Paying for sex - is this more common than I thought? - Page 2

cheerfulgreek · #1 11-04-2009, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Kevin

I will wait to decide as to whether to take the OP seriously.

Until then...

lol

Senusret I · #2 11-04-2009, 08:39 PM

Authentic or not, I think it's a great question.

I agree totally with what ree and 33 said.

But to answer the question in the title, it's definitely more common than I thought, but it is still a taboo, at least in my communities. "Escorts" are pretty easy to come by and seem quite legal on the surface, but we all know they're really pros. Where I work, there is a sporadic streetwalker problem, too, and they wouldn't be out there if there weren't any johns.

Anyway..... yeah, it's out there. The guy in the scenario... whatever, shit happens. But if it's an addiction.... that's a problem.

DrPhil · #3 11-04-2009, 08:45 PM

He paid for sex, meaning he skipped the dinner and a movie and just handed the cash.

I firmly believe that people should keep many details of their past to themselves. Whether you paid for sex or bought every ex-girlfriend diamonds for Christmas, what's the point of sharing that info with your current?

bostongreek · #4 11-04-2009, 09:14 PM

i'm sure you've done one or two things in your life that he wouldn't fully approve of. chill.

DrPhil · #5 11-04-2009, 10:32 PM

She shouldn't have asked, even jokingly. LOL. Lesson learned.

dreamseeker · #6 11-04-2009, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

She shouldn't have asked, even jokingly. LOL. Lesson learned.

lol. womp womp.

DrPhil · #7 11-04-2009, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by dreamseeker

lol. womp womp.

LOL.

It's like a snooping person getting angry when they find something. Sitchoassdownsomewhere. LOL.

I.A.S.K. · #8 11-06-2009, 12:55 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL.

It's like a snooping person getting angry when they find something. Sitchoassdownsomewhere. LOL.

idied @ sitchoassdownsomewhere.
Hey, snoopy can get angry even if snoopy shouldn't have snooped. Shoot I would. lol. Now whats stupid is the snoopies who get angry when they don't find anything.

Wheretheydothatat?

Glad to see that she's giving the guy a chance. My question would be why did he have to pay for the nookie? I get that it was a 3 some, but with the world wide interwebz and all the horny freaknasties out there he had to pay for it? idk.

AGDee · #9 11-06-2009, 06:52 AM

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Originally Posted by I.A.S.K.

Glad to see that she's giving the guy a chance. My question would be why did he have to pay for the nookie? I get that it was a 3 some, but with the world wide interwebz and all the horny freaknasties out there he had to pay for it? idk.

Because this was 15-20 years ago, when the Internet was anywhere nearly as developed as it is now. Back then you had AOL, CompuServe and Prodigy and that was about it.

CutiePie2000 · #10 11-05-2009, 12:49 AM

I'd be interested to see what the responses would be if you asked this question in a country like Norway or Sweden where their attitudes towards sex are somewhat...uh..."different" from ours (Ours meaning "North Americans").

As for the original question, well, it's not called "The World's Oldest Profession" for nothing. And from the sounds of it, it will always bother you, it's ruined your perception of who you thought he was, so you might as well just end it now.

dreamseeker · #11 11-05-2009, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by CutiePie2000

And from the sounds of it, it will always bother you, it's ruined your perception of who you thought he was, so you might as well just end it now.

and another honest dude bites the dust. sheesh.

AGDee · #12 11-05-2009, 07:34 PM

Personally, I don't hold most things that people did during their "youth" against them, particularly if they've since grown up. I did plenty of things when I was younger that, after doing them, I decided wasn't the smartest/best thing to do. Thank goodness everybody in my life doesn't hold those things against me. As someone in my mid-40's, I can truly say that I've changed greatly since my mid-late twenties. Especially if it was a one time thing, never repeated and no longer desired by the person.

PrettyBoy · #13 11-06-2009, 05:35 AM

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Originally Posted by SugarANDSpice

I've been seeing this gentleman for 8 months and it has been wonderful.
he hired 2 prostitutes for a 3some.

Damn!

8 months isn't long, so yeah it's "wonderful" right now, but it's about feeling the same way about the relationship LONG after the newness has worn off. The fact that you have questions tells me you're not happy. He won't be happy if you're not happy. To me, a relationship is not about finding someone to make me happy, it's more about learning to make her happy. It's not about "getting" as much as it is about "giving". You have to make each other happy. IMO.

Also, how you see yourself determines who you will be with long term and happy with. If you have low-self esteem and don't have a positive and healthy regard for yourself, you will settle for anyone who shows any interest in you.

Long story short, you might want to bounce, roll, and skate the hell on out of this one.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBCfoO2_U98

SugarANDSpice · #14 11-06-2009, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

If you have low-self esteem and don't have a positive and healthy regard for yourself, you will settle for anyone who shows any interest in you.

You are absolutely 100% correct. But this does not apply to me.

christiangirl · #15 11-06-2009, 06:09 AM

^^^Only your post would come with a soundtrack.