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Originally posted by Taualumna
I'm 24, and I know from guy friends, who are in their mid 30s, that their moms are beginning to wonder why they aren't married.
I guess they don't want kids either. Let's say this guy marries at 45. He and his wife have kids a couple of years later, when he's 47. At 47, it's quite possible for a guy to begin to have health problems. The little boy/girl that they have may not necessarily have the same experiences growing up as the kid with a 30-something dad. He'll be 65 years old when the kid graduates high school and 69 when the kid receives his/her bachelors. He may not even live to see his kid marry. I just don't think it's all that good to marry too late.
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I think your guy friends' moms need to step out of Pleasantville and realize plenty of people get married later in life or - gasp! - don't get married at all.
You can be a dad at 25 and in piss-poor health and die at 30...you can be a dad at 50 and the picture of vitality and live to see your kid's grandkids!! My company's chairman is, I think, around 55. He looks much younger, and if he came in tomorrow and said he was having a new baby, I don't think anyone would be overly shocked.
Even if the dad can't play baseball with his kid - so freaking what??? He can cheer him on, or he can appreciate that sports/athletics might not be something the kid wants to do. The role of a father is to love and support the child - saying you can't be a good father if you are physically not in top shape is a really, really, really messed up view of what a dad should be.
We had a similar debate on older moms but I can't find it (does anyone remember moving that thread? If so where is it? kthanx). At any rate, remember the phrase "marry in haste, repent at leisure"? It definitely applies here.
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