University of Mississippi - Ole Miss Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment 2013

[OleMissAnchor]

Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

Trust me, I have been clutching my pearls since April!

Isn't this the story of Ole Miss recruitment in one sentence ?!

There's a lot of talk about how difficult it is now that recruitment is in the middle of the semester. I agree the timing's awful for academics and it does stress everyone out. PNMs are on tenterhooks, waiting to find their place and compete amongst each other while actives get stuck with weeks of recruitment practice and all sorts of other things......

....but, on a positive note, I do think it helps PNMs make a wider variety of friends at different houses. For one, they're with an unaffiliated group of freshman women for several weeks. Cliques will form, but they'll get spread out over several houses post-recruitment. Those first friendships can be intense, and sometimes do last. Mine did. Compared to my parents' friends, I think I was able to make friendships and have a more "Panhellenic" social life than women in previous generations.

[HQWest]

There's a difference between taking some friends from high school to a baseball game or having them meet you at a mutual friend's lake house for barbeque and an all-out kegger or toga party.

Going along with a friend to introduce you to people an mind your p's and q's is one thing. Not really knowing what is up is dangerous.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by HQWest

There's a difference between taking some friends from high school to a baseball game or having them meet you at a mutual friend's lake house for barbeque and an all-out kegger or toga party.

Going along with a friend to introduce you to people an mind your p's and q's is one thing. Not really knowing what is up is dangerous.

And sending a girl to stay with people she basically met on Facebook? Assuming they're OK just because they're in sororities? That makes all my organs churn and I don't even have a kid.

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Risk Management is one thing, and is absolutely an issue for the sponsoring groups; acting like a woman is a harlot because she attended a party is outdated and quite frankly, pretty sexist if you are going to give the men a pass at the same time.

Everything I said about HS girls, I'm sure men would think of HS guys the same way, as well. I realize there are different campus cultures, but HS guys wouldn't even get within 50 feet of one of our houses (unless, as I said, they are accompanied by a friend or bio-sibling who stays glued to them).

[Hearttoheart]

Originally Posted by 33girl

And sending a girl to stay with people she basically met on Facebook? Assuming they're OK just because they're in sororities? That makes all my organs churn and I don't even have a kid.

I assumed they were okay for my daughter to stay with because they were personal friends and/or family members of the Alumnae we did know. The girls who invited her to stay with them lived in the dorms on campus, not some random seedy apartment on the wrong side of the tracks. Most high school seniors have already turned 18 by the spring of their senior year. Hopefully by the time our children are 18, they are set to make responsible decisions all on their own, they are adults after all.

As far as staying with girls she met on Facebook, essentially, that is exactly how she found her roommate that she will be living with next year. (Ole Miss's housing website links to Facebook so the kids can check out potential roommates). I am assuming her roommate is okay.... (she looks adorable on Facebook)

I'm sorry I made your organs churn, maybe by the time you have children of your own, you will understand that 18 year olds ARE adults capable of attending a party on their own with out parental supervision.

I apologize for sharpening my claws here..... I asked for advice on how PNM's should act prior to recruitment on a campus known for being a party school, I did not ask for parenting advice from someone who has yet to raise a child.

[WhiteRose1912]

Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

I'm sorry I made your organs churn, maybe by the time you have children of your own, you will understand that 18 year olds ARE adults capable of attending a party on their own with out parental supervision.

Because only parents have ever been 18.

Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

I apologize for sharpening my claws here..... I asked for advice on how PNM's should act prior to recruitment on a campus known for being a party school, I did not ask for parenting advice from someone who has yet to raise a child.

The only advice I see 33girl giving is on drinking mixed drinks.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

IAs far as staying with girls she met on Facebook, essentially, that is exactly how she found her roommate that she will be living with next year. (Ole Miss's housing website links to Facebook so the kids can check out potential roommates). I am assuming her roommate is okay.... (she looks adorable on Facebook)

Living in dorm with RAs on campus to diffuse any issues =/= going to a party weekend with people you don't personally know.

And if this whole scenario is making a college age student talk like she's 40, that's something to think about.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Living in dorm with RAs on campus to diffuse any issues =/= going to a party weekend with people you don't personally know.

And if this whole scenario is making a college age student talk like she's 40, that's something to think about.

Haha I know right? Good thing I already got some pearls!!

There are too many things at work that can separate a baby girl from the herd you know? Without someone with you that really cares about you stuff can get very very ugly fast and a bad recruitment is going to end up as the least of your worries you know?

[MaryPoppins]

Excuse me ladies, but if anybody starts acting like "two slice" Hilly around here the moderators will come carry you away. Please act like your grandmother is watching and that what you say might end up on the Society page this weekend.

[Hearttoheart]

Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

Excuse me ladies, but if anybody starts acting like "two slice" Hilly around here the moderators will come carry you away. Please act like your grandmother is watching and that what you say might end up on the Society page this weekend.

My apologies! I haven't been myself lately.

[HQWest]

That's right - I don't have 1 18-year-old daughter - but I have helped with at least 600 or so daughters by now

[Old_Row]

I'm still in school. I have been to a lot of parties and obviously I don't have any 18 year olds haha. You have already let her travel far away to party with strangers so however that is going to affect her recruitment is done. This is for any future mommas coming here. I just want to tell you that from a kid's perspective this is a very bad idea. I think parties are probably pretty different than they were in your day and situations can be very bad for someone who is still in high school, far away from home and with people who aren't necessarily going to be there and interested enough or sober enough to always look out for your little girl especially since they don't know her. Bad stuff happens all the time. It's not a good idea.

[ADPiEE]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

I'm still in school. I have been to a lot of parties and obviously I don't have any 18 year olds haha. You have already let her travel far away to party with strangers so however that is going to affect her recruitment is done. This is for any future mommas coming here. I just want to tell you that from a kid's perspective this is a very bad idea. I think parties are probably pretty different than they were in your day and situations can be very bad for someone who is still in high school, far away from home and with people who aren't necessarily going to be there and interested enough or sober enough to always look out for your little girl especially since they don't know her. Bad stuff happens all the time. It's not a good idea.

In our day, people didn't have cell phones with them at all times documenting bad decisions and then uploading it to social media to be a permanent record for all to see

[IndianaSigKap]

Originally Posted by ADPiEE

In our day, people didn't have cell phones with them at all times documenting bad decisions and then uploading it to social media to be a permanent record for all to see

Thank goodness!! We were laughing about this a few weeks ago when a group of us met up for a weekend in Bloomington! We cringed at the thought of some of our escapades going viral!

[AZTheta]

*crash* what is a "two slice" Hilly?

[MaryPoppins]

Hilly Holbrook, the main antagonist and the town's racist, snooty ringleader from The Help. Hilly could get very testy and did things to others most normal moral people would deeply regret.