Need some advice here..... - Page 2

nittanyalum · #16 03-27-2008, 07:23 PM

Hugs to my sister, ((((((OTW)))))).

jtrain12 · #17 04-02-2008, 07:58 PM

so just an update...this story looks like it has a happy ending, at least for most involved. I ended up deciding not to tell her friends right away, and rather waiting to see if I saw signs of the abuse continuing (bruises, being withdrawn from friends, etc.) Well this past weekend, my friend told the guy that she had enough, and did not want to see him. The next day, he came to her dorm, and begged her to come back, which she did not. Later that night, he went to the bar where she was at, and grabbed her and started screaming at her. Lucky, her friends pulled her away, and the bouncers threw him out and called the cops on him, who arrested him.
Anyways, my friend seems much happier, although understandably a bit shaken up after what happened last night. I hope that people who are unfortunately in these situations can learn from this.

jon1856 · #18 04-02-2008, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by jtrain12

so just an update...this story looks like it has a happy ending, at least for most involved. I ended up deciding not to tell her friends right away, and rather waiting to see if I saw signs of the abuse continuing (bruises, being withdrawn from friends, etc.) Well this past weekend, my friend told the guy that she had enough, and did not want to see him. The next day, he came to her dorm, and begged her to come back, which she did not. Later that night, he went to the bar where she was at, and grabbed her and started screaming at her. Lucky, her friends pulled her away, and the bouncers threw him out and called the cops on him, who arrested him.
Anyways, my friend seems much happier, although understandably a bit shaken up after what happened last night. I hope that people who are unfortunately in these situations can learn from this.

Perhaps due to my mothers professional back ground, or from watching too many cop shows et al, as I was reading this I was seeing in my minds eye something else. Him showing up, late at night, and her just disappearing.

While I am glad that it turned out the way it did, I am not sure that the odds were in favor.

jazgr8 · #19 04-25-2008, 10:48 AM

If she is truly only your friend now, I would confront the guy. Tell him you know what he is doing and if he does it again, he is going to be in for a world of hurt because you will report the abuse. Unless he is a psycho, that will give him pause next time he thinks about taking advantage of her.