Dating Men or Women with Children

XOMichelle · #1 03-17-2004, 04:50 PM

Would you date a man or woman with a child? Why or why not?

James · #2 03-17-2004, 05:15 PM

I wouldn't date someone I was on and off with. Breaking up and going back out does not make a relationship stronger. It always makes it weaker. In fact sometimes those relationships can last forever because the strength of the emotions have been weakened. I see a lot of people do that.

I wouldn't necessarily eliminate soemone i liked just because they had a kid. I might not want to meet them if I knew they had a kid in advance. And I have no idea whether I would marry someone with a kid, I have never been in that position. However, I don't like the idea.

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
Ok, fo my boyfriend is divorced and has a 3 year old little girl (she's adorable). We've been on and off for a year and a half. Just when I think I've gotten over the child/ ex-wife factor, it creeps back into my mind, and I start thinking if I should break up with him or keep it going. I like him a lot, and he is one of the nicest cutest men I know, but I really really really don't want to be a stepmom. While marriage is a huge leap from where we are now (neither of us want to get married soon), I keep thinking, what's the point?

Would you date a man or woman with a child? Why or why not?

Lady Pi Phi · #3 03-17-2004, 05:18 PM

I think there's another thread like this, but I am too lazy to look for it.

Anyway, I would not date someone who already had a child.
His first and foremost responisbility his to his child. Even if he doesn't have sole custody. He has to put the childs needs a head of mine. So if that means he has to stay home to look after his child because it's his turn or he can't find a babysitter. Or if there are emergancies and he has to leave in the middle of a date. I don't think right now (at my age) I could deal with that.
Also, if there was drama with the baby's mama I do not want to be a part of that or get caught in the middle.

Now if I had kids of my own, I would date someone who already had kids.

valkyrie · #4 03-17-2004, 05:37 PM

I'm pretty sure there was another thread, but I'll answer anyway -- no, never, not a chance. I don't ever want to have kids nor do I want to deal with anyone else's kids or the drama that goes with them.

deuika · #5 03-17-2004, 07:04 PM

I don't date people with children under any circumstances. I have this theory about people who have sex out of wedlock, so seeing as I have this theory dating someone who has kids would be hypocritical.

damasa · #6 03-17-2004, 07:05 PM

Why not? At least you know they smash...

Cluey · #7 03-17-2004, 07:14 PM

Go right on ahead and hate me if you would like to, but I refuse to date someone who has a child, let alone 2 or more children.

I'm not sold on the idea of children right now. When I get older, maybe that whole maternal thing will kick in, but I don't want to be put in that situation from day one of knowing someone.

Feel free to label me high maintenance

PM_Mama00 · #8 03-17-2004, 07:47 PM

The asshole I'm in love with right now has a 6 year old child. Bah. But he's such a cutie.

Sister Havana · #9 03-17-2004, 08:40 PM

No, I won't. I don't want any children of my own, and I certainly don't want anyone else's. Sounds harsh but it is true.

deuika · #10 03-17-2004, 09:39 PM

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Originally posted by damasa
Why not? At least you know they smash...

Yeah that's kinda the problem.

Steeltrap · #11 03-17-2004, 09:51 PM

Because of my age, I probably will be dating men with children. Very few guys in their 40s and 50s don't have kids. I want one child of my own, and could deal with a guy with one or two kids.

James · #12 03-17-2004, 10:44 PM

No but I may Label you a future That-Woman-With-Lots-Of-Cats . . ..

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Originally posted by Cluey
Go right on ahead and hate me if you would like to, but I refuse to date someone who has a child, let alone 2 or more children.

I'm not sold on the idea of children right now. When I get older, maybe that whole maternal thing will kick in, but I don't want to be put in that situation from day one of knowing someone.

Feel free to label me high maintenance

James · #13 03-17-2004, 10:45 PM

Stteltrap . . . 25 years old is hardly old . . ..

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Originally posted by Steeltrap
Because of my age, I probably will be dating men with children. Very few guys in their 40s and 50s don't have kids. I want one child of my own, and could deal with a guy with one or two kids.

#14 03-17-2004, 11:27 PM

Boy you all don't hold back now on us single and divorced parents in the dating field. I mean come on were not ( or should say ) the majority of us are not looking for a replacment parent for our kids we just want to date too.. label us with the plague ! sheeesh!

damasa · #15 03-17-2004, 11:34 PM

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Originally posted by deuika
Yeah that's kinda the problem.

=problem for you maybe.
=awww yea for me!