Dating Men or Women with Children
 

Would you date a man or woman with a child? Why or why not?

Re: Dating Men or Women with Children
 

I wouldn't date someone I was on and off with. Breaking up and going back out does not make a relationship stronger. It always makes it weaker. In fact sometimes those relationships can last forever because the strength of the emotions have been weakened. I see a lot of people do that.

I wouldn't necessarily eliminate soemone i liked just because they had a kid. I might not want to meet them if I knew they had a kid in advance. And I have no idea whether I would marry someone with a kid, I have never been in that position. However, I don't like the idea.

I think there's another thread like this, but I am too lazy to look for it.

Anyway, I would not date someone who already had a child.
His first and foremost responisbility his to his child. Even if he doesn't have sole custody. He has to put the childs needs a head of mine. So if that means he has to stay home to look after his child because it's his turn or he can't find a babysitter. Or if there are emergancies and he has to leave in the middle of a date. I don't think right now (at my age) I could deal with that.
Also, if there was drama with the baby's mama I do not want to be a part of that or get caught in the middle.

Now if I had kids of my own, I would date someone who already had kids.

I'm pretty sure there was another thread, but I'll answer anyway -- no, never, not a chance. I don't ever want to have kids nor do I want to deal with anyone else's kids or the drama that goes with them.

I don't date people with children under any circumstances. I have this theory about people who have sex out of wedlock, so seeing as I have this theory dating someone who has kids would be hypocritical.

Why not? At least you know they smash...

Go right on ahead and hate me if you would like to, but I refuse to date someone who has a child, let alone 2 or more children.

I'm not sold on the idea of children right now. When I get older, maybe that whole maternal thing will kick in, but I don't want to be put in that situation from day one of knowing someone.

Feel free to label me high maintenance ;)

No, I won't. I don't want any children of my own, and I certainly don't want anyone else's. Sounds harsh but it is true.

Yeah that's kinda the problem.

Speaking from a nearly 40-something perspective
 

Because of my age, I probably will be dating men with children. Very few guys in their 40s and 50s don't have kids. I want one child of my own, and could deal with a guy with one or two kids.

No but I may Label you a future That-Woman-With-Lots-Of-Cats . . .. :)

Re: Speaking from a nearly 40-something perspective
 

Stteltrap . . . 25 years old is hardly old . . ..;)

Boy you all don't hold back now on us single and divorced parents in the dating field. I mean come on were not ( or should say ) the majority of us are not looking for a replacment parent for our kids we just want to date too.. label us with the plague ! sheeesh!

=problem for you maybe.
=awww yea for me!