How NOT to act

[flirt5721]

If a sister tells you that you are being dumb and need to leave you should do it. We have a word CORA that if it is called that person do what the other said. Only if they are representing the chapter in a bad way.

[Stef the Pef]

Originally posted by honeychile
I have to believe that, when our charter was granted in 1851, the very thought of a lady going to the bathroom in anything but a privy or a chamber pot was not even considered! Over 154 years later, I'd like to think that it's STILL something considered private!

Eesh, that brings up some sticky situations--one of the organizations at Baylor's the Chamber of Commerce, which is often referred in jest as "chamber pots."

If it's not a porcelain "pot," don't use it.

Lots of great advice, though I'd add not letting the cops in under any circumstances. I think they have to have a warrant to search your house unless you invite them in. Stick some sober folks on door duty and keep the cops (and anyone on a persona non grata list) out.

I don't even like to have a camera out at parties. You never know when your mom's going to search your computer at home for "what is my little sweetie doing at college?" Don't have the evidence of you or your friends three sheets to the wind by not creating it in the first place.

[Drunkie679]

If you have an exhange....NO CAMARAS ALLOWED...Let's be honest...When we get drunk...we are not going to care how the pic turns out...and next thing you know ...it WILL END UP ON MYSPACE.

I dnt know about you....but CSULB...is Notorious for having girls dressing very scandalous...I am not complaining...i am a guy...Because it is really the only time you can dress like that and not have people label you as a hoe. I believe that you should tell your new girls to becare full who they hang out with. I am not going to lie...they are a few house that I am personally shocked that girls still go to after hearing about girls being drugged there.

I believe that anyone can do anything...as long as they can not get all crazy and end up dancing on top of the bra flashing their fellow sisters...at their Formal...yea...I know some girls that do that.

Also...Fraternity house rules...Even though it is not your house ladies...Please do not trash. We know that fraternity house aren' the cleanest...but we have people that live there...so when you put to much TP in the toilet...a pledge is going to clean it up

[norcalluvbug]

Originally Posted by gococksgo

When dancing, both feet must be kept on the floor.

WOW, that is all I can say. maybe i have a dirty mind, but is this reffering to a little hanky panky on the dance floor. now girls, these mixers are a time for you to act like a lady, not a slutbag. ok

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by frathole

Don't do drugs in public. Not ladylike.

Dear God, I really hope this was a sarcastic comment.

[sugarplumfairy]

I saw a bumper-sticker the other day that said "MySpace ruined my life"...ain't it the truth?

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by sugarplumfairy

I saw a bumper-sticker the other day that said "MySpace ruined my life"...ain't it the truth?

Not if you don't put stuff you don't want the world to see on your Myspace. Easy.

[norcalluvbug]

to call this the common sense thread?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by norcalluvbug

to call this the common sense thread?

Unfortunately, for some sorority members, this is not common sense. Don't believe me, check out some sorority member's facebook or Myspace albums.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

1. Don't drink at an official event if you're underage. It doesn't make you cool.
2. Just because you have reached your 21st birthday doesn't mean you need to get drunk at all possible times.
3. Don't bring a date that you know will cart around an alcoholic pacifier or will arrive trashed.
4. You are responsible for your date.
5. Dress appropriately. (Learn how to tastefully show skin.)
6. You can have fun, but don't do anything that you think your parents would kill you for.
7. Respect the venue of the event, especially if it isn't yours.
8. Follow all rules the sorority sets, and make sure your date does as well.
9. Arrive and leave with sisters.
10. Make sure that someone sober is driving.
11. Don't bring a camera if you know you'll be doing something you aren't supposed to be doing.
12. PUT IT IN A CUP. 21 or not.

It's all common sense and they should know it. The best thing to say is to remind them that they represent their sisters and their sisters represent them. Behave accordingly.

[sirfratalot]

Originally Posted by Betarulz!

Some simple things that, at least from this guy's view, are appreciated in terms of risk management, courtesy to the hosts, etc. (some of these might vary based on your campus, but this is taking the most conservative view and will keep anyone from getting in trouble). These are all things that pissed the hell out of me when I had a party house and freshmen girls would come over.

*Do NOT go outside! Especially if you are underage, drunk or loud. I don't care how long the line for the bathroom is, or how hot/loud it is (maybe if youre hot, you could take off your coat, and if you really can't use your cell inside, ask me if you can go into another room). I have neighbors who don't appreciate 20 people running around outside. People outside a party house is the easiest thing to fix to avoid getting a party busted.

*Do not pee outside...that's about the worse thing ever, and the surest thing that will get neighbors to call the cops.

*Be frugal with the toilet paper...I NEVER went through as much toilet paper in one year as I did last year, I was constantly out. Also, the tri-delts twice flooded my bathroom b/c they were using so much.

*If something happens that is far beyond your ability to take care of on your own (eg. the toilet floods) GET THE HOUSE OWNER ASAP or tell one of the fraternity members. If the girls who flooded my bathroom would have just told someone about 10 minutes earlier when they first did it, then it would have made everyone's life easier.

*Do not go into rooms that have the door closed, without getting permission. There is probably a damn good reason why that door is shut...especially if it has been shut all night.

*If you absolutely must smoke, make sure to find someplace appropriate. Many leases have no smoking clauses, but the garage is usually a safe bet.

*If some older guys starts yelling at you to stop doing whatever it is you are doing...don't get pissed off b/c he's ruining your fun, more than likely it's his house and he's doing you the favor by hosting your little underage drinkfest, and whatever youre doing is dangerous and/or stupid.

*Don't go into the cabinets or the refridgerator, and keep your fucking hands off my food, and my good bottles of alcohol. If there is no mixer left, don't assume that the half open carton of OJ is for you.

*If the guys ask you to pitch in with the cost of alcohol, don't get pissed off that you have pay $2-5 for one night of binge drinking (never mind the fact that you're drinking for free most nights)...in less than three years youre going to be paying 4x that amount to go to the bars and that will be a cheap night for you.

*Remember, you are representing your sorority at all times. Any sort of things you do will characterize the rest of your house. After the two flooding incidents, Tri-delt was no longer welcome at my house...

*Also, it is probably 100% likely that any older fraternity members know girls in your house, and if you do something dumb, or steal my stuff, or break something, or just generally cause problems, it will get back to your house/chapter.

*Finally, if the cops do come: First, shut up if someone tells you to be quiet - please hang up your phone too. Second, put down your beer or cup (typical MIP probable cause). Third, if the cops bust the party, leave as they tell you to, don't try to exit out the back door/hide/go through a window, do not say a word, and for god's sake don't talk about how drunk you are. When outside, call sober sis, or let some other sober person take you home. Do not drive home (saw that DUI happen...). Also, don't talk about going to another party, b/c the cops may follow you there, and then you've busted up another party.


EDITED TO ADD:

Along with the not going outside, do not take cups or cans or bottles out with you. Never know when a cop may pass by and see you with it. Also, NEVER, NEVER take drinks into the sober drivers car.

That was a pretty awesome post dude. Don't get me wrong I love sorority girls for the most part, but they can be rude and disrespectful as shit. Another thing I would like to add to this: If you have a friend/boyfriend in a fraternity who makes a pledge give you a ride somewhere or if the fraternity makes pledges pick you up for anything, DO NOT complain about the music/temperature/the way the driver is driving. It's been awhile since I was a pledge, but I still remember how hard it was to restrain from slapping the shit out of a few girls. The pledges usually will not say anything for fear of getting balled, but they will remember who was a douche to them. Later those same pledges are going to be members and they will remember. I know of fraternities that will stop giving rides to members of certain sororities because they suck at generally being decent people to pledge drivers who are giving them a ride free of charge, not to mention, that most fraternities make pledges buy their own gas to pick girls up. It's also probably certain that that pledge doesn't want to pick you up and would rather be doing something else. So as a rule of thumb with pledge drivers. . and ALL other people who do you favors Greek related or not. . be grateful.

[jadis96]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Unfortunately, for some sorority members, this is not common sense. Don't believe me, check out some sorority member's facebook or Myspace albums.

Sad to admit, but oh so true. I tell my students this and for some reason they seem to get it (how an 11 year old understands and some college students don't is beyond me) "If it's not in writing or on a picture it never happened, so don't write it down or put it in a picture".

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by sirfratalot

That was a pretty awesome post dude. Don't get me wrong I love sorority girls for the most part, but they can be rude and disrespectful as shit. Another thing I would like to add to this: If you have a friend/boyfriend in a fraternity who makes a pledge give you a ride somewhere or if the fraternity makes pledges pick you up for anything, DO NOT complain about the music/temperature/the way the driver is driving. It's been awhile since I was a pledge, but I still remember how hard it was to restrain from slapping the shit out of a few girls. The pledges usually will not say anything for fear of getting balled, but they will remember who was a douche to them. Later those same pledges are going to be members and they will remember. I know of fraternities that will stop giving rides to members of certain sororities because they suck at generally being decent people to pledge drivers who are giving them a ride free of charge, not to mention, that most fraternities make pledges buy their own gas to pick girls up. It's also probably certain that that pledge doesn't want to pick you up and would rather be doing something else. So as a rule of thumb with pledge drivers. . and ALL other people who do you favors Greek related or not. . be grateful.

I back you up on that. I feel bad for them anyway...they're tired, they would much rather be partying, and they've got enough on their minds anyway besides your inane chatter and complaints.

[sirfratalot]

Originally Posted by sirfratalot

That was a pretty awesome post dude. Don't get me wrong I love sorority girls for the most part, but they can be rude and disrespectful as shit. Another thing I would like to add to this: If you have a friend/boyfriend in a fraternity who makes a pledge give you a ride somewhere or if the fraternity makes pledges pick you up for anything, DO NOT complain about the music/temperature/the way the driver is driving. It's been awhile since I was a pledge, but I still remember how hard it was to restrain from slapping the shit out of a few girls. The pledges usually will not say anything for fear of getting balled, but they will remember who was a douche to them. Later those same pledges are going to be members and they will remember. I know of fraternities that will stop giving rides to members of certain sororities because they suck at generally being decent people to pledge drivers who are giving them a ride free of charge, not to mention, that most fraternities make pledges buy their own gas to pick girls up. It's also probably certain that that pledge doesn't want to pick you up and would rather be doing something else. So as a rule of thumb with pledge drivers. . and ALL other people who do you favors Greek related or not. . be grateful.

I want also to add to my own post. If you puke in a pledge's car you officially suck at life and will be ridiculed at the next chapter. Half of the pledges in every single pledge class have someone puke in their car and this is neither classy nor respectable. If you have any doubts as to whether you will puke, do not get into a pledge's car. Like I said earlier, these pledges are often mentally, physically, and emotionally abused and when you puke in their car, you really fuck things up for them.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by sirfratalot

Like I said earlier, these pledges are often mentally, physically, and emotionally abused.

Well, there's a fabulously intelligent thing to post on a message board.