Mizzou Recruitment - Page 18

NorthernMom · #1 08-24-2015, 11:17 AM

You have to enable things to be saved in your sent box. I ran into that trouble too....thinking I sent things, but then not seeing them sent.

As I understand it, some chapters may still add members because they are not at their chapter total - based potentially on number of seniors or older girls who go inactive for a variety of reasons - studying abroad, internships, etc... But I am fuzzy on the timing of all that. Not sure what happens now or what happens in spring. Pbear19 surely knows more!

My daughter has known several friends join through COB and been very happy. I went to dinner with one of the girls and her Mom who COB'd my daughter's sorority during Mom's weekend last year, and was just floored she was dropped during formal recruitment.

ILMOM · #2 08-24-2015, 11:42 AM

From one "NorthernMom" to another...thank you for the information and sharing stories. It is very helpful to know there are all sorts of different situations out there and she is not alone.

pbear19 · #3 08-24-2015, 12:12 PM

Hi! Responded to PMs.

By the time I got home from CoMo and from picking my son up from my parents' house last night, I crashed. I think I fell asleep last night earlier than my 3 year old did!!

Some houses will probably do some informal COB this semester. It's nice to be able to pick up a few extra women right away so they can be integrated with the fall new member class! But some houses will also do a slightly more structured COB in the spring. It really varies from one house to another, as some will have advertised events that any interested PNM can attend, and some will only have private events or issue bids to friends of friends without opening up to the campus at large. Some of that depends on how many open spots they have!

Definitely the best advice for anyone interested in COB is to just be friendly and natural with any sorority women. Being friends with women in a chapter that can COB is the easiest way to get a bid. Second, be careful about any craziness. Mizzou's syllabus week is notorious, and women will find it much harder (or impossible) to COB if they become known for something inappropriate. Same goes for interactions with guys. Hooking up with a sister's ex (whether you know about the relationship or not) is a very quick way to make COB difficult. Finally, keep an open mind. Every house at Mizzou is amazing. If the woman wanting to COB had options and dropped out of recruitment because she didn't like those options, she really needs to take some time to evaluate what really happened. I know not everyone will get along with everyone. But generally the houses that can COB are the houses that those PNMs had invitations from in formal recruitment when they dropped.

Formal recruitment is crazy, fast, and it can be hard to make a decision when emotions are involved. Just because you thought that a house wasn't right for you during formal recruitment doesn't mean you should automatically discount them for COB. Quite the opposite, really!

ILMOM · #4 08-24-2015, 01:04 PM

pbear19: Great advice...thank you!

AZDBeachgirl · #5 08-24-2015, 02:00 PM

Hi Momoftiger!
Congrats to your daughter and to you for surviving the momma nerves that go along with our daughter's recruitment! My daughter pledged KD in the Fall of 2013 and loves, loves, loves it! I received a text from her this afternoon and she said that she is so excited about this new pledge class and that it's a fantastic group of girls!
Maybe we will meet sometime at the house- we will be out for homecoming

So happy for your daughter!!

Momoftiger · #6 08-25-2015, 08:23 AM

[QUOTE=AZDBeachgirl;2328277]Hi Momoftiger!
Congrats to your daughter and to you for surviving the momma nerves that go along with our daughter's recruitment! My daughter pledged KD in the Fall of 2013 and loves, loves, loves it! I received a text from her this afternoon and she said that she is so excited about this new pledge class and that it's a fantastic group of girls!
Maybe we will meet sometime at the house- we will be out for homecoming

So happy for your daughter!!
[/QUOTE

Thank you! She went to her first chapter meeting last night and has her new member meeting tonight. She is very very happy. She said her pledge sisters are all sweet. I was in a different house in college, so I know very little about KD other than they were very nice girls on our campus way back when. Anything I should know as a new member mom? Any words of advice (like they will need to make this craft by X date? Or is there a yearly parents event we may want to put on our calendar now?). Thanks so much! I am so glad to hear your daughter loves KD!

NorthernMom · #7 08-25-2015, 08:43 AM

My daughter's good friend who went through recruitment this year is in your daughter's new member class in KD

MIZparent · #8 08-25-2015, 11:34 AM

Congratulations to all the new members of Mizzou's 15 terrific sororities! Great news that each chapter matched to quota. If that trend continues, Mizzou might open for expansion, although some space needs to open up in Greektown.

Moms... if your daughters are interested in Continuous Open Bidding, here is the link to the form she must fill out before she can participate in the informal recruiting process.

http://orgsync.com/100308/forms/151447

I have no idea if any houses will COB this semester, or next semester for that matter. That will depend on a variety of factors. There is at least one chapter that I think will be under house quota, so they may COB in the fall. What I do know is if she wants to participate in COB, she has to complete this form. The fact that PHA has already posted this form to their website so soon after recruitment, I think, is a good sign that maybe one or two chapters are at least looking for some potential new members.

Good luck! Filling out the form is not a guarantee a sorority will contact your daughter, but it's a start!

ILMOM · #9 08-25-2015, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by MIZparent

Congratulations to all the new members of Mizzou's 15 terrific sororities! Great news that each chapter matched to quota. If that trend continues, Mizzou might open for expansion, although some space needs to open up in Greektown.

Moms... if your daughters are interested in Continuous Open Bidding, here is the link to the form she must fill out before she can participate in the informal recruiting process.

http://orgsync.com/100308/forms/151447

I have no idea if any houses will COB this semester, or next semester for that matter. That will depend on a variety of factors. There is at least one chapter that I think will be under house quota, so they may COB in the fall. What I do know is if she wants to participate in COB, she has to complete this form. The fact that PHA has already posted this form to their website so soon after recruitment, I think, is a good sign that maybe one or two chapters are at least looking for some potential new members.

Good luck! Filling out the form is not a guarantee a sorority will contact your daughter, but it's a start!

MIZparent: Thanks for the information.
Does anyone know if it makes sense to try to COB now if your grades were most likely your biggest issue...or, does it make more sense to wait at least one semester and get your grades up and then COB in Spring (if available)...or, wait until sophomore year? I'm just trying to get a sense of what is reasonable, as I wouldn't want her to go for it again so soon and then possibly be disappointed again so soon after formal recuitment.

DubaiSis · #10 08-25-2015, 04:38 PM

You're missing the point. And let me put it a bit more bluntly. All but maybe 1 chapter at Mizzou are at total. For COB to be an option the chapter has to not yet be at total or drop below due to dropouts, transfers or graduations. Even the smallest chapter there is large and diverse. Not feeling a connection is a silly answer, with 250+ girls in the chapter and she met MAYBE 10 in each chapter. The young lady in question had 2 opportunities and declined them. I would consider future options this year to be zero.

And when people talk about strongest recruiting chapters where it applies to grades, yes the two aren't necessarily mutually exclusive, but the fact is the strongest chapters normally have the best grades. Because they choose their membership very carefully.

I do wish her the best of luck, but she had her chance at an SEC school and declined it. She likely won't have another chance. Thankfully you don't have to be in a sorority to have a positive college experience at a school this size.

33girl · #11 09-07-2015, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by NorthernMom

I really don't want to argue. I hate this concept of "top" and "bottom". My daughter is not in what some would say is a "top" house by any stretch. I'm not sure who feels the need to subscribe to this sort of caste system. Just because a house has an overall higher GPA doesn't mean it's tops in everyone's book. And just because a house has a lower GPA point, also doesn't mean it's not desirable to girls.

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

And when people talk about strongest recruiting chapters where it applies to grades, yes the two aren't necessarily mutually exclusive, but the fact is the strongest chapters normally have the best grades. Because they choose their membership very carefully.

It amazes me - in a good way - the emphasis that both PNMs and the Greek community put on chapter GPA nowadays, in terms of it making a chapter more or less desirable. Highest GPA has always been a bragging right, but people saying one chapter is "better" than another because of grades is something slightly odd to me.

AZDBeachgirl · #12 08-26-2015, 09:44 PM

Momoftiger- I PM'd you earlier but I don't see that message in my sent box...hmmm...let me know if you received it.
Thanks!

Momoftiger · #13 08-26-2015, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by AZDBeachgirl

Momoftiger- I PM'd you earlier but I don't see that message in my sent box...hmmm...let me know if you received it.
Thanks!

Not that I see

pbear19 · #14 09-07-2015, 08:05 PM

I don't think any of the moms here had daughters join Gamma Phi, but just in case anyone wants to relive Bid Day a bit...

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=I4arrqG9fqQ

GoMizzou · #15 09-14-2015, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by pbear19

I don't think any of the moms here had daughters join Gamma Phi, but just in case anyone wants to relive Bid Day a bit...

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=I4arrqG9fqQ

My daughter is a Gamma Phi Beta! (I'm not sure what happened to my other post from Bid Day). Although she was one of the lucky ones with a schedule she loved all week long, she really kept it contained because a lot of her friends were not so fortunate. Honestly, I don't understand it-having met so many of these girls I am dumbfounded how they were only invited back to 2 or 3 after Round 1. My heart breaks for the other Moms comforting their daughters-please encourage them to stick with it, explore their options and know there are so many other ways to get involved on this wonderful campus.