Recommendation Caution to PNM's

[FSUZeta]

several sororities require a recommendation for a pnm(potential new member,aka rushee) before they can pledge a girl. zta does.i will leave it to other alumnae to say whether their sorority does or does not.

there have also been several threads this year about some sororities on some campuses having to release large numbers of girls, due to the high percentage of girls wanting to return to those chapters. especially on the first day of recruitment, not having a recommendation on a girl might be an easy reason not to keep a girl on the invitation list. so would a gpa lower than the chapters minimum required gpa. you can't change your gpa, but you can obtain recs.

most panhellenic websites that discuss recommendations will state that "it is the sororities obligation to obtain a recommendation on a pnm, if it is required." if it is a popular house, on a large campus with lots of girls participating in recruitment, the sorority may already have so many candidates that DO have a recommendation, that it would take a very special person for the sorority to work real hard to find a rec for her.

if you know that girls rushing on your campus usually have recommendations, then i would suggest that you get as many as you can. not just to the houses you THINK you are interested in-your interests might change during the week, and your #1 choice before recruitment began, might not remain your favorite. why shoot yourself in the foot, when you can maximize your chances? a recommendation will not guarantee you a bid, but it MAY get you invited back to the next party.

if you know that recommendations are rare on your campus, then it would not be such a big deal.

[CuriousWildcat]

I totally understand. The only problem is that I don't know anyone else who is rushing/has rushed/has been in a sorority so I don't know whether or not recs are a big deal on my camus or not...

[greekalum]

Are you an AZ Wildcat? A rec would be a BIG help if you want one of their top houses.

[CuriousWildcat]

I am going to University of Kentucky

[asa06091987]

maybe its because i go to school in southern ny... we don't need recs...

[SWTXBelle]

Some national/international headquarters require recs, even if the local panhellenic culture doesn't. As has been said before, they are always a good idea. Far better to have them, and not need them, than to need them, and not have them.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Some national/international headquarters require recs, even if the local panhellenic culture doesn't. As has been said before, they are always a good idea. Far better to have them, and not need them, than to need them, and not have them.

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

[deadbear80]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

In some organizations, undergrad members can write recs. Your chapter may have secured a rec for you through someone you already knew in the chapter without your knowledge of her doing so.
I also know that some chapters will contact Alumnae Panhellenic chapters when the list of registered girls comes out (especially when recruitment is deferred) to try to get recs that way. So you just never know...

[honeychile]

In today's church bulletin, there was a blurb about a young woman about to attend an SEC school this fall. She was bright enough to mention that she was hoping to join a sorority, and if any of the church ladies would like to help her, she would be most grateful.

Now, this is my mother's church - about 150 members. I know of 6 recs she could get from this one church, and I think she's very smart doing this prior to the Mother Daughter Banquet. Whether this would work in a really large church, I don't know. But I think it's worth a try, especially for someone NOT in the South, but planning to attend an SEC school.

[SoCalGirl]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

I've written recs for NMs after meeting them. They had no idea.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

We have the same policy. When we have a new member that doesn't have a rec we look for an alum in her hometown/area who would be willing to write one. If that isn't possible then one of our advisors will make a point of spending time with the NM and then write her rec. Honestly I doubt the NM knows any of this. It might embarrass her to find out that she was the only one in her whole NM class who didn't have a rec.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

Delta Gamma's Executive Offices keeps a little form on each pledge/new member. I've seen mine, and it listed my sponsor (and I wrote a note to thank her!). Maybe Sigma Kappa has a similar arrangement.

[Kitemom]

My daughter grandmother was able to secure several recs for her. "Of couse they would be happy to help and by the way so and so can write one also." My daughter delivered a package of resume and photo's to one of my mothers friends who told her don't worry I'll get recs written for you.

[sororitygirl007]

i wanna start a sorority for my highschool friends and our fellow classmates. we need help on making up a greek name that signifies beauty wealth (?) strong character. we would also need help on some ideas on what we can do to make it a good sorority. please help we need ideas on good tradicions, good fun pledge ideas, things that we could to do on a weekly basis. please any information would help :] thanks
tiffany

[SWTXBelle]

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Okay, enough fun. I'm against high school sororities. How about a National Charity League chapter? Or any one of a number of wonderful organizations for high school aged women? www.nationalcharityleague.org