What Absolutely NOT to have on Facebook
 

I have for years beat into my daughter what NOT to post on FB. And actually, I am the "Mom-o-meter" for most of her friends also. I don't think a thing about letting them know to delete items. (comments, jokes, pictures, etc.)

I have found with most of these girls, they just don't have a good radar of what is not appropriate for others to view.

With girls getting ready for the upcoming recruitment season, I thought this would be a good thread. Nothing like being blunt.

I will not start with the obvious (naked pictures).

My first pet peeve:

Girls smoking Hookah... I don't care if they are of legal smoking age. I HATE these pictures.

^^^Is that a SoFlo thing? I have never seen a Hookah pic on FB.

I hate to be obvious, but if you are under the legal age to drink, don't post pictures of it. I would also recommend that if you are over 21 to not have every other picture be you at a party holding a red cup or playing beer pong.

I would recommend not having any pictures of you doing a keg stand or a beer bong. I strongly warn against having any pictures labeled along the lines of "before the black out" or "I don't even remember this."

Actually I would just say to leave the partying pictures out. I have maybe one or two pictures of me with alcohol and I'm older than 21.

I've seen it out West, so not just a SoFlo thing.

Hookah bars & Hookah parties are very popular SoFlo - for some reason they don't consider it "smoking".

Some of the no-no stuff to post around here: smoking hookah or anything else, holding what looks like alcohol, PDAs, generally just doing anything risky or illegal that could reflect back in a bad way on a sorority if you pledged them. Why pledge a girl who could be a risk management nightmare?

But Ceres and Sigma Alpha might! :p

LOL!!

I think we've covered the obvious - don't post pictures or descriptions of yourself doing anything illegal, and don't post anything that might lead people to believe you are promiscuous.

Don't post a bunch of religious or political items. I've seen walls where about 90% of the items are Obama-bashing. I've seen more "Jesus is Lord, repost if you agree" posts than I like to think about it - Jesus ain't the lord of me! Basically, think about the four B's (boys, booze, bank, Bible) and about politics - if it falls under any of those categories, think twice before posting it.

My pet peeves (not that the ones above aren't annoying, but I don't need to rehash them):

1. Wen u tlk lyk dissssss 4 2 looooooongggggggggg (or at all. At a certain age, I guess it's understandable, but it's obnoxious if you're old enough to go to college.)

2. Anything with more than 3 exclamation points or question marks that isn't something along the lines of "OMG!!! Congrats on your engagement!" once every now and then.

3. You in your bikini. I don't know why a) every girl wants her bikini photos on facebook and b) it seems like everyone lives close enough to a beach to get a bikini photo, but people rarely ever look really good in them, and it's just annoying to read people's comments (because they always go along the lines of 1 and 2).

4. Chain messages in a status

5. You flipping the camera off. Is that really necessary?

6. I like the grandmother test (to a point). When it comes to photos, would you show that to your grandmother? If your grandmother suddenly learned how to email, is that how you'd write to her?

I know that facebook's "just for fun" or whatever, but the thing is, it's not anymore. Also, please be careful to clean up your timeline. 13-year-old you should not become your main online representation if that's not a solid reflection of you.

What has cleaned up my kids' Facebooks: my mom DID get on Facebook a couple of years ago. She comments on stuff too. It's easier to keep it clean.

Also, no swearing or vulgar words.

Also, no one wants to see hour-by-hour status posts. No one really cares enough to know when you're at the coffee shop, the library, or frankly, anywhere else you checked in.

I hate people who constantly post depressing statuses. No one loves me, my life sucks, what a horrible day, etc. No one wants to pledge Debbie Downer.

A personal pet peeve: people who spam invite to applications and events. I really dislike when people use their Facebook friends as a client base.

I don't know- my niece showed up at Easter at her Grandmother's house wearing shorts so short and tight I'm not sure how she didn't injure herself when she sat down. AND she brought her boyfriend that thought it would be okay to stick his tongue down her throat while sitting on the couch. So maybe the "What would Grandma say" test doesn't always work!

But I agree about all the "self-portraits" and crazy status updates.

Also not mentioned yet:

• posts that begin with Hey bitches....what's up?
• photos in which the young lady and her boyfriend are laying in bed, obviously not wearing much
• posts that rants about how awful/mean/terrible your parents are
• posts/photos in which you are obviously cheating (answers, text book pages, etc)

I hadn't seen any of those mentioned yet, and I've seen them on FB in the last 6 months.