Dating Greek Men

[stargirl]

I've dated both. To be honest, I prefer a non Greek relationship. That's just my opinion. My husband isn't greek. When I did date a Greek, it seemed like the sorority and the fraternity he was in knew about our little spats and knew a little more that I cared to share about our personal life. Whatever you choose. Good luck to you!

[darling1]

I dated a greek man (Omega man) before he pledge and after(6yrs) . I had no issues because I was very secure in our relationship especially since he was in Missouri and I was in New York. I loved him dearly and found it to be the 2nd best relaionship I have ever had. For those dating greek men who aren't part of GLO's or BGLO's, if you have issues with him, talk about it and also look within yourself. I was always of the opinion that xyz chick may flirt with him but he comes home with me . Just be honest and don't live with blinders. Regardless of the letters across their chest they are men, human beings nonetheless.

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Never cast your pearls before swine Matthew 7:6

[Sweet Deliverance]

Interesting topic indeed... I used to date a Sigma (we both started out non-greek) and there was an understanding because of similar commitments. The gentleman I now date is not greek and frankly it doesn't matter. What he does know about my involvement with Zeta Phi Beta, he respects, and supports. PLUS he's intelligent which matters much more than being greek. I'm happy!

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Sweet Deliverance's PHI-losophy:
"What you do or do not do today determines what you can or cannot do tomorrow."

Can I post my frustration here????

I have been a Tri Delta for two years now, and let me tell you about the ******* frat boys (and I do mean boys) that I have dated. Of course it is my own fault for dating these jerks...but they can be sooo convincing and man do they look good in khakis and button downs!! Anyway, I have dated guys in Alpha Delta Phi, Delta Upsilon, Delta Tau Delta, Sigma Alpha Epsilon, and Acacia, with all the same results. They all were complete players. Now, I am not one to rip on the Greek system, I love it to death, and I probably will end up dating more frat boys and eventually marrying one...but man right now, they need to grow up.

[kmullini]

HipChick: Some day you'll meet the right man for you. I can honestly say that I wasnt one of those players in school for what its worth and there are alot of Greek Men out there that aren't. From my experience it kind of went both ways too. Between some Greek Men and some Greek Women being players.

Kevin Mullinix
Beta Theta Pi

[This message has been edited by kmullini (edited June 21, 2000).]

[Siobhan]

Kmullini,

I agree with your comment. Currently I am dating a Sigma Chi, but I have come across some pretty immature fratenity boys. I know a lot of people who say fraternity boys are really players and sleezballs, but there are just as many sleezy GDI's as there are fraternity men.

PS. My cousin is a Beta alum (UBC)

[kmullini]

Siobhan, thats very true too. Not every Greek Man or GDI is the same...I mean I have yet to date a greek girl myself...I had alot of greek friends that I partied with and hung out with that were girls...Most of my brothers had gfs who were either AOpi and Alpha Phi. Some had GDI girlfriends as well and we often hung out with many GDIs at the house too. I guess I was just a quiet guy at parties/bars so I just didnt connect with the other greek girls(in terms of a relationship) on campus like many of my brothers did. I just didnt get into trying to be something I wasnt. so I guess with my luck in school I wont ever marry a Greek girl anyway I guess.

Kevin Mullinix
Beta Theta Pi

P.S. thats cool about your cousin. I saw a link once to their chapter online and it looked pretty cool. It had some cool pictures.

[KreamyNupe]

We greek men are not all bad. What we all fail to realize is that men go bad because of stupid a** women, Women go bad because of stupid a** men. If your greek affiliation shouldn't be a reason for f*cked relationships, its just the people in those relationships.
Keep everything in your life in order,
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[DirectorDST99]

Personally, I don't care about GL or NON GL as long as he's a Christian !!! HELLO!!

But if I had a choice here's the line up and in this order:

Alpha Phi Alpha
Phi Beta Sigma
GDI
Kappa Alpha Psi
Omega Psi Phi


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[pinkice9]

Personally the man that I was dating was non-greek and then he became a member of a BGLO. The frat in which he pledged made him a more responsible person. He started to perform better on an academic level and our relationship grew tighter as well. I can truly say that greekdom either changes you for the best or the worse, but it definatly changes you. The person you were before you became greek will determine the change.

Little Note.

GOD BLESS!

Pinkice9

Well I am a member of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc. at Cheyney University and I feel most men are the same whether Greek/Non-Greek. A lot of people down the brothers in Fraternities on this subject all the time. Yes it's true. We have those who get their letters(just like females)and lose their mind. The girls who never gave them a second thought now all of a sudden feel the need to boost up their heads. And then they bring that to women such as myself who won't deal with the crap they feel they have the right to dish out. Some of these brothers let the "groupies" cloud their judgement and fall for that all the time. Then you have the stereo types some bruhs in the frats feel they must emulate. For example, my bruhs the Kappa's who are known for that nasty nupe style of loving and getting all the women or the Omegas known for being the nasty dawgs also getting all the women or the Sexy Sigma's who perform in step shows licking whipped cream off chairs which definitely appeals to the women or the Alpha's who are cute and women gotta have them 06 brothers. In some cases they were like that before the frat in other cases they weren't. But, I tell you what I've been in relationships with GDI's and Greeks. IT DOESN'T MATTER! A man is going to be a man whether he has letters on or not just like a female. It's true you do get more attention when you join an organization. I was getting it before so I don't trip. Everybody isn't like that. But trust 9 times out of 10 if you pay that man no mind and let his groupies surround him he'll come around eventually. You just might change that Greek man. you know men love a challenge whether they are GREEK/NON-GREEK!

i dated a gdi(immediately) after i crossed and she just didn't understand the sheer amount of responsibility i had. there just weren't enough hours in the day to study, prepare for a stepshow, and work on our various community service projects while trying to cater to her needs. i don't need to say what i chose, but incidentally, i'm now dating a woman from a mainstream sorority(Alpha Phi) and she's just as busy as i am. so far so good. i guess women in glo's tend to have a better understanding of your responsibilities, cuz they have so many of their own.( this is not a slant against the independent women who work their tails off during school, it's just that greek women are more likely to understand and appreciate the bond us greek men have with our brothers, while gdi's are more likely to write us off as followers or slaves as my ex did. just my opinion, no harm intended)

[bklyndelta]

I had to get into this discussion... . personally I LOVE my GDI'S and wouldn't want it any other way!!!!

Unless, of course????????

[Tom Earp]

while every young male and female are dumb, it seems that while they are Greeks, they learn from experience of the offices and responseability that they have, they all mature. Of course this is not always the case, it is in the majority. All young go to adulthood , it is just some quicker that others. Life does come from training, and the greek Community tends to train their members more than not.

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Tom Earp LX Z#1

[mizzkes]

Hello all, my boyfriend of a year and a half is greek. I must say that this has been one of the longest most fulfilling relationships I have ever been in. Note, that he was already greek when I met him. It was hard at first, I found it hard to trust him. But, as time went on I began to trust him. Dont get me wrong, I dont put anything past anybody, but I trust that when he goes to frat parties,etc he will remember that I am watiing for him when he gets home. I am now seeking membership in a greek organization and he is being very supportive of me. I dont think that a non-greek man would understand allof the time and effort it takes to do this. So I am thankful for that. I really cant compare him to a non-greek becuase who is to say that his membership in this organization has an effect on his behavior? I may meet a mature, dedicated greek today and an immature, cheating greek tomorrow. I would never generalize all members of an organization like that. I must say this, I was greatly surprised about how respectful the members are to me. The organization has a bad reputationf or being womanizers. As a freshman I was warned about these guys. But I have learned that, if you carry yourself like a woman of dignity and respect, they will treat you no other way.