Fill in the Blank: In Honor of Mother's Day...

[treblk]

I wish my mother (or lady as I call her) would realize that...
I am my own woman, with all the love and lessons she's taught me.
That I am going to make my mistakes, and she does not have to remind me
That she so needs to let go of old isht they only breed evil
That I'm not moving back to CA..no sir!
That when I'm upset, let me be upset, it aint go nuffin to do with you..sheesh
That no matter how upset at her I get, I thank GOD for her and all her crazyness.


HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL GC MOTHERS

[MaMaBuddha]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
No Matter How Hard I Try,
I Cannot Get My Mother to Understand __________________

-why i choose the life that i live.

-although she was in labor with me for 48 hours...it was my grandmother and father that raised me.

[#1 Leading Lady]

I wish my mother would understand______________________

If she wants to be kept in the loop of the family secrets...when I say don't tell nobody that's what I mean. If she wants us to have a relationship like me and my Grandmother (RIP) she needs to keep her mouth closed. Until then she is on restriction.

[Queencece]

I could get my mother to understand that we just CAN'T get along. That we are two different people. That she needs to grow up. That I am more of an adult than she is. That no matter what, she needs to get her act together. That it is too late to be a "mother" to me or my siblings. That she needs therapy. That no matter how hard I try to make a connection to her, SHE is the one that deadens (is that a word?!) it. That her mouth is going to write a check that her azz can't cash. That NONE of us (her 3 kids) can stand her. That this is ALL her fault. That help is there and so is God. That I pray that she gets herself together and that NOTHING will be right until then.

I guess I better stop now. I am happy for all those who love their mothers and have great relationships with them. I used to be hopeful that I would be able to say that one day, but as hard as I have tried and as much as I have been hurt in the process, I just don't care for it now.

Sorry if this is not quite what the thread is about, but it helped me release somethings. All of which I have said to her before.

Q

[AKA_Monet]

I cannot get my mother to understand:

...that because have cleaved myself to my husband and we have become "one flesh", that he is now my end all, be all family...

...that her immediate family issues are no longer my issues...

...and what can I do about them way up where I live???

...and why do I want to do anything about those issues to begin with...

...and if she wants to keep our relationship superficial and passive aggressive, then I no longer want to play that game anymore...

...that she needs keep her life together before she gets the men in her life together...

[Im_just_me]

...that my grams(R.I.P.) raised me and both my sisters. Everything I know about life, SHE taught me and thats just the way it is.

-That we have been on a first name basis since I can remember. Things haven't and prolly won't change.

-I don't let my daughter around you for the same reason's that your mama didn't let me around you.

-That you have 3 AMAZING daughters, but, you're so caught up in yourself that you don't realize it(maybe you don't care...)

-That you need to get your life together. God is taking His people everyday...don't get caught without having made amends. You did give birth to me, I don't want you in end up in eternal damnation.

-That I go put flowers on my grandmothers grave, instead of giving them to you, because she was the one who put a swift kick in my a$$ when I needed it (even when I didn't) to make sure I grew up to be a responsible woman. I hope that you understand that. If you don't...well, thats on you.

I'd give ANYTHING to have my grams with me again...anything. For those of you who have your mom, grandma, whoever raised you--cherish the time you have with them.