Large amount of unexpected cuts

[Titchou]

She is eligible for snap bids no matter where in the process she drops out. What would matter is whether she is on a group's radar and what their procedures are for extending one (MS rules for their group so can't say what that might be).

[FSUZeta]

Certainly she has not sat in on multiple membership selections at various sororities. It's not allowed. But when you are an active alum, interacting with other Panhellenic alums, perhaps at the same university, I have been told you might share information with your trusted friends. Might. Or might not.

[SWTXBelle]

Not to mention that those of us who have known her for years, both on-line and irl, know her to be of impeccable reputation.

[AZTheta]

There's nothing wrong with my reading comprehension. But thanks for being concerned.

Speaking of reading comprehension, carnation's niece did find a home.

Yeah. Uh huh.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by AZTheta

There's nothing wrong with my reading comprehension. But thanks for being concerned.

Speaking of reading comprehension, carnation's niece did find a home.

Yeah. Uh huh.

Irony meter is off the charts!

[QueenD]

Originally Posted by AZTheta

There's nothing wrong with my reading comprehension. But thanks for being concerned.

Speaking of reading comprehension, carnation's niece did find a home.

Yeah. Uh huh.

AZTheta, I am sorry. I didn't mean to imply you had a reading comprehension problem. I meant that this thread had people from multiple perspectives talking past each other. I will cop to it myself, since I've been more tuned in to the discussion around what people know coming out of membership selection than I was the result of CarnationNiece's recruitment.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by QueenD

AZTheta, I am sorry. I didn't mean to imply you had a reading comprehension problem. I meant that this thread had people from multiple perspectives talking past each other. I will cop to it myself, since I've been more tuned in to the discussion around what people know coming out of membership selection than I was the result of CarnationNiece's recruitment.

OK me too.

No dirty deletes here, owning my own snark. Maybe we all need ... um ... something?

[QueenD]

Originally Posted by AZTheta

OK me too.

No dirty deletes here, owning my own snark. Maybe we all need ... um ... something?

I vote for some chocolate chip cookies. Those are almost never wrong.

And my favorite thing this week is talked to my BFFs daughter A, who pledged KD this week. She is happy and excited, as is her ZTA roommate. Both of them had a different house as their favorite initially, neither were selected for that organization, and they are showing the EXACT type of attitude that we advocate when you don't get your favorite for an invite or a bid. I haven't heard the other house's name out of A's mouth even ONCE since they released her, except when she shared that one of her friends was going to pref there. Since I'm not working as an adviser right now, I have instead focused on help in some girls figure out how to present themselves well during recruitment AND have a healthy attitude about it. Next up I have ladies going through recruitment at Wichita and DePaul. Neither know much about how recruitment works so I've given them as much info as I can. The DePaul girl in particular, who is a freshman, is just loving the idea of any house! The Wichita girl, who is not a freshman, has a few faves where she has friends but knows to consider all options.

[greekdee]

"If you were not a super moderator, I'd swear you were trolling."

While I realise that begins with an "if," just the mention of trolling within a million miles of Carnation is laughable. As someone who does know her on-line and IRL, I'll ditto what SWTXBelle said about impeccable reputation, plus her years of experience and involvement with Greek Life.

I'm glad you stated above that you meant no disrespect, but that did strike me as a disrespectful comment to make to someone who has been on this board for almost 20 years advising and supporting PNMs.

[QueenD]

Originally Posted by greekdee

"If you were not a super moderator, I'd swear you were trolling."

While I realise that begins with an "if," just the mention of trolling within a million miles of Carnation is laughable. As someone who does know her on-line and IRL, I'll ditto what SWTXBelle said about impeccable reputation, plus her years of experience and involvement with Greek Life.

I'm glad you stated above that you meant no disrespect, but that did strike me as a disrespectful comment to make to someone who has been on this board for almost 20 years advising and supporting PNMs.

There was some pretty disrespectful snark aimed at me in this thread, as well as a few damned near abusive private messages, for stating facts that all contributors versed in NPC recruitment have stated in these forums for years. AZTheta and I have managed to acknowledge that this was not our best moment. Perhaps others should try to move on as well?

[Titchou]

Good thing I was standing in WHole Foods when I read that post. If I had been at home the string of expletives would have been several minutes long...

[Benzgirl]

OMG. The mean girls are out tonight.

[AZTheta]

I have read and re-read this thread, trying to figure out where and when it got off the rails. I give up.

(1) What Sen said times a zillion. No it is NOT noble to be silent in the face of prejudice. Daily reminders all around us. /side note: I witnessed massive prejudice against overweight women, across all chapters in a college, which continues to this day.

(2) I vote for coconut ice cream and mango boba with pearls. Would like to think that we can all take a step back. Tired of getting so much exercise jumping to conclusions, myself. Would rather be happy than right (at least today).

[carnation]

Oh yes, coconut ice cream! (Have not tried boba)

I can not state my pride enough in the girls who called out racists in membership selection. I don't care if we're supposed to keep membership selection secret, racism in selection is WRONG! I know y'all remember what happened at Bama with alums in recent years.

[QueenD]

Originally Posted by carnation

Oh yes, coconut ice cream! (Have not tried boba)

I can not state my pride enough in the girls who called out racists in membership selection. I don't care if we're supposed to keep membership selection secret, racism in selection is WRONG! I know y'all remember what happened at Bama with alums in recent years.

In my time as recruitment advisor, I am pleased to say that I never encountered overt racism in membership selection and that my chapter as long been at the forefront of accepting other races, religions, lesbian/bisexual members, and so forth. I have seen some people raise inappropriate things that have nothing to do with our membership selection criteria or values, and the chapter members did a great job of shutting that nonsense down PDQ.