Barbie’s Guide to Writing an Honest Real Time Recruitment Story without Sabotaging Yo

[AZTheta]

@Barbie's_Rush, thanks for bumping this.

20something's story kept me up late. Talk about well-written & insightful. It would be great if she'd come back & update us.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by carnation

The 7 I'm speaking of were real live, screen-named GCers. A couple are still active here and PNMs, it's just not worth it to mess up your recruitment even though live threads are fun to make and read.

Let me rephrase that.

"I can't think of any time in the past 2 years (or since we started shunning those who shameless plug) where an ACTIVE, NON-NOOB GCer called up a chapter."

Active as in, posting on a regular basis. Again, I'm sure those who I'm talking about are still lurking though and undoubtedly still doing isht like this. But you could just as easily include them in the non-GCers camp. It's the same concept.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Let me rephrase that.

"I can't think of any time in the past 2 years (or since we started shunning those who shameless plug) where an ACTIVE, NON-NOOB GCer called up a chapter."

Active as in, posting on a regular basis. Again, I'm sure those who I'm talking about are still lurking though and undoubtedly still doing isht like this. But you could just as easily include them in the non-GCers camp. It's the same concept.

One we don't see so much, the other we do. That one has actually visited a campus and her sorority's chapter there at least twice just to get involved in other GCers' recruitments. I wish I were exaggerating but I'm not.

[Ggirl617]

I would just rather the girl post her story right after bid day so she can include funny, fun, interesting, descriptive, etc details. Basically all live stories are going to sound the exact same.

[UofISigKap]

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

If you have a user name that mentions a preference towards a particular sorority, such as BamaKappa2B, WineandSilverBlueAngelGirl, FleurdeLis4Ever, etc, you are made of fail.

^^^This is my favorite quote of the whole post.

[Barbie's_Rush]

The one I can think of off the top of my head was veniceissinking/soliloquy where apparently several greekchatters made damn sure to give their chapters a heads up (and rightfully so.)

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by carnation

One we don't see so much, the other we do. That one has actually visited a campus and her sorority's chapter there at least twice just to get involved in other GCers' recruitments. I wish I were exaggerating but I'm not.

What? No... to me, that just is not right. I can understand "involvement" if one is an advisor, or if the actives are requesting alumae support, or the national has requested alumnae support, but otherwise I'm completely HANDS OFF the recruitment process. There is a recruitment advisor, a membership advisor, and it is the actives' chapter and their membership recruitment process. To me, that's creepy.

Originally Posted by Barbie's_Rush

The one I can think of off the top of my head was veniceissinking/soliloquy where apparently several greekchatters made damn sure to give their chapters a heads up (and rightfully so.)

Now this I can understand, and I agree. As an alumna, if I had knowledge of a PNM that was not in line with the membership selection process, I would contact the recruitment advisor and membership advisor. Definitely.

PNMs would do well to remember that there are GLO alumnae everywhere they go; we are all connected to the high school world (either directly or indirectly through our friends and social groups). And we all talk with one another. You might think no one is watching, but in this day and age, someone is. Good or bad, someone is taking note of what you say and do. Behave accordingly. Yes, it makes a difference.

[carnation]

All good points, AZTheta! And I've written a couple of 'no-recs' in my time and I don't feel guilty about that.

I made a mistake; someone has contacted me to remind me that the aforementioned alum has visited 2 campuses, not 1, to mess with GCers' rushes. You're right, sorry about that.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by carnation

All good points, AZTheta! And I've written a couple of 'no-recs' in my time and I don't feel guilty about that.

I made a mistake; someone has contacted me to remind me that the aforementioned alum has visited 2 campuses, not 1, to mess with GCers' rushes. You're right, sorry about that.

That's what you call PSYCHO!

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by carnation

All good points, AZTheta! And I've written a couple of 'no-recs' in my time and I don't feel guilty about that.

I made a mistake; someone has contacted me to remind me that the aforementioned alum has visited 2 campuses, not 1, to mess with GCers' rushes. You're right, sorry about that.

TOTALLY psycho!

I was just thinking back to the old days, when signatures said, "UNABASHED PLUG FOR XYZ" and such. As a noob, it freaked me out! GreekChat has come a long way.

Another thing I remembered was in my own chapter (before Al Gore invented the internet, and before our MS changed): Sisters were to write their thoughts about each & every PNM each & every day, and these notebooks were to be destroyed prior to Bid Day. Somehow, the one when I rushed wasn't, and I got to see exactly which sister thought what about me - thank heavens most were very, very kind! The one that I'll never forget was, "Too big-breasted, & sexy, must be easy." And those of y'all who have read my retro-recruitment know that I was pretty straitlaced at the time, especially during rush! I couldn't help but remember some of the other comments about PNMs who didn't go ADPi, either!

As I said, Membership Selection has changed drastically for ADPi, but Precious PNMs, I have no idea about the others. As exciting as a real-time thread can be, you will probably do so much better if you do as others have said: Write it out as a document, then post it after Bid Day. And if for some reason, you don't get a bid, it's not the end of the world. Feel free to post about that, too, if you find it cathartic.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by honeychile

And if for some reason, you don't get a bid, it's not the end of the world. Feel free to post about that, too, if you find it cathartic.

That's fine if it's respectful. I hate when bitter people didn't get a bid come on and trash chapters. Part of the reason why we as GCers have a bad rep when it comes to being mean to PNMs - you never know when "OMG I LOVE XYZ!" becomes "OMG THOSE *&^@#$&@ (*&@#(@*#&$! I *(&#$*& HATE THOSE (*&$#@(*& AND I HEARD THEY DO DRUGS!!!!!!!!11!!!!!!!!!!!1!1!one!!!!!!!!!!"

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by agzg

That's fine if it's respectful. I hate when bitter people didn't get a bid come on and trash chapters. Part of the reason why we as GCers have a bad rep when it comes to being mean to PNMs - you never know when "OMG I LOVE XYZ!" becomes "OMG THOSE *&^@#$&@ (*&@#(@*#&$! I *(&#$*& HATE THOSE (*&$#@(*& AND I HEARD THEY DO DRUGS!!!!!!!!11!!!!!!!!!!!1!1!one!!!!!!!!!!"

And we're the mean ones.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by agzg

That's fine if it's respectful. I hate when bitter people didn't get a bid come on and trash chapters. Part of the reason why we as GCers have a bad rep when it comes to being mean to PNMs - you never know when "OMG I LOVE XYZ!" becomes "OMG THOSE *&^@#$&@ (*&@#(@*#&$! I *(&#$*& HATE THOSE (*&$#@(*& AND I HEARD THEY DO DRUGS!!!!!!!!11!!!!!!!!!!!1!1!one!!!!!!!!!!"

Most true!

If someone wants to tell about their experience, and why they shouldn't have done a suicide, or cut someone for a superficial reason, or listened too much to tent talk, I'd like to think that there would be those who would pat their virtual shoulder - IF they realized what happened.

And Snap Bids & COR are fun, too.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by carnation

One we don't see so much, the other we do. That one has actually visited a campus and her sorority's chapter there at least twice just to get involved in other GCers' recruitments. I wish I were exaggerating but I'm not.

Can we guess?

Like "Guess Who" game style?

[Drolefille]

Does she wear glasses?

I remember that being a good one for that game.