Losing my membership - Page 3

CC1GC · #31 05-20-2003, 02:08 PM

Did this bring flashbacks for anyone else...collective anti-greek voices:"at least i don't buy my friends"

Lost, don't get too bitter about your head office. I'm sure many of us have dealt with HQ bureaucracy, or inconsistency at some level. Try not to focus on the individual or theory that your organization is based on. Instead, point out the lack of structure that can lead subgroups to make mistakes like this. Hopefully, some benefit of change can be an unforseen postive of this experience.

Lost · #32 06-01-2003, 06:05 PM

Thanks again to everyone that has been so kind and PM'd me with offers of help.

I sent a letter asking for a two-week extension of the deadline to pay the full amount due. I know it got there because I sent it via overnight service and then confirmed the arrival. I'm going to call tomorrow to follow up but think it is a little odd that there has been no call, e-mail or letter yet. Of course, I'm a bit anxious so the wait is killing me.

As a side note...many people in my org have mentioned the rudeness of some of our HQ workers but I had never experienced that until now. I had never dealt with this lady before though so maybe it is just her.

Hubby and I are doing much better with communication and finances. A fight and apologies on both sides helped clear the air and get us back to where we needed to be...working together. At least one good thing has come out of this.

Fraternally,

(still) Lost

CatStarESP4 · #33 06-01-2003, 06:41 PM

Lost, I am glad that things are so far working out between you and your hubby. I hope you hear from your HQ real soon! Don't be a stranger and keep us posted on what they have to say to you. Good luck!

AGDLynn · #34 06-01-2003, 10:33 PM

Lost, it saddens me to think that your HQ staff are not helpful, sometimes rude. I am sooo thankful that the AGD IHQ staff is always helpful and quick with a reply, either by telephone or email...even to my "kinda stupid" questions

whether I was an advisor or not.

If "many" of your sisters are getting "rude" help from your HQ staff, perhaps someone should be looking into that! Even if the "staff" member isn't a sister, that doesn't mean that she/he should be rude to whomever is calling..after all she/he is representing your organization.

Best of luck!
Lynn

Eirene_DGP · #35 06-02-2003, 10:20 AM

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Originally posted by Lost

Hubby and I are doing much better with communication and finances. A fight and apologies on both sides helped clear the air and get us back to where we needed to be...working together. At least one good thing has come out of this.

I am really glad things worked out with you and your husband. A little communication goes a long way....

justamom · #36 06-02-2003, 01:28 PM

Give it a little time! This i one of THE busiest weeks for many people. Loose ends, paper work, vacation, holidays, makeup piled up work... Plus, they will have to do a bit of ther own research as well. I'm crossing my fingers for you.

So glad you cleared th air with Hubby! I do it on a regular basis!

CatStarESP4 · #37 06-23-2003, 03:05 PM

Hey Lost, I was just wondering if you heard anything from your HQ about the payment situation. Keep us posted on what happened! Good luck!

aabby757 · #38 06-23-2003, 03:17 PM

I too find Tom's response a bit harsh. As a relatively new poster but a long time "observer" there seems to be a huge rush to judgement of the people who have a trillion posts and therefore are experts as to who is impersonating someone, who is banned but has now resurfaced, etc.

Can't someone post a question and simply read the responses instead of posting a million follow up responses without being accused of a million different things?

I know this isn't the correct message subject to bring this up but I just feel that just because you have a million posts and I don't doesn't make you any more entitled to a post/message/non response than anyone else.

Just had to vent.

tunatartare · #39 06-23-2003, 04:55 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
Husband issues aside...am I the only one who finds this VERY disturbing? I understand that our organizations need money to function and that members must be financially responsible, but it seems reprehensible to me to expel a sister because of money, especially after giving her so little time to fix the problem.

I thought sisterhood was for life, through good times and bad. This woman should be cut a little slack.

I agree, the sorority should note this woman's time and dedication to it and should definitely give her a break. If it really believes that they're "sisters for life" then it should not be telling one of its members that she's going to be kicked out if she can't pay. That makes the sorority look snobby and shallow, and gives Greek life a bad name.

Lost · #40 06-23-2003, 10:15 PM

HQ and I played phone tag for about a week. When we finally talked, I was told that the letter was a standard one sent as a last resort if there had been no response to a phone call. Call? What call? They thought someone in the office had already called me to discuss so it was just a misunderstanding.

They gave me an extension but it looks like I might not be able to meet that. I'll be sending HQ some money as a show of good faith and will ask them to be patient once again. No matter how long it takes or what happens with my membership, the debt will be paid. I don't think it is going to be a problem though.

I STILL have medical bills rolling in. I had what was supposed to be a minor procedure that turned into something a bit more than that and required second opinions and extra tests. Just when I think we're done, I turn around and another doctor or lab is sending me a bill! The extremely good news is that all tests have come back clear and I've been told that I do not have cancer.

Hubby and I are doing much better. It's not perfect but definitely improved. Funny how a couple of fights/discussions, done properly, can clear the air.

I'm not used to this much drama in my life at one time and it has been quite overwhelming. The cancer scare and financial mess forced me to put things in perspective though and my marriage seems to be getting stronger than before. It's true that when it rains, it pours, but I am definitely seeing some sunshine headed my way. I look forward to having all this behind me very soon.

Best wishes to you all.

Tom Earp · #41 06-23-2003, 10:32 PM

Lost, please do not give up! Keep plugging along!

I have empathy for you as I have been through a lot this last 9 mon!

Glad things are working out on the home front!!!!!

Thank you for keeping us posted, we all care, beleive me!

I am not the Ogre that I can sometimes be!

Hang in Sweety, You know We are all rooting for you!!!!!!!!!

LeslieAGD · #42 06-23-2003, 10:47 PM

Lost, it sounds like a classic case of "the right hand doesn't know what the left is doing" (that's what my dad calls it). I'm glad to hear things are looking up and I hope you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel with your financial issues.

astroAPhi · #43 06-23-2003, 11:23 PM

Well, it is great news to hear about things hopefully being cleared up, but even better to hear that you do not have cancer!

pinkyphimu · #44 06-24-2003, 10:03 AM

lost, i am glad to hear that you are ok!!! i hope things keep working out with your hq, too.

honeychile · #45 06-24-2003, 01:12 PM

Lost, I am SO glad to hear that you're cancer-free! That's what's the most important right now, and I'm just thrilled for you!