Am I psychotic or is this normal?

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by AGDee

Part of me can't help but wonder if, in these "friends with benefits" relationships, one of the partners wants it to be a committed romantic relationship and believes that eventually, the other one will "wake up" and realize that they should be in a relationship.

And usually when one or the other wakes up and wants to be in a relationship, it's usually not with their FWB.

...Heh!

[James]

Still with this girl?

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

That's an excellent thread topic in itself.

I am hesitant of men who have "crazy exes," especially more than one. It almost always means that they are crazy themselves and have done something to either lead a woman on or to encourage crazy behavior.

This is so true. It's such a red flag to me when a guy accuses his exes of being "crazy" or "psycho" or "bipolar." It doesn't take long to put two and two together.

I missed this thread the first go-around, so with that said, here's my take. I disagree with almost everyone in this thread, except 33girl. I don't think the OP really likes her, I think he'd just rather have her around than no one at all. All of you who are coming up with excuses are overanalyzing, the way waaaaaaaaay too many women do. Notice that no men in here are making excuses for why he really DOES like her. He even said he dosen't like her! Think about how much you have to be iffy on someone before you'll come to a message board and tell a bunch of strangers that you don't like the woman you're in a relationship with. Look, my boyfriend and I have differences, but I can sure tell you all kinds of things I like about him. I have to have more than a "feeling" to be with someone, especially the conversation part...how long can you go without talking to someone? That would drive me crazy, and I would think it would seriously limit the relationship's potential. Chances are the reason the two of you can't have a conversation is because you're either not comfortable with each other or you don't trust each other.

[LΩVE]

Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB

This is so true. It's such a red flag to me when a guy accuses his exes of being "crazy" or "psycho" or "bipolar." It doesn't take long to put two and two together.

I missed this thread the first go-around, so with that said, here's my take. I disagree with almost everyone in this thread, except 33girl. I don't think the OP really likes her, I think he'd just rather have her around than no one at all. All of you who are coming up with excuses are overanalyzing, the way waaaaaaaaay too many women do. Notice that no men in here are making excuses for why he really DOES like her. He even said he dosen't like her! Think about how much you have to be iffy on someone before you'll come to a message board and tell a bunch of strangers that you don't like the woman you're in a relationship with. Look, my boyfriend and I have differences, but I can sure tell you all kinds of things I like about him. I have to have more than a "feeling" to be with someone, especially the conversation part...how long can you go without talking to someone? That would drive me crazy, and I would think it would seriously limit the relationship's potential. Chances are the reason the two of you can't have a conversation is because you're either not comfortable with each other or you don't trust each other.

Amen to the first part. I learned that the hard way during my young and impressionable stage when I dated an older guy that told me his ex's were all crazy. It didn't take more than a couple of months to see why. Some guys enjoy the attention and will cat and mouse a girl who really does like them until they go nuts.

[PiKA2001]

Originally Posted by James

Still with this girl?

No, she dumped me a few weeks ago. It was weird too. We where going to meet her parents for dinner one night when she texted me that she was having a bad day at work, and if I wanted to stay over her apt that night. I told her yes and that I hope her day turns out better.....and that was it. She never called me again or answered my texts. I texted her with a "let me know your ok" thing and she replied with:

I'm worried this isn't going to work out

me: what is going on with you?

her: don't have time to discuss or argue it. We should go our own ways.

WTF? we are seeing each other for four months and you break up over text? Not even have the decency to tell me to my face or call me?

There was no catalyst either. She went from," I can't wait to see you, stay the night over after dinner" to i never want to talk to you again in a snap. When I went over all the details with what happened to my friends, they all said the same thing. She was seeing someone else, and chose him over you .

[Senusret I]

What a cow! You're better off without her.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

What a cow! You're better off without her.

Yeah, you don't need that. You'll find someone less crazy.

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

No, she dumped me a few weeks ago. It was weird too. We where going to meet her parents for dinner one night when she texted me that she was having a bad day at work, and if I wanted to stay over her apt that night. I told her yes and that I hope her day turns out better.....and that was it. She never called me again or answered my texts. I texted her with a "let me know your ok" thing and she replied with:

I'm worried this isn't going to work out

me: what is going on with you?

her: don't have time to discuss or argue it. We should go our own ways.

WTF? we are seeing each other for four months and you break up over text? Not even have the decency to tell me to my face or call me?

There was no catalyst either. She went from," I can't wait to see you, stay the night over after dinner" to i never want to talk to you again in a snap. When I went over all the details with what happened to my friends, they all said the same thing. She was seeing someone else, and chose him over you .

WTF? Wow....what a bitch. Why not just use a post-it? Women are crazy.

I also agree that she was seeing/met someone new.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

No, she dumped me a few weeks ago.

If she lives here, let me know who it is. I'll track her down and beat the crap outta her. lol.