will be my last. You have given me the impression that this is not a friendly site for information.

I lost my first post which is probably just as well since I have preached a kindler, gentler GC but may I say I am appalled by the negative, judgmental nitpicking of some of you. What you consider as borderline psychotic parenting, AlphaFrog, I would consider courtesy on the part of AOPiBama Mom. Your criticisms of her were based on your assumptions which turned out to be incorrect, didn't they?

What is the deal with some of you? Why are you so bitter about what you term "heliparents". Were your own parents not there for you or so distant and removed that your resent other people whose parents are involved in their lives? Or were you raised by wolves? Based on your manners, I would guess the latter.

Lighten up and go find a witch hunt somewhere. Madame DeFarge is waiting for you.

[UGAalum94]

Helicopter parents might ruin America if their weirdness becomes any more pervasive than it is.

They must be stopped.

It has nothing to do with the kind of parenting one received. It's interaction with the helicopters that make one realized the damage they can do.

(On the other hand, I don't think we need to be rude to people, but it's hard to take a lesson in politeness from someone who suggests that others were raised by wolves. "just sayin'" as the kids say.)

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by estherjb

Your criticisms of her were based on your assumptions which turned out to be incorrect, didn't they?

Actually, I consider it worse. It's 1000% characteristic of helimomming. If her daughter didn't ASK her to stick her nose in, why did she feel it necessary? I'm assuming she's got one of those daughters that doesn't realize that her mom is a helimom, because she's ALWAYS done EVERYTHING for her, and just doesn't know any other way.

My parents raised me so that by the time I got to highschool they didn't have to be worried about me. They knew I wasn't out getting into trouble, and they trusted me to take care of myself, and come to them if I had a problem. They came to a few music concerts and softball games and plays, but they didn't feel the need to be at every single one, and I didn't feel the need to have them there. When I got to college, they still came to a few of my events, but mainly allowed me my freedom. I called them when I've had job interviews to give me a couple practice questions or to run and idea by them for an outfit, but they would never DREAM of actually going to an interview with me. You can be a decent parent without being a helicopter.

Now, my own daughter is turning three. She came to me yesterday with a puzzle, wanting me to put it together for her. I started her out, by putting in a few of the corner pieces in, and then let her work on it. She stopped a few times, frustrated and asking me to do it for her...but I just told her that she was good, and she knew how and she smiled and kept right on working. I could have put it together for her, but what does that do for her?