What Absolutely NOT to have on Facebook

[groovypq]

^People DO that??? I mean, if you gotta pin sex positions, you're doing it wrong.

[KSUViolet06]

I really do wish I could say they didn't. lol.

[KSUViolet06]

^^^Yeah. Pinterest is still very new though and I don't think they've done it yet. You CAN flag stuff like that as inappropriate/offensive/etc. and they'll remove it.

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by Jen

8) Hide all your game posts. Or make them visible to only game playing FB friends. Because Panhellenic doesn't care about your farm.

But Ceres and Sigma Alpha might!

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by Jen

8) Hide all your game posts. Or make them visible to only game playing FB friends. Because Panhellenic doesn't care about your farm.

LOL!!

I think we've covered the obvious - don't post pictures or descriptions of yourself doing anything illegal, and don't post anything that might lead people to believe you are promiscuous.

Don't post a bunch of religious or political items. I've seen walls where about 90% of the items are Obama-bashing. I've seen more "Jesus is Lord, repost if you agree" posts than I like to think about it - Jesus ain't the lord of me! Basically, think about the four B's (boys, booze, bank, Bible) and about politics - if it falls under any of those categories, think twice before posting it.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by Jen

Things I Never Want To See On Facebook:

1) Duckface. YOU. DO. NOT. LOOK. SEXY. You look deranged and laughable. I don't want to pledge the girl that ended up on antiduckface.com.

2) Orange spray tan.

3) Sticking your tongue out in pics so we can see your tongue piercing. No, it doesn't make you edgy.

4) "Sexy" pic of you in your bathroom mirror. When you look in Vogue magazine, there is rarely a toilet in the background of all the pictures.

5) Pics of you posing in barely there clothes trying to look like you deserve to be in Maxim. Mostly you post them so everyone will go "oooh, you're so gorgeous!" and you can bask in 3 seconds of attention whoring. The slutty looking attention whore isn't a big want on most recruitment lists.

6) Statuses that say things like "OMG, so trashed last night" or "Ugh, I hate failing classes" or "So-and-so is such a skank whore". My personal hatred also goes out to the sappy "OMG baby I miss youuuuuuuu <3" statuses accompanied by pics of you making out with your summer boyfriend.

7) ANY posts about a particular sorority, even if it's a positive "OMG, I love the XYZs at my school!"

8) Hide all your game posts. Or make them visible to only game playing FB friends. Because Panhellenic doesn't care about your farm.

FTW.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Jen

PS: Even if your profile is private, if you post to any pages or open groups your posts are visible.

That's why I said "make what you post private." If a girl who has grown up with the Internet doesn't know how to do that or check for that, she's too dumb for a sorority.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If a girl who has grown up with the Internet doesn't know how to do that or check for that, she's too dumb for a sorority.

FTW

[melindawarren]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That's why I said "make what you post private." If a girl who has grown up with the Internet doesn't know how to do that or check for that, she's too dumb for a sorority.

It used to be easier than it is now. I admit to having trouble figuring out how to restrict posts and needing someone to remind me how to check my profile. :/ Then again, I also don't post things that people shouldn't see. I don't even let people check me in places, and I have to approve anything that gets posted with me tagged in it (i.e. if someone tags me in a photo or status, I have to approve it. That was a setting I did figure out--no idea how to get back there--and it's awesome).

I also deactivated my facebook during recruitment to avoid having anything go wrong on the facebook front. Obviously, I have a hard time recommending anything I did during formal recruitment as a viable suggestion.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by 33girl

That's why I said "make what you post private." If a girl who has grown up with the Internet doesn't know how to do that or check for that, she's too dumb for a sorority.

I understand why people recommend shutting the whole thing down, but I think it misses an opportunity. If I were going through recruitment today, I would seriously think about using my FB to market myself. I'd make sure that I had pictures of myself doing my best high school activities. I'd have picture of myself and my swimming team mates at State. I'd include pictures of some of the philanthropy work we did for National Honor Society and Science Club. I'd include pictures of my JETS team. (Lord, I was a geek.) I'd include pictures of the really awesome float we built for Science Club for Homecoming. I would also join any pages for any other groups that I'm thinking about joining in college. (Not sororities, but theater, professional groups, whatever) I'd make sure to comment in a positive, upbeat, sweet way on those pages.

I know that all went on my resume/recruitment application, but having pictures makes it more memorable.

[melindawarren]

Originally Posted by KDCat

I understand why people recommend shutting the whole thing down, but I think it misses an opportunity. If I were going through recruitment today, I would seriously think about using my FB to market myself. I'd make sure that I had pictures of myself doing my best high school activities. I'd have picture of myself and my swimming team mates at State. I'd include pictures of some of the philanthropy work we did for National Honor Society and Science Club. I'd include pictures of my JETS team. (Lord, I was a geek.) I'd include pictures of the really awesome float we built for Science Club for Homecoming. I would also join any pages for any other groups that I'm thinking about joining in college. (Not sororities, but theater, professional groups, whatever) I'd make sure to comment in a positive, upbeat, sweet way on those pages.

I know that all went on my resume/recruitment application, but having pictures makes it more memorable.

I see your point. I don't think this is a bad idea, but at the same time, I feel like some girls are still better off not going down that road. You have to have pictures of all of these things in the first place to make this work. If your main high school activity was testing how much alcohol you could drink before you vommed, this is a bad plan.

Also, I hate the idea that you can learn so much about someone through facebook (you didn't say this; others have said it to me). If you read my facebook, all you'd learn about me is that I'm an admin of a Dark Shadows page, do Harry Potter roleplay and play quidditch. It's useful information, but in actuality, it's a VERY small part of what I do. I just don't like facebook and don't use it for anything but what's only facebook-based. If you actually had a conversation with me, you'd learn all that and more.