PNM's and future college facebook groups caution! - Page 3

DTD Alum · #31 07-22-2010, 03:24 PM

My school's board is fine. The only thing was that a fraternity member posted a thread to help answer questions about Greek life (fantastic recruitment idea on his part, although I bet sorority members might be considered dirty rushing if they did it). A NPHC sorority member also chimed in with assistance. The questions were mostly about when is rush, how expensive is it, is there hazing etc. Perfectly normal questions which were answered responsibly.

One PNM, however, wrote "what are the specific images for each sorority? I need to know whether I join the right one or not." The fraternity member wrote a tactful response about how you have to rush to find the house that is right for you and not listen to stereotypes. She then replied (something to the extent of) "I know...but seriously, what are they? I am just curious. I heard ABC is the best choice."

The funny thing is that simply by looking at how she's represented herself on her profile, she does not have a shot in hell at ABC and is actually going to be very hard pressed to get a bid to the vast majority of sororities.

DrPhil · #32 07-22-2010, 04:33 PM

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The funny thing is that simply by looking at how she's represented herself on her profile, she does not have a shot in hell at ABC and is actually going to be very hard pressed to get a bid to the vast majority of sororities.

Good.

Lesson learned. I hope she goes bidless.

AOII_LB93 · #33 07-22-2010, 04:47 PM

Oh the extra letters thing drives me nuts! My younger sister does it, even via chat on facebook and I called her on it. She said "I'm so exciteddddddd I got promoteddddd!" My response, "Congrats, though it was obviously not for your spelling skills."

I checked out my school's 2014 (there are like 4) but nothing bad thus far.

Parfait · #34 07-23-2010, 03:26 AM

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"I know...but seriously, what are they? I am just curious. I heard ABC is the best choice."

Well that is quite obnoxious of her. Why would you be so pushy about it? Is she just clueless?

abbeydae · #35 07-27-2010, 02:29 PM

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this question, but it's regarding facebook and recruitment.

I met this girl at orientation and we discovered that we had a mutal friend (who happens to be an XYZ) and we are both going through recruitment, so we added each other on facebook. Yesterday was her birthday so I wrote a birthday message on her wall. She wrote this on my wall:
"thank u so much girl! u excited for rush?? get pumped! XYZ PC10!!!!!"

I deleted it off my wall, was that the right thing to do? I'm friends with girls from other houses and I didn't want them to thing I'm biased.

Your thoughts?

DrPhil · #36 07-27-2010, 02:33 PM

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Your thoughts?

I think you did the right thing.

You can delete anything you want from your wall. That's why there's an edit option. If she asks why you deleted it (she may never notice and it may be unimportant to her if she does notice) just tell her that you tend to clean your wall from time to time, nothing personal.

KSUViolet06 · #37 07-27-2010, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by abbeydae

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this question, but it's regarding facebook and recruitment.

I met this girl at orientation and we discovered that we had a mutal friend (who happens to be an XYZ) and we are both going through recruitment, so we added each other on facebook. Yesterday was her birthday so I wrote a birthday message on her wall. She wrote this on my wall:
"thank u so much girl! u excited for rush?? get pumped! XYZ PC10!!!!!"

I deleted it off my wall, was that the right thing to do? I'm friends with girls from other houses and I didn't want them to thing I'm biased.

Your thoughts?

Good call.

You don't want other chapters to think you're biased, and you also don't want any XYZs to see that. It's offensive to a chapter when girls post things like that and they have yet to go through recruitment. I mean, until you have that bid in your hand, you're not an XYZ. Who knows? XYZ could cut her the first night.

33girl · #38 07-27-2010, 03:37 PM

You did absolutely the right thing as far as you are concerned, and may have saved her butt in the process as well. Super good call.

Alumiyum · #39 07-27-2010, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by abbeydae

I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this question, but it's regarding facebook and recruitment.

I met this girl at orientation and we discovered that we had a mutal friend (who happens to be an XYZ) and we are both going through recruitment, so we added each other on facebook. Yesterday was her birthday so I wrote a birthday message on her wall. She wrote this on my wall:
"thank u so much girl! u excited for rush?? get pumped! XYZ PC10!!!!!"

I deleted it off my wall, was that the right thing to do? I'm friends with girls from other houses and I didn't want them to thing I'm biased.

Your thoughts?

You just did both of you a huge favor. Not only could it possibly have an effect on your interactions with the other sororities, it could seriously piss off XYZ. PNM's who ASSume they will be joining a certain chapter often get passed over because their sorority of choice doesn't appreciate a girl who thinks she's the shiznit. But then, no one does.

If she notices you deleted it you might want to throw her a bone by repeating that advice in a tactful way. She might hurt her chances with XYZ if she keeps that up.

abbeydae · #40 07-27-2010, 04:01 PM

do you think I should say something to her? if she writes that kind of stuff on facebook, I can only imagine what she says in person. I don't want her to tell another PNM (or even worse, an active!) that "me and abbeydae are rushing XYZ!"

KSUViolet06 · #41 07-27-2010, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by abbeydae

do you think I should say something to her? if she writes that kind of stuff on facebook, I can only imagine what she says in person. I don't want her to tell another PNM (or even worse, an active!) that "me and abbeydae are rushing XYZ!"

My opinion:

If you can do it without coming off bitchy or as a know-it-all, then please do.

It's best for her to hear it from another PNM (and maybe be a little miffed that you said that) than to say something dumb to a sorority member and have it jeopardize her chances.

Alumiyum · #42 07-27-2010, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by abbeydae

do you think I should say something to her? if she writes that kind of stuff on facebook, I can only imagine what she says in person. I don't want her to tell another PNM (or even worse, an active!) that "me and abbeydae are rushing XYZ!"

YES. Just find a way to do it nicely. I would go with something like, "We really need to keep our options open so let's not talk about which sorority is our favorite in public." And make it clear that you are open to SEVERAL chapters and do NOT have a favorite yet as you haven't met them all (even if that's not true...it's a white lie and that way she will be less likely to involve you if she does slip up). People always respond better to "we" than "you".

MysticCat · #43 07-27-2010, 04:35 PM

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However, I went to a roommate's survey (curious to see what housing everyone wanted this year), and it asked, among other things, whether or not they were going to pledge and, if so, WHERE they intended to pledge. Yeah, it asked them where. There were several who answered, "Yes, and I'm going to pledge XYZ."

I just think it would be awesome for someone to go up to clueless PNM at ABC's first round and say "Oh. We didn't expect to see you here. We all read on Facebook how you're going to pledge XYZ. So b-bye now."

KSUViolet06 · #44 07-27-2010, 04:44 PM

It's funny because sometimes I think that PNMs think "sorority members shouldn't be FB stalking us anyway" [yes, I've heard that].

It's not stalking. It's Facebook.

These women go to your school and you have a public FB profile. They don't have to DO anything to get to that information. It's just there. lol.

I've heard the same thing from folks who get fired/reprimanded by an employer based on FB. It's always "my employer shouldn't be stalking me on FB."

Nope. Not stalking if you put it out there publicly.

Alumiyum · #45 07-27-2010, 05:26 PM

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I just think it would be awesome for someone to go up to clueless PNM at ABC's first round and say "Oh. We didn't expect to see you here. We all read on Facebook how you're going to pledge XYZ. So b-bye now."

I've been so tempted to do that before I swear it was physically painful to say "Hi! I'm ____, I'm so glad to meet you!" instead.