I guess I would rather have someone say "we think you were too fat for our chapter" than to let my imagination run wild. When things are shrouded in mystery, they seem so much more sinister.
I have another question though. A girl in a sorority once told me about rush and getting a bid: "150 girls know where you belong better than you do"
What is up with that? I understand that the members may know the dynamics of the chapter better than the rushee, but if a rushee feels comfortable somewhere, she shouldn't question it because others think so. That statement seems to remove a lot of the choices of the rushee. Its not mutual selection if the houses have that opinion
[This message has been edited by juniorgrrl (edited July 04, 2001).]