Recommendations vs. Recs?

[Psi U MC Vito]

I'm lane swerving so any NPC feel free to correct me. It has been my impression that most NPCs require a PNM to have a rec before being offered a bid. Perhaps at less competitive schools a chapter would go out and try to secure one themselves for somebody they really like. But at competitive environments, they wouldn't have the time for that.

[exlurker]

Originally Posted by CopterDad

^^^Ringing true for my daughter^^^

We had no local panhellinic out here in the sticks to organize recs, so we just asked all of our recommenders to fill out the official form for their sorority and send it along with pictures, resume, and transcript directly to the chapters at the school.

Once the PNM and her family find alumnae for 15 or more sororities, prepare pictures, resumes, transcripts, introductory letters, thank you notes, thank you list for results next fall, SASE to the houses, meeting the alumna the PNM doesn't personally know, etc., she should be stress free until she realizes the importance of summer conduct!

Well, I should hope so. She shouldn't have much time left for summer misconduct. By the way, CopterDad, you forgot to mention

* the time it takes to locate a pure white dress,
and
* the time she'll have to spend breaking in all the shoes she plans to wear.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Titchou

I always wonder when we only get a rec from the mom....in fact, I'll personally check the woman out. I also double check out legacies who don't have a rec! (I'm a snoopy, suspicious person by nature)

Agreed. I always wonder when we don't get any rec from a mother's collegiate sisters. It makes me think mom really didn't stay involved because the sorority isn't important to her and she may pass that attitude down to her daughter. Or mom only remembers she's a sorority woman when it means her perfect pretty princess deserves to be in the top chapters.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

I'm lane swerving so any NPC feel free to correct me. It has been my impression that most NPCs require a PNM to have a rec before being offered a bid. Perhaps at less competitive schools a chapter would go out and try to secure one themselves for somebody they really like. But at competitive environments, they wouldn't have the time for that.

It's true of some but I don't know if it's true of most. I wouldn't know how it works at non-competitive schools, but although theoretically a sorority could seek out a rec for a girl who everyone loves and wants, chances are it won't happen. There are way too many other perfect girls to choose from who already have recs.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Mevara

It seems as long as a pnm puts a little effort out they can get a letter of rec from any chapter.

Recs are important for competitive schools, but what is the use if every pnm gets a letter of rec for each chapter? Then what, do you have to get 2 letters of rec for each chapter to stand out? Once every pnm gets 2 letters of rec then do you need to get 3, so forth and so on?

If you work hard enough, you probably can get a rec for each chapter at a school. But you would be surprised how many girls don't, whether they don't want to try hard enough or they already have their minds made up about where they want to be and don't bother with recs for other chapters. This happens a lot at my school. In many chapters you will get cut after the first round if you don't have a rec. Well, if you get cut from your top choices for other things, and you get cut from those middle chapters because you didn't bother to get a rec since you knew you couldn't possibly belong there, you are stuck with very few options after the first round. Then you come to greekchat and complain about how unfair and mean all the sororities at your school are.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

Or mom only remembers she's a sorority woman when it means her perfect pretty princess deserves to be in the top chapters.

This!

[aopirose]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you work hard enough, you probably can get a rec for each chapter at a school. But you would be surprised how many girls don't, whether they don't want to try hard enough or they already have their minds made up about where they want to be and don't bother with recs for other chapters. This happens a lot at my school. In many chapters you will get cut after the first round if you don't have a rec. Well, if you get cut from your top choices for other things, and you get cut from those middle chapters because you didn't bother to get a rec since you knew you couldn't possibly belong there, you are stuck with very few options after the first round. Then you come to greekchat and complain about how unfair and mean all the sororities at your school are.

***golf clap***

[CopterDad]

Originally Posted by exlurker

Well, I should hope so. She shouldn't have much time left for summer misconduct. By the way, CopterDad, you forgot to mention

* the time it takes to locate a pure white dress,
and
* the time she'll have to spend breaking in all the shoes she plans to wear.

Haha. I've already forked out for a cocktail dress in the color that the Greek Life Office said the PNMs "typically" wear. We took "typically" to mean that "you will look like a fish out of water if you don't wear this color."

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

So you'd prefer the mom send a rec than having her get two sisters to send recs?

No, I'm saying they should all send recs. Remember, this is Auburn.

Originally Posted by Mevara

Recs are important for competitive schools, but what is the use if every pnm gets a letter of rec for each chapter?

The purpose is that if everyone else has a rec and you don't, then you may get cut.