FOR GREEKS - Biggest Mistake?

[Ivy2Love]

I really want to believe this is a sick joke, because no one could be this stupid. At least I thought they could not be.

You are right. The D9 world is very small, and we do talk to each other. I think non-members get caught up on the perceived rivalries. Hmph. Many of us belong to the same churches and other civic/social organizations.

I hope this young lady heeds your words. You were very nice with her, more than she deserved. Otherwise, she is in for a very rude awakening no matter where she goes. I just hope she doesn't come to Florida. None of our organizations need dead weight.

[TRSimon]

That's all I have to say about that. You really helped her out by telling her that. I hope she heeded your advice instead of shooting her mouth off (like she did when you first told her - a classic dumb move, if you ask me. Don't nobody care if she go to Texas, like ain't no sorors who know people in her org over there) You know the three ways of communication: telephone, telegraph and tell a black woman . And I truly think our two degrees are more like one and a half sometimes

You handled that with class and she acted like a big dummy. I hope she handles her other personal matters with a bit more finesse.

[1_zetaemerald]

Sistergreek BlueReign, I hope you keep us updated on this story! That is very interesting!! Something to think about...

Wouldn't you agree?

[SeriousSigma22]

Sorhor Bluereign,

This woman really needs to get a clue. I really think that she doesn't believe that we all communicate and she's gonna end up remaining an independent. Please keep us updated about this very colourful person.


Serioussigma22

[BirthaBlue4]

One things I almost didn't do was to actuually make contact. I didn't know how to go about it. Luckily, one soror who was in grad chapter at the time, was so nice and helpful and pointed me in the right direction. Without that I would have been too scared. The whole process of declaring interest seemed so sensitive; one wrong move and you could be done before you even began lol. The only person I was close to that was greek at the time was a part of a reactivation line, so she didn't have to go through the "normal" procedures.


I think that sometimes we become almost too untouchable. I've seen and heard of people looking down on anyone that asks them questions or declares interest. I think a lot of people just don't know the right way to go, and being just an inch more helpful would make all the difference in the world. I know that that soror that helped me really drove home the fact that this organization was where I needed to be.

[TRSimon]

Originally posted by BirthaBlue4
I think that sometimes we become almost too untouchable. I've seen and heard of people looking down on anyone that asks them questions or declares interest. I think a lot of people just don't know the right way to go, and being just an inch more helpful would make all the difference in the world. I know that that soror that helped me really drove home the fact that this organization was where I needed to be.

I understand that sometimes people just want to know how to become a part of an organization, but sometimes people who are interested in a Greek organization need to employ Tact and common sense in their conversation with members.

Most sorors I know have no problem with a person asking how one becomes a Sigma Gamma Rho, but we do have a problem with a person who will show up asking when the next line is when she has no community service and no record of genuine interest in our org. Even then, most of us would politely tell the person how she can learn more about what we do.

You will always have members of orgs who feel the need to make gladiators out of aspirants, but sometimes aspirants need to meet the rest of us half way. That doesn't mean kissing butt. It just means approaching members about the sorority with seriousness and respect. "When's the next line?" is not seriousness and respect.

[SeriousSigma22]

Sorhor TRSimon,

Your words are so true. Folks you have to use common sense and actively; but in a tactful way, research the organization, do your community service projects, attend the functions, have patience and wait for that organization to take it from there.


P.S. If the organization doesn't select you don't become one of the following:

A stalker
A psychotic person
Annoying to the members
A whinier to others (Your signficant other, friends and family members)
Don't try to latch onto another organization
And don't badmouth the organization because maybe you're not ready for membership.
Remember that membership into a D-9 organization is a luxury, a serious financial obligation and a lifelong commitment.


Serioussigma22

[BlueReign]

Originally posted by Ivy2Love
I really want to believe this is a sick joke, because no one could be this stupid. At least I thought they could not be.

You are right. The D9 world is very small, and we do talk to each other. I think non-members get caught up on the perceived rivalries. Hmph. Many of us belong to the same churches and other civic/social organizations.

I hope this young lady heeds your words. You were very nice with her, more than she deserved. Otherwise, she is in for a very rude awakening no matter where she goes. I just hope she doesn't come to Florida. None of our organizations need dead weight.

This should be a joke because I am still amazed at this woman. There is more to it. I just ignore her now.

I don't know why people think and act the way they do.

[SeriousSigma22]

Bluereign,

She would be on my avoid at all cost list. I do hope that she realizes the error of her ways and grows up real soon.

Serioussigma22

[PureGoldF2K1]

crashing!!

My biggest regret was 1.) not being outgoing enough during recruitment. No one in my family is Greek and I live in the Northeast, so I was really just rushing on a whim and didnt know how I was supposed to act! I also just dressed waaay too casually.

My #2 regret is making it a point of conversation to tell every sister of every house that I was going through rush with my best friend of 10 years/roommate and her name. And that we decided NOT to join the same house under any circumstances (we do everything else together!!!) Well, my friend is THE ultimate rush crush (not that I'm bad by any means, but she's the recruiters dream, gorgeous, outgoing, well-rounded, etc) so I really think I was cut by houses who wanted her and didnt want to lose her because of our agreement. But I ended up where Im supposed to be, which 4 years later I still tell rushees "You go where you're meant to be...it really just happens!" And my friend quit her sorority a year later!

[The B Girl]

Hello all-
I saw this thread and was AMAZED by the thought process of some of the "interests" that want to join your organizations. Obviously, there are those that totally go about it in the wrong fashion, but here was the question that I have:

In the NPC we have recruitment (formal or informal), and a lady can just show up without knowing anything or anyone about the organization and possibly get a bid. Let's say Susie Sophomore is interested in joining a particular NPHC organization, and peruses the website of the said group. The website says that in order to be given an invitation to become part of intake, interested ladies must attend the Rush event. Now she doesn't know any of the members, or is aware that she could attend their events beforehand. However, she has a good GPA, has done some community service (on her own) and carries herself well. She attends the Rush event. Would she be looked down upon (and possibly not given an invite) because she didn't know any of the members, and had not previously attended their events?

Since the NPHC and NPC have some differences in recruitment/intake styles, I just wanted to better understand how this process works. Any feedback would be appreciated.

In Greek Unity-
Thebgirl

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally posted by The B Girl
Hello all-
I saw this thread and was AMAZED by the thought process of some of the "interests" that want to join your organizations. Obviously, there are those that totally go about it in the wrong fashion, but here was the question that I have:

In the NPC we have recruitment (formal or informal), and a lady can just show up without knowing anything or anyone about the organization and possibly get a bid. Let's say Susie Sophomore is interested in joining a particular NPHC organization, and peruses the website of the said group. The website says that in order to be given an invitation to become part of intake, interested ladies must attend the Rush event. Now she doesn't know any of the members, or is aware that she could attend their events beforehand. However, she has a good GPA, has done some community service (on her own) and carries herself well. She attends the Rush event. Would she be looked down upon (and possibly not given an invite) because she didn't know any of the members, and had not previously attended their events?

Since the NPHC and NPC have some differences in recruitment/intake styles, I just wanted to better understand how this process works. Any feedback would be appreciated.

In Greek Unity-
Thebgirl

Thebgirl,
I will be back to answer this

[The B Girl]

Thanks NinjaPoodle!

[NinjaPoodle]

Hey B Girl,

I didn't forget about you.

I found a couple of threads which address your question. There is a lot of good info so I didnt want to be redundant.

NPHC "Rush"

"But why are the NPHC's so Different?"
If these don't answer your question(s) Hit me up with a pm

NP

[SeriousSigma22]

Ninjapoodle,

I knew that you could do it! I'm just a little tired to answer this question that been asked so many times by others.

Serioussigma22