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HotDamnImAPhiMu · #16 05-18-2005, 05:43 PM

This sounds like it's not about the birth control.

Rudey · #17 05-18-2005, 05:45 PM

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Originally posted by CarolinaCutie
To play devil's advocate...

I suppose if I were him, I'd be wondering what spurred this sudden need for financial contribution to your birth control needs. Are you in a period of financial hardship? Because if not, I guess I'd want to know why it was a big deal all of the sudden. If I haven't contributed towards the purchase of birth control pills for the past 5 years, what has changed in our relationship that makes you want me to pay half now?

And if you didn't have a very convincing answer to that, I think my curiosity would be peaked. I don't know exactly what I'd be curious about, but I'd think that maybe something was just a little off, and I'd question your motives.

That said, I don't think that asking for half is generally wrong. It seems fair to me!

Have you ever asked your boyfriend to pay half?

-Rudey

CarolinaCutie · #18 05-18-2005, 05:50 PM

I don't pay for my own birth control, so no. And I don't think I would. But maybe if I was paying $25 a month I would...

Rudey · #19 05-18-2005, 05:57 PM

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Originally posted by CarolinaCutie
I don't pay for my own birth control, so no. And I don't think I would. But maybe if I was paying $25 a month I would...

I'm just saying that most people wouldn't regardless of what some chicks say on here...

-Rudey

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #20 05-18-2005, 06:11 PM

Well, I don't know -- probably depends on the situation. If it's a long term relationship, and that's the only form of birth control you're using, I could see a guy paying half. I don't think it'd be reasonable to expect the guy to buy the condoms all the time if that's the only kind of birth control you were using.

I can't imagine what kind of financial straits I'd have to be in to ask, though. It's $25 a month. Asking for half of that just seems like nickle-and-diming the guy to death.

Yeah, $25 is a lot sometimes, but if it's killing you, maybe you should look at cutting out some of the other stuff in your life -- internet access, new clothes, dinners out?

but like I said I don't think this is about the birth control.

UlChiOCutie26 · #21 05-19-2005, 08:27 AM

I think what it boils down to is that since we aren't engaged, he doesn't want to be "married" yet. And yes, I have asked him numerous times to pay a little towards my pills, since we don't use condoms. I am allergic (and thats a fact). Even 5 bucks would help out. I just don't think it's fair that I pay all of it; it takes two to tango. I don't know.

In my opinion, I think that he doesn't want to feel married yet. I guess if we were engaged it would be a different story. Here lately, it seems like something is bugging him so therefore, he is an ass to me. I am sick of putting up with it. Something must be done.

kddani · #22 05-19-2005, 09:55 AM

there are condoms made out of things other than latex- such as polyurethane (if tha'ts spelled right) and sheepskin (do they still make these). Anyone I know that's allergic to latex uses those.

Doesn't sound like you two are on the same page about a lot of things, maybe this is a good opportunity to examine your relationship.

UlChiOCutie26 · #23 05-19-2005, 10:04 AM

my thoughts exactly. Also, we have tried all the condoms on the market besides latex, all are very uncomfy. I need to think long and hard about my relationship (no pun intended).

emleepc · #24 05-19-2005, 10:16 AM

Could you talk to your doctor about a cheaper prescription? Unless medically you have to have the $25 BC pills, perhaps you could get the $15 or even $10 packs........

UlChiOCutie26 · #25 05-19-2005, 10:19 AM

I am already on a generic form of Ortho Lo. Right now, my life just seems to be getting worse as far as family and relationships go. My insurance sucks, but I will be switching over to new insurance thru my job very soon!

starryeyed · #26 05-19-2005, 10:20 AM

Honey, I don't think your request is unreasonable.

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #27 05-19-2005, 11:01 AM

in lots of cities you can get BC cheap through Planned Parenthood, and often there's a clinic/organization that's not affilitated w/ PP, too. (For example, in Richmond there's the Fan Free Clinic.)

UlChiOCutie26 · #28 05-19-2005, 11:06 AM

I go to Planned P and thats what they charge me. The state of ky recently cut planned p out of the budget, so no more free or lower price pills.

It's the fact that he won't help me pay, thats why I am pissed. Its just the fact.

angelic1 · #29 05-19-2005, 11:50 AM

I never really have thought about even asking my boyfriend to pay for half the cost of my bc pills, but he has offered.

I just don’t really feel its necessary bc say its $30 a month, if he takes me out to dinner once.. right there is the same cost. Plus we are usually pretty even on who pays for stuff anyway. Sometimes he will pay for us when we do something or go out to eat sometimes I will. We don’t keep track of who owes who what money wise bc its not a big deal.

angelic1 · #30 05-19-2005, 11:53 AM

oh yeah.. to add..

i went to planned parenthood when my insurance was in the process of switching over. It was cheaper which is really nice and everyone there was very nice. I might go there for my next visit just bc I liked them better than my current obgyn.