Question!
 

If you have been dating a guy for 5 yrs and have been on the pill for that long, do u think it's fair that he pay half of the cost of the packs each month? I have been on the pill since I started seeing him and I think that he should help me pay for my pack each month.

What do ya'll think??:confused:

I'd tell him he should pay for the whole thing since you're the one who has to deal with messed up hormones. It's better to start negotiating for more than you actually expect.

Re: Question!
 

It's absolutely reasonable.

yeah, because he says he is going to obstain from sex because he doesnt want to pay. I am fed up!

Haha, let him -- see how long that lasts.

I wouldn't expect a guy to pay for birth control, but I don't think it's an unreasonable request, either.

Whoa whoa woah...do you have insurance? Your co-pay can't be more than $20 a month, right? He's not willing to pony up $10 a month? Has he never bought condoms before in his life? I'm sorry this is ridiculous and unacceptable.

I have shotty insurance. I pay 25 bucks a pop! He says that he doesn't want to pay, so GUESS WHAT GIRLS????


No sex for him--period.

Hey, it's his responsibility, too...just because he isn't the one actually using them doesn't mean he's totally off the hook.

I think this is going to lead to a break-up. He REFUSES to pay. This pisses me off. It's unfair. Now I am sad.

:(

That's like the winner I dated who refused to buy condoms. He said, "You're on the Pill...why should I have to use them?" I tried to explain that I have a medical condition and I have to be really careful about stuff like that (especially since he bragged that he'd been with so many girls he "lost count" around 50 or so), but he wouldn't listen. Ultimately he told me I'd have to buy the condoms if I wanted him to wear them. After that, it was pretty much over.

we h ave been dating for 5 yrs. It's all falling apart. Since we are practically married anyways, whats 10 bucks a month. I am soooo pissed off!

What a creep.

Sounds like you'd be better off without him.

The only guy that would pay for a girl's birth control is a gay guy.

-Rudey

Good point. Why is this such an issue for him? Does he want you to get knocked up or is he just being an ass? Is this issue a symptom of something bigger in the relationship?

To play devil's advocate...

I suppose if I were him, I'd be wondering what spurred this sudden need for financial contribution to your birth control needs. Are you in a period of financial hardship? Because if not, I guess I'd want to know why it was a big deal all of the sudden. If I haven't contributed towards the purchase of birth control pills for the past 5 years, what has changed in our relationship that makes you want me to pay half now?

And if you didn't have a very convincing answer to that, I think my curiosity would be peaked. I don't know exactly what I'd be curious about, but I'd think that maybe something was just a little off, and I'd question your motives.

That said, I don't think that asking for half is generally wrong. It seems fair to me!