When a legacy gets cut, does Mom get a call from her sorority?

[Loyally Kappa]

I did not get a call when my younger daughter was cut. But, my older daughter had joined Tridelt, so I'm sure they felt that they needed to focus on PNMs who were more likely to join. As it was, my younger also pledged Tridelt.

I never felt insulted. It was what it was.

[KillarneyRose]

A legacy may only be released from a chapter’s membership invitation list with due justification and prior approval of both the chapter’s College Chapter Director and the Regional Collegiate Director.

I believe it is the CCD or the RCD who calls the legacy's family, and I can only imagine what that must be like in a big, southern school where the number of legacies is actually higher than quota!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by KillarneyRose

I believe it is the CCD or the RCD who calls the legacy's family.

Similar here. If you get cut, the call is likely coming from someone in our Chapter Services department.

[sigmagirl2000]

With Sigma Kappa, the call should be made from the local recruitment supervisor.

[Titchou]

Y'all are missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. It's so SHE can let the PNM know she's been released by the group because it's felt it would be better coming from her than finding out when handed a list of invites just before parties start. The legacy connection would know - hopefully -better how to broach the subject with her and give the PNM time to come to terms with it. Not to mention it's courtesy to the member who is, after all, our sister. The calls aren't fun for sure but it's the right thing to do.

[BraveMaroon]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Y'all are missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. It's so SHE can let the PNM know she's been released by the group because it's felt it would be better coming from her than finding out when handed a list of invites just before parties start.

I agree with this. My roommate was a megaleg at a sorority that cut her the night before prefs (ouch). Her mother lit up the phone to our room that night, but unfortunately, roomie was out with friends at a bar and didn't get the news from Mom til about an hour before the pref invitations went out.

She ended up dropping after she got her list - she had two sororities left, either would have been a good fit for her, but her favorite (other than legacy) had dropped her and she was done.

I got dropped by my bio sis' sorority after round two, and I believe they called her. But she was working on rush at her own school and didn't have time to "let me down gently". I was neither surprised nor hurt when I got dropped. I was devastated to have been cut from a house where I knew a bunch of girls from HS who had graduated with my sister.

But obviously, I got over it - my top choice kept me til the very end and we all lived happily ever after.

Except my roommate and her mother. But whatev.

[tcsparky]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Y'all are missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. It's so SHE can let the PNM know she's been released by the group because it's felt it would be better coming from her than finding out when handed a list of invites just before parties start. The legacy connection would know - hopefully -better how to broach the subject with her and give the PNM time to come to terms with it. Not to mention it's courtesy to the member who is, after all, our sister. The calls aren't fun for sure but it's the right thing to do.

I'm not missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. I'm just thinking about the privacy concerns of the PNM. While she may be a legacy through Aunt Myrtle, she may not necessarily want her business put out there. She entered into a contract (registered for Recruitment), and how that contract plays out is her own business, not that of family members. I feel that her privacy issues (who invited her back or who didn't) are more important in this case.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by tcsparky

I'm not missing the point of notifying the legacy connection. I'm just thinking about the privacy concerns of the PNM. While she may be a legacy through Aunt Myrtle, she may not necessarily want her business put out there. She entered into a contract (registered for Recruitment), and how that contract plays out is her own business, not that of family members. I feel that her privacy issues (who invited her back or who didn't) are more important in this case.

There's two sides to recruitment and mutual selection -the PNM side and the sorority side. If Aunt Myrtle turned in a legacy form for Patty PNM then the outcome of membership selection is Myrtle's business, as a sister.