MTV's 16 and Pregnant - Page 3

epchick · #1 06-30-2009, 05:27 PM

16 and pregnant might not be the best show to highlight the realities of teen pregnancy but is a whole heck of a lot better than that stupid ABC family show--Secret Life of the American Teenager. I don't know if y'all remember when it first started airing, but it promised to show the "realities of teen pregnancy." Yeah, not quite sure having 100% supportive family, the baby daddy in the picture, and a boyfriend who not only cares that you have a kid (that isnt his) but wants to get married to you the real "reality" of having a kid at 15.

KSUViolet06 · #2 06-30-2009, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Not a good comparison. Guitar Hero is cool. Being broke and having a KID while buying it is not cool (regardless of age).

Exactly. That was the jist of my post (sorry if I was unclear).

If you make six-figures, it's not an issue. It IS an issue when you make minimum wage and have a family to support.

DrPhil · #3 06-25-2009, 11:33 PM

Even being 19 (legally an adult) is different than being a high schooler.

I don't think any parent is truly prepared for children and they all learn as they go through it. But, being more mature and having your life more in order definitely helps.

KSUViolet06 · #4 06-25-2009, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Even being 19 (legally an adult) is different than being a high schooler.

Yeah, even still at 19, I was in no shape to be a parent.

Like, my #1 priority was what I was going to wear to the mixer that weekend or which flavor of ramen I was going to microwave.

Maybe whether I was going to class or whether I was going to skip and go have smoothies with my sisters.

It was definitely not being a mom.

I suppose when you have no choice but to grow up, you do.

DrPhil · #5 06-25-2009, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Yeah, even still at 19, I was in no shape to be a parent.

I say the same for when I was 30.

Still better than being a high schooler.

ComradesTrue · #6 06-25-2009, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

I don't think any parent is truly prepared for children and they all learn as they go through it. But, being more mature and having your life more in order definitely helps.

Yep.

I turned 34 the week after my first kid was born. My life was in order, my finances were in order, and my marriage was in order. This was a child that we had wanted, planned for, and read everything we could prior to his arrival.

And then.... this helpless human being who expected me to feed him, change him, and figure out why he was crying ALL THE FRIGGIN TIME showed up. I turned into a complete mess. I have a master's degree and my husband is a physician, and we felt like the two stupidest people on the planet. Those advanced degrees and all that reading got us nowhere with knowing how to make that kid stop crying! It was hard as hell.

We often commented to each other that if life became that hard for the two of us, that it really put into perspective how difficult it would be for young parents who lack maturation, a helpful babydaddy, and enough money in the bank to not have to worry where the next meal will come from.

minDyG · #7 06-25-2009, 11:47 PM

It was at the end of my sophomore year of college. Thus, I am an alumna with no degree!

I don't think anyone can ever be *truly* prepared for parenthood, but there is definitely something to be said for being of legal age and able to actually take care of yourself (I've supported myself since I was 17, or been supported by my husband) financially and emotionally.

KDAngel · #8 06-30-2009, 11:27 AM

The two episodes I've watched thus far have made me cry during the birthing scenes. One because it looks so painful. Two because it's kind of miraculous (that's the good crying part). And finally because it's so depressing to watch life enter the world in the terms that they are.

So annoyed by the fact that MTV still makes everything feel like of glamorous. It needs to be tragic every time. To really drive the message home: DON'T HAVE BABIES AT 16!!

BabyPiNK_FL · #9 06-30-2009, 10:02 PM

I LOVED that one of the guys went to Wal-mart and bought an engagement ring for $21 and some change. At first I laughed, but then I felt bad. I hope that's not all life has in store for these children. I think it was awfully sweet though.

Munchkin03 · #10 07-01-2009, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

I LOVED that one of the guys went to Wal-mart and bought an engagement ring for $21 and some change. At first I laughed, but then I felt bad. I hope that's not all life has in store for these children. I think it was awfully sweet though.

The kids on this show, while it's sad and whatever that they're 16 and pregnant, weren't exactly headed for college and/or a good career. So, it's a $21 engagement ring at 16, but it would probably have been a $99 engagement ring at 18. Or, if you rushed into the service at 18, it's a $99 promise ring then and a $400 engagement ring at 20.

BabyPiNK_FL · #11 07-01-2009, 12:05 PM

The one with the red headed girl didn't seem without hope. She still wanted to dance and was doing some type of class/college. It looks like she's not going to stay with her jerk of a bf even though they said they were going to try. But I think it may be for the best because if she can get back home it seems like she would be a lot better off.